Friend Envy

slimmerdownxo

Is anybody else dealing with serious friend envy?
A friend that looks exactly how you wish you could look,
but does nothing even remotely healthy to maintain their weight..

My best friend is tiny and eats nothing but fast food and doesn't exercise
in the least. The intense jealousy I feel is really starting to take a toll on our friendship.

Anyone else like me out there?

LukiesMommy

Same here!! My BFF is also tiny. All I have to do is look at some fries and I gain 5lbs. It's so frustrating that she can eat whatever she wants and gains no weight. I feel your pain!

SoViLicious

Nope

jwdieter

Just remember you don't see everything they eat, or everything they do.

jaymie_x0

my best friend is also tiny & can eat whatever she wants...i don't envy her, though. she supports my healthy habits & weight loss 100% and is always there to cheer me on! Personally....even if i "could" eat fast food & junk and not gain weight..i wouldn't do it all the time because being healthy is whats important to me.. losing the weight is just the perk of changing my lifestyle!

Barbellerella

I used to. But then I took a big girl pill and realized the grass is not always greener. Things aren't always the way they seem.

kmash32

Both of you are fairly young, believe me it will catch up with your friends. Especially if they haven't had kids yet, and then they will come looking to you for advise.

thesupremeforce

Nope

Agreed.

Factory_Reset

*looks down*

Yup, I have my big girl panties on.

I'm good

*leaves*

jmc0806

I used to. But then I took a big girl pill and realized the grass is not always greener. Things aren't always the way they seem.

thank you for making this song pop in my head...

"So why, oh why
Do I look to the other side
'Cause I know the grass is greener but
Just as hard to mow"

Zaniejane

I've heard people say that about me with an "it's not fair" comment attached. It's not true at all. I can gain twenty pounds in a minute if I don't watch what I eat. (When I say a minute, I really mean a few months.)

whierd

Nope.

Barbellerella

I used to. But then I took a big girl pill and realized the grass is not always greener. Things aren't always the way they seem.

thank you for making this song pop in my head...

"So why, oh why
Do I look to the other side
'Cause I know the grass is greener but
Just as hard to mow"

yeah never heard it.

pastryari

Nah. I usually just skin them and wear their skin as a body suit and it makes me feel much better.

lilbearzmom

Nah. I usually just skin them and wear their skin as a body suit and it makes me feel much better.

:laugh:

jmc0806

I used to. But then I took a big girl pill and realized the grass is not always greener. Things aren't always the way they seem.

thank you for making this song pop in my head...

"So why, oh why
Do I look to the other side
'Cause I know the grass is greener but
Just as hard to mow"

yeah never heard it.

haha I didn't expect you too. Just glad it popped into my head from what you said

jennifer_255

no im not jealous because im the one losing the weight not them luckily i have fitnesspal friends for support as the smaller i get the less support i seem to be getting oh well i still will talk about it im proud of myself few months ago i was the big one now im a size smaller

silken555

Nope...I just enjoy my friends' varied beauty...:)

I had a 20" waist and a 6-pack until I hit 22 years old. Puberty suddenly hit it seems as I grew 3/4" on top of gaining 40lbs in 6 months or so. My hips chest and shoulders also curved out and I went from straight to curvy.

Strangely enough I prefer my curves and I'm on my journey because I need to be healthier.

Slim does not equal beautiful nor does it equal healthy. Concentrate on your friend's personality and you'll see that what she puts in her mouth just doesn't matter.

Good luck to you both!

maycontainjane

200% feel you.

I love love love my best friend but I'm often jealous of her. She has a close-to-perfect body that, if she ate just a little healthier and worked out on the level that I do, would be model-esque.

On the other hand, I'm all wide and thunder-thigh-y despite (mostly) watching what I eat and working out hard 6-7 times a week.

But you gotta look at the positives. I can run four miles, I can do 20 push-ups, I do hundreds of squats. And my friend, god love her, can't do any of that. It doesn't matter to her, so more power to her, but it matters to me and I'm proud of where I am.

Chin up, you're still beautiful and strong! There's more to life than eating junk food and sitting on your booty c:

rockinabs3479

most my friends envy me, sorry can't help ya.:happy:

_AllieCat_

Just remember you don't see everything they eat, or everything they do.

This.

AlongCame_Molly

I used to BE that friend. Guess what, it caught up to me and I got real fat, real quick. Still paying for it, now.

In a few years she will be jealous of you, because you will have learned to lose and keep off weight, while she will have no idea how to take care of herself and will be forced to start at square one.

MyaPapaya75

No I made my bed now I have to lie in it....my thin friends were either just lucky or didnt indulge as much as I did. I don't expect anyone to be jealous of me when I reach my goal either..I just want them to look at me and say "Wow" and mean it..

bluefox9er

no..i am in awe of my friends and they are a source of inspiration to me

Alpina483

She might have weight issues later in life.. let's hope not, but it's possible... and by that time you are already in shape AND an expert in dealing with the issues. Who's envious then?

PepePants

There will always be people who appear to "have it all" through little to no effort. But, if she really eats junk food then she's probably not all that healthy and her insides might not look so great...Better to focus on yourself.

Britterboo22

I think its the other way around for my bestie although she says she has started dieting but as mentioned I don't see what she eats or does.

Melissa22G

Nah. I usually just skin them and wear their skin as a body suit and it makes me feel much better.

calibriintx

I used to. But then I took a big girl pill and realized the grass is not always greener. Things aren't always the way they seem.

^This right here. I felt that way as a kid, probably through high school. My "fit" friends worked hard for it, so I wasn't really jealous of them, with one exception. She had a rockin hot body and she ate SO MUCH FOOD. Soda for breakfast, a personal pizza and a burger at lunch, chips, candy bars, etc. in between.

Anyway, years later I realized that her mom was a total psycho. This friend didn't appear to exercise and she ate a ton, but it was b/c her mom made her work out like a maniac and restricted her food, so she stuffed her face whenever she left the house.

You can wish in one hand and sh1t in the other and see which one fills up faster. Seriously, you have your body, your genetics, your metabolism, and you have to figure out what to do with it. I'm not trying to sound mean - it's just something you have to accept, because being jealous about it won't change your body, but it will change your life. It'll start with this friendship and cascade in other areas of your life.


*I also want to point out that I thought this was going to be a thread about MFP FL envy. I was all ready to pour my heart out.:grumble:

quiltlovinlisa

Nah.

Life's too short to waste on envy. We all have different talents, different strengths, gifts if you will. I may struggle with my weight but I have some mad color/design skills that my friends can't match.

Embrace who you are. You'll be happier.

bootsiejayne

No. My sister is my "ideal" weight. But I'm the much happier person. Go figure. I think it's 'cause I have better boobs. Happy and confident is more attractive than a good body with a poor self image.