Finding time to Exersice--need to vent!

jbwegner

he's definitely not being supportive!

bashing him on the internet isn't particularly cool either imo.

If you look back at the original post, she never bashed her hubby, just asked for advice concerning the situation. All of us have been bashing him. And sometimes it takes something like this to open someone's eyes.

I get it....sometimes you need to vent!

glfprncs2

Amen! And what does THIS mean? I keep seeing it everywhere, and at first I thought people were forgetting to type the rest of the sentence...

The THIS means that I've agreed to the quote from the above poster that I included in the message. It's pretty much the same as your amen... : )

ron2282

I agree with pretty much all the above posts and I’ll share with you my experience and the change that took place in my marriage when I made the decision to get healthier. There was definitely an adjustment period when I started to work out. I went from sleeping in to getting up three times a week at 5am to go for a jog and instead of starting dinner immediately after getting home from work I put in an exercise DVD first. At first he complained that when the alarm went off so early he couldn’t go back to sleep then he complained that he was hungry when he got home and didn’t want to wait so long for dinner. In his defense, he didn’t really think that I was going to sick with it because I never have in the past. I said countless times that I was going to get healthier and two days later I was back to laying on the sofa with a bowl of ice cream. I explained to him how important it was to me to get healthier and that I really needed his support in this. Thankfully I married a great man and that was all he needed to hear. It also helped when I told him that on days I workout I have more energy for “other activities”.

These are our compromises, maybe this might work for you and your husband. I'll tell him the night before if I’m going to get up early for a jog, if I am he'll sleep with ear plugs so the alarm won’t wake him. When I get back to the house I wake him up for work. On days that I work the early shift I’ll workout to a DVD when I get home. On days I have to work until later I start dinner right away, but after dinner he will either go on a walk with me or he’ll give me some space and time to put in a DVD. (I do NOT want him cooking – the house would burn down). I haven’t had any problems since them; in fact yesterday he told me how proud he was of all the progress I’m making and that I’m sticking with it.

Maybe if you explain to him how important this is to you his attitude might change. Keep up posted and best of luck!!!

ltlemermaid

Thanks for sharing your experience ron2282 it really gave me ideas to bring up to him especially the ear plugs. He always jokes that he will burn the house down if he cooks in the kitchen so he stays out of it. I wouldn't mind if he cooked some of the time he just doesn't want to or doesn't want to learn so I don't push it since he wouldn't enjoy it anyway.

Since I have been eating and cooking healthier he has noticed positive change in his weight too along with mine and is proud of it. He never exercises and doesn't think he needs to. I don't think it helps knowing that I lost a lot of weight in the past with only counting calories and no exercise, but I miss running (and I want to start participating in 5K races) and working out and that is one change in my life that I want to make and keep.

LotusF1ower

he's definitely not being supportive!

bashing him on the internet isn't particularly cool either imo.

Well if he minds, he should get up off his butt and help her out then or at least give her some leeway when she wants some time to herself to do her workouts.

pah I am going to punch the door! :explode:

LotusF1ower

he's definitely not being supportive!

bashing him on the internet isn't particularly cool either imo.

Well if he minds, he should get up off his butt and help her out then or at least give her some leeway when she wants some time to herself to do her workouts.

pah I am going to punch the door! :explode:

ltlemermaid

Thanks for everyone's support and advice.

Update:
I talked to hubby but he's stuborn (so am I) he doesn't want to compromise at all...He wants me to work out and insists that I run at the Y instead of outside if I can't do it at night etc. We didn't have these issues until I started running outside--the Y was never the problem.

Since our useless talk I started making dinners ahead of time on the weekends in the crockpot--so far this week its been very helpful, and reheating them or setting them on the counter and having him reheat his dinner. This seems to work. I usually run around 8pm its still light out and its cooler too than at 7pm- I can eat after my run (just have a small snack before it) or if I'm home earlier eat dinner, wait an hour and then go for my run outside and be back home before it gets dark.

So on my run days this is what I will be doing to make it work. Oh and he hasn't complained about the extra time I spend in the kitched on the weekends--hope that stays the same and I can continue to do this.

thanks again...