Your biggest difficulties AFTER losing the weight (Pics)?

timtam163

Thank you for your honesty. At some point you have to ask yourself if you're happy; I don't know how you feel about therapy but after such a big life change I can imagine it'd be a hard psychological adjustment.

I find myself getting cranky without food more often, and I'm colder to strangers, and going to parties sober sucks. I think there's a balance to be had between taking care of yourself and retreating into yourself. Life is meant to be lived beyond appearance; but it's so much better when you find confidence. I just struggle to find that sweet spot.

Anyways this was awesome, thanks for expressing your thoughts so well.

JustRobby1

logiatype wrote: »

Last paragraph really hit home for me. My body has changed and continues to change (and I'm happy with the results) but going through this has altered my personality (maybe permanently). I don't think I'll ever enjoy food in the same way again. Just the guilt of eating above my goal is enough to alter how much I enjoy what I'm eating. People that I used to go out to eat with rarely invite me anymore.

I've always been on the quieter, more aloof side but becoming cold/calculating about what/how much I eat appears to have bled into most other aspects of my life.

OP here and I can relate. Other than the physical change, the dramatic departure of my personality from it's previous norm is what most people notice the most about me. Simply put, I am not the same guy I was a year ago. Not even close. This was not a conscious decision on my part, it just sort of evolved organically.

I am far removed from being the laid-back type, happy to eat, drink, be merry and have endless parties on the weekends. I’ve become a rampant control freak. My old self would not want to be in the same room with the guy I am now. I have no doubt done untold damage to some of the long standing friendships in my life because they were friends with a dude that now only exists in their memory.

Thanks everyone for taking the time to read my post, and I am comforted by the fact that so many of you found certain aspects relatable in your own life.

KimbersNewLife

I totally understand everything you are talking about! You look fantastic and the rest will come. This was a huge change be patient with yourself.

Jza85

looking good brother keep it up!

Sheisinlove109

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phickman07

Very well written and interesting read plus inspiring. I pray I loose a shoe size, then I will be able to get back into my expensive boots, snake skin, etc, several pairs. When I gained weight I gained a shoe size and can't wear any of my boots any more let alone my clothes. I have been hoping I would loose weight in my feet also LOL. Your admission to loosing weight in your feet gave me hope. Thank you for your inspiring article.

SiegfriedXXL

JustRobby1 wrote: »

logiatype wrote: »

Last paragraph really hit home for me. My body has changed and continues to change (and I'm happy with the results) but going through this has altered my personality (maybe permanently). I don't think I'll ever enjoy food in the same way again. Just the guilt of eating above my goal is enough to alter how much I enjoy what I'm eating. People that I used to go out to eat with rarely invite me anymore.

I've always been on the quieter, more aloof side but becoming cold/calculating about what/how much I eat appears to have bled into most other aspects of my life.

OP here and I can relate. Other than the physical change, the dramatic departure of my personality from it's previous norm is what most people notice the most about me. Simply put, I am not the same guy I was a year ago. Not even close. This was not a conscious decision on my part, it just sort of evolved organically.

I am far removed from being the laid-back type, happy to eat, drink, be merry and have endless parties on the weekends. I’ve become a rampant control freak. My old self would not want to be in the same room with the guy I am now. I have no doubt done untold damage to some of the long standing friendships in my life because they were friends with a dude that now only exists in their memory.

Thanks everyone for taking the time to read my post, and I am comforted by the fact that so many of you found certain aspects relatable in your own life.

I can relate to this. People quite literally called me "the jolly big dude." That guy is dead. Now I'm driven, controlling, and not nearly as pleasant. I'm not sure I like the change and it's created a lot of strain in my relationships, including my marriage sometimes. I'm hoping that as I approach my goal and relax somewhat into maintenance that I can be the "jolly dude" minus the fat.

JaneAero

As two people have already said you are an incredible writer you really ought to pursue this as a career or a second money earner not just for the money of course but because you have a way of reaching people and touching them emotionally.
You certainly expressed the hidden side of weight loss rarely discussed and beautifully said, please take up writing or blogging as a career

MajaTheFatKiller

Hi All just wanted to share my transformation

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_yPZjCR7H2UHN-W0XxEnfA

Slowly I'm working on adding more videos and how I not only changed but I'm constantly changing and looking for a healthier lifestyle for me and my Son.

Maxylicious

Dude this is some frigging deep insightful s**t. Amazing that you have such self-awareness. Congratulations on your success and good luck!

JustRobby1

JaneAero wrote: »

As two people have already said you are an incredible writer you really ought to pursue this as a career or a second money earner not just for the money of course but because you have a way of reaching people and touching them emotionally.
You certainly expressed the hidden side of weight loss rarely discussed and beautifully said, please take up writing or blogging as a career

In my day job I am an advertising executive, but I have nothing to do with the creative side of the business other than I see those guys in the lunchroom on occasion. I am basically a glorified bookkeeper. I handle financial matters for our clients, so quarterly budgets, media buys, financing large projects, etc.

I have often considered blogging more seriously, but I am not one of those people that can just churn something out on a whim. I have to be passionate about something for it to motivate my keystrokes. When such a set of circumstances presents itself, writing becomes as easy for me as breathing. Regrettably, those circumstances are often few and far between. I appreciate the compliment nonetheless.

SandraNancy

This post resonated with me-- thank you for writing it.

You're right, there are some sides to losing that come as a surprise, and not always a pleasant one. Mine was not a drastic loss like yours, but it was big to me (20% of my body weight). I had been "chubby" for most of my twenties. I had one particular girlfriend I'd always party with, and when I stopped drinking like it was going out of style, the friendship suffered. I think she took it as a judgement on her when I said I wasn't into the hard drinking and late-night fast food anymore. Friendship is fine now, but back then it was an adjustment.

Hang in there. You won't be the same person you were before, but how happy was that guy at the end of the day? You're a work in progress, and I'm sure you'll evolve into someone amazing.