My boss - Im torn
Ironandwine69
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I was wearing a short sleeve shirt today. I lifted my arms to put my hair in a ponytail.
My boss ( female in her 30s) says" Oh, you're way too muscular. I just want to tone, I think I will start doing 10k steps a day".
Now the question is do I go to HR for muscle discrimination or her using the word "tone"? I'm torn.
My boss ( female in her 30s) says" Oh, you're way too muscular. I just want to tone, I think I will start doing 10k steps a day".
Now the question is do I go to HR for muscle discrimination or her using the word "tone"? I'm torn.
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Tone down your indignation by going to the gym to get ripped instead of being torn?
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you shoulda just looked her up and down, then said "honey, it's gonna take a lot more than 10k steps a day"16 -
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BedsideTableKangaroo wrote: »you shoulda just looked her up and down, then said "honey, it's gonna take a lot more than 10k steps a day"
You mean like 12k?3 -
Ironandwine69 wrote: »BedsideTableKangaroo wrote: »you shoulda just looked her up and down, then said "honey, it's gonna take a lot more than 10k steps a day"
You mean like 12k?
in my expert opinion, even without seeing pics, i would suggest no lower than 12.5k.2 -
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My employer made me cut off my ponytail. You should be grateful that you are afforded such liberties.
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Definitely file a complaint with HR. Give companies another reason to transfer jobs overseas where they're not constantly being sued for silly stuff like this4
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I'm thinking she was likely making conversation on a personal level and thinking it was ok. If it wasn't then just say so. But I am wondering - were you actually indignant, slightly amused or somewhere in between? Sounded like a compliment from a thousand miles away... => Revel in your gorgeousness, they can't take that away.3
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SomebodyWakeUpHIcks wrote: »Definitely file a complaint with HR. Give companies another reason to transfer jobs overseas where they're not constantly being sued for silly stuff like this
So you're saying I might have a case?0 -
ClubSilencio wrote: »My employer made me cut off my ponytail. You should be grateful that you are afforded such liberties.
We get lunch break too!!
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Avocado_Angel wrote: »Your main problem - she's your boss.
I would start angling at a way to take her job, that'll show her
So I should start going on walks with her and tone too?0 -
raleighgirl09 wrote: »I'm thinking she was likely making conversation on a personal level and thinking it was ok. If it wasn't then just say so. But I am wondering - were you actually indignant, slightly amused or somewhere in between? Sounded like a compliment from a thousand miles away... => Revel in your gorgeousness, they can't take that away.
I actually love my boss. We go to lunch together etc. I think her plan is to get me fat too, but that's a totally different issue. She is just very ignorant when it comes to fitness and nutrition.0 -
Congrats on being ripped.
And maybe her comment seems silly, but I think it's lame to make fun of people who want to be active, even if they're not as badass as you.8 -
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Ironandwine69 wrote: »raleighgirl09 wrote: »I'm thinking she was likely making conversation on a personal level and thinking it was ok. If it wasn't then just say so. But I am wondering - were you actually indignant, slightly amused or somewhere in between? Sounded like a compliment from a thousand miles away... => Revel in your gorgeousness, they can't take that away.
I think her plan is to get me fat too, but that's a totally different issue.
do y'all often travel together for work? she might be worried of plane crashes in hard-to-reach, mountainous locations in winter.
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Avocado_AS5 wrote: »Congrats on being ripped.
And maybe her comment seems silly, but I think it's lame to make fun of people who want to be active, even if they're not as badass as you.
I told her I was gonna report her to the toning police for thinking that walking will tone her. She didn't think it was lame, she thought it was funny. She agreed on taking my advice and starting working out. Every opportunity is an opportunity to learn.6 -
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Avocado_AS5 wrote: »Congrats on being ripped.
And maybe her comment seems silly, but I think it's lame to make fun of people who want to be active, even if they're not as badass as you.
On a serious note though, it feels as ripped people ( I don't consider myself ripped by the way) should be sensitive about what they say around people that are just starting( or not)..but somehow it's better calling people too thin, skinny, muscular, meathead etc( when it's not meant as a compliment).
Like you'd never go and say "damn girl you are getting too fat",but you can say " oh you're getting skinny".1 -
wait for her in the parking lot after work.
when she exits the building, square off
as she's laying in the parking lot, stand over her and ask: "Who's Toned Now?"
btw: Never, *kitten* ever run to HR. It makes you look like a puss.6 -
abitoftrouble wrote: »I would just flap one of her bingo wings and say "is this what we are calling toned these days?"
Haha1 -
BedsideTableKangaroo wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »raleighgirl09 wrote: »I'm thinking she was likely making conversation on a personal level and thinking it was ok. If it wasn't then just say so. But I am wondering - were you actually indignant, slightly amused or somewhere in between? Sounded like a compliment from a thousand miles away... => Revel in your gorgeousness, they can't take that away.
I think her plan is to get me fat too, but that's a totally different issue.
do y'all often travel together for work? she might be worried of plane crashes in hard-to-reach, mountainous locations in winter.
Are you saying my boss wants to eat me?1 -
I want to evaluate your levels now post a full length selfie!!0
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Ironandwine69 wrote: »BedsideTableKangaroo wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »raleighgirl09 wrote: »I'm thinking she was likely making conversation on a personal level and thinking it was ok. If it wasn't then just say so. But I am wondering - were you actually indignant, slightly amused or somewhere in between? Sounded like a compliment from a thousand miles away... => Revel in your gorgeousness, they can't take that away.
I think her plan is to get me fat too, but that's a totally different issue.
do y'all often travel together for work? she might be worried of plane crashes in hard-to-reach, mountainous locations in winter.
Are you saying my boss wants to eat me?
could you blame her?3 -
your boss is jealous, I'd be stoked that she is taking that much notice2
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bigmuneymfp wrote: »I want to evaluate your levels now post a full length selfie!!
Yes sir. This is the bicep in question.
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dylans1789 wrote: »your boss is jealous, I'd be stoked that she is taking that much notice
Actually no, I don't think she is jealous. There's alot of people that don't like the muscular look in women. And that's fine. It's not for everyone. When I started listing around ten years ago I was almost the only woman at the weight room with the guys( I'm sure other women lifted, but didn't happen to be lifting at the same time). Now it's filled with women, and I love it. We are growing and accepting women being muscular.3 -
Ironandwine69 wrote: »bigmuneymfp wrote: »I want to evaluate your levels now post a full length selfie!!
Yes sir. This is the bicep in question.
I approve!!!1 -
Motorsheen wrote: »wait for her in the parking lot after work.
when she exits the building, square off
as she's laying in the parking lot, stand over her and ask: "Who's Toned Now?"
btw: Never, *kitten* ever run to HR. It makes you look like a puss.
In the spirit of Star Wars, you sir, are Yoda.2 -
Gimsteinn1 wrote: »I didn't read all the thread but here's my 5 cents
She was pulling a passive aggressive move
She just fit shamed you
I know you're confident but I think that belongs at HR.. Specially comming from a boss.
didn't you see my note?
never, ever run to HR with any work related issues.
it's always best to take that *kitten* outside5
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