Asking someone out at the gym or getting him to ask me??
Ok so there is a good looking guy about my age in the gym. I run into him about three times a week. He is nice always says hi and asks me how the workout is going. He is clearly friends with two of the trainers and has at times left conversations with them to come over and say hi.
In a bar I know what I would do to either ask him out or get him to ask me out. But in the gym where honestly I look sweaty and red faced not sexy and where it is technically not a pick up place how do you either get a man to ask you out or ask him out without violating the gym etiquette?
In a bar I know what I would do to either ask him out or get him to ask me out. But in the gym where honestly I look sweaty and red faced not sexy and where it is technically not a pick up place how do you either get a man to ask you out or ask him out without violating the gym etiquette?
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No gym etiquette, just talk to him and BS and then mention hey sometime we should get together for drinks or a walk in the park.6
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Make sure to show some cleavage, that always helps.6
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You're over thinking it. You're already at an advantage because you guys are familiar with each other. All you have to do ask. There's no secret to it.4
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Show him how good your hip thrusts are.13
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No gym etiquette, just talk to him and BS and then mention hey sometime we should get together for drinks.
I would word it like this, then leave it up to him to say when or where. This way you're not exactly asking him but suggesting it. He'll know you're interested and then it's on him what he does with that. If he want's to he'll make it happen.8 -
Ask him to spot you when your doing bumbell fly's on the bench!0
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*takes notes*2
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Have actual conversation beyond saying hi. Like about what you both do outside the gym.
See where that goes.2 -
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Post a selfie and we'll tell you what you should do2
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There should be a dislike button4
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2nd ^0
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Motorsheen wrote: »
Then she has to pick you up, bring a bouquet of flowers, open the door for you, take you to an eatery, pull your chair back, get you tipsy, pay the bill for cocktails and dinner, drive you home, try to feel you up a little in the car without making it too obvious and then walk you to the door and tell you how lovely you are and we'll be doing this again soon I hope.
Of course you'd love it.
would I have to get my hair and nails done and buy a new outfit for the evening?
If so.... count me out3 -
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Motorsheen wrote: »
You'd have to tell the girl no and that you are married. Then she would feel foolish and maybe be embarrassed to see you in the gym in the future. She stops going to the gym, she eats her feelings, she gains 300lbs and becomes diabetic and a hermit because she is ashamed. She adopts cats. Lots of cats. They are her only friends and she talks to them and tells them the story about the guy who killed her soul at the gym one day....
Is this how you want the story to end????
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My very first thought, every place is a 'pickup' place, not just bars..
If you have skills you use in a bar as you stated "I know what I would do to either ask him out or get him to ask me out", use this.
I think if someone is not married and available you will know it, OR they can be married and still available, you never can tell these days..1 -
My very first thought, every place is a 'pickup' place, not just bars..
If you have skills you use in a bar as you stated "I know what I would do to either ask him out or get him to ask me out", use this.
I think if someone is not married and available you will know it, OR they can be married and still available, you never can tell these days..
Could be married looking for a third...2 -
browneyedgirl749 wrote: »My very first thought, every place is a 'pickup' place, not just bars..
If you have skills you use in a bar as you stated "I know what I would do to either ask him out or get him to ask me out", use this.
I think if someone is not married and available you will know it, OR they can be married and still available, you never can tell these days..
Could be married looking for a third...
true too! lol0 -
Motorsheen wrote: »
You'd have to tell the girl no and that you are married. Then she would feel foolish and maybe be embarrassed to see you in the gym in the future. She stops going to the gym, she eats her feelings, she gains 300lbs and becomes diabetic and a hermit because she is ashamed. She adopts cats. Lots of cats. They are her only friends and she talks to them and tells them the story about the guy who killed her soul at the gym one day....
Is this how you want the story to end????
This is exactly what I would do
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Motorsheen wrote: »
You'd have to tell the girl no and that you are married. Then she would feel foolish and maybe be embarrassed to see you in the gym in the future. She stops going to the gym, she eats her feelings, she gains 300lbs and becomes diabetic and a hermit because she is ashamed. She adopts cats. Lots of cats. They are her only friends and she talks to them and tells them the story about the guy who killed her soul at the gym one day....
Is this how you want the story to end????
I dunno.
.... exactly how many cats are we talking about?0 -
Watch him while he is doing curls...when he catches you (which he will), look away really fast like you didn't want to get caught.
I accidentally made a guy fall in love with me this way.1 -
Try and leave at the same time as him and then make a casual comment about your workout and how you're craving a coffee/ice cream and where would he suggest, you could go as far as ask what's his plans for the evening : all you're doing is making casual conversation but it's giving him an opportunity to invite himself, just 2 people with a mutual interest having a coffee, not a 'date'.4
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Fyi I do know guy is divorced and ex lives in different state.0
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Motorsheen wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »
You'd have to tell the girl no and that you are married. Then she would feel foolish and maybe be embarrassed to see you in the gym in the future. She stops going to the gym, she eats her feelings, she gains 300lbs and becomes diabetic and a hermit because she is ashamed. She adopts cats. Lots of cats. They are her only friends and she talks to them and tells them the story about the guy who killed her soul at the gym one day....
Is this how you want the story to end????
I dunno.
.... exactly how many cats are we talking about?
37.5
Stubby only has back legs and she made him a little kitty wheelchair so he can still get around
she made it a kitty wheelchair?
she sounds industrious and caring
I'm fine with how this story played out.2 -
Don't do it. You gonna have to find a new gym if he is a total douche.4
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Ironandwine69 wrote: »Don't do it. You gonna have to find a new gym if he is a total douche.
but, but what if he turns out to be Prince Charming?1 -
Motorsheen wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »Don't do it. You gonna have to find a new gym if he is a total douche.
but, but what if he turns out to be Prince Charming?
And a billionaire?0
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