Well, I'm obese again

goldthistime

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spiriteagle99

SteveMFP123 wrote: »

Now is the time I tend to struggle, from 6pm onwards. I've just had my dinner (literally half the portion compared to last week, and it didn't feel like too little) but I won't make it to bed time without getting the urge to stuff my face with something, hopefully I can resist. I know from experience the first 1-2 weeks is really going to suck, but I'm already thinking about filling in my numbers next month (decided against weekly weigh ins).

Don't just sit around, do something. Go for a walk after dinner. Meet a friend for a cup of coffee. Find a dog that needs some exercise. Go to the gym. Find a class or a group that does things in the evening.

RosieRose7673

SteveMFP123 wrote: »

"ninerbuff wrote:

First and foremost...............are you addressing your depression professionally?

No I'm not, I've thought about seeing the doctor many times but I just never do, I don't really know why. I have what you'd call "situational" depression as opposed to "clinical" depression. There are problems with my life that cause me to be depressed, all of which are fixable, some more easily than others but after so many years I can't even see the light at the end of the tunnel anymore. Losing weight was the only positive thing I've done with my life and I managed to almost undo that. I really should see someone though, I know that, but I've never been good at making the correct choices for myself which is why I'm in such a state now. Being back on the diet has given me something positive to focus on though at least, 4 days back on the horse and I haven't cheated yet.

A psychiatris and therapist can help with your situational depression as well. In fact, it's a very good idea to see them because they can help you with coping mechanisms so that you can handle tough life events in a better manner so that you don't go down this road again in the future.

MrsLannister

RosieRose7673 wrote: »

SteveMFP123 wrote: »

"ninerbuff wrote:

First and foremost...............are you addressing your depression professionally?

No I'm not, I've thought about seeing the doctor many times but I just never do, I don't really know why. I have what you'd call "situational" depression as opposed to "clinical" depression. There are problems with my life that cause me to be depressed, all of which are fixable, some more easily than others but after so many years I can't even see the light at the end of the tunnel anymore. Losing weight was the only positive thing I've done with my life and I managed to almost undo that. I really should see someone though, I know that, but I've never been good at making the correct choices for myself which is why I'm in such a state now. Being back on the diet has given me something positive to focus on though at least, 4 days back on the horse and I haven't cheated yet.

A psychiatris and therapist can help with your situational depression as well. In fact, it's a very good idea to see them because they can help you with coping mechanisms so that you can handle tough life events in a better manner so that you don't go down this road again in the future.

I'd suggest skipping the psychiatrist and try a psychologist first. Psychiatrists just manage drugs doses and don't really help with resolving emotional issues. In my experience, at least.

MegaMooseEsq

SteveMFP123 wrote: »

No I'm not, I've thought about seeing the doctor many times but I just never do, I don't really know why. I have what you'd call "situational" depression as opposed to "clinical" depression. There are problems with my life that cause me to be depressed, all of which are fixable, some more easily than others but after so many years I can't even see the light at the end of the tunnel anymore. Losing weight was the only positive thing I've done with my life and I managed to almost undo that. I really should see someone though, I know that, but I've never been good at making the correct choices for myself which is why I'm in such a state now. Being back on the diet has given me something positive to focus on though at least, 4 days back on the horse and I haven't cheated yet.

Like others, I'd really recommend you get that professional help. I think it's very likely to make working on your weight much easier. I'm not a professional, but it sounds to me like you're downplaying your *very real* depression by calling it situational: if you just had the willpower to fix X, Y, Z (I assume weight is part of that), then the depression will go away. But depression is not that simple. Depression saps your willpower and sucks you into a horrible cycle of apathy and hopelessness. Professionals can help break that cycle. It's hard to take that step, but I think it's absolutely worth it.

mph323

MrsLannister wrote: »

RosieRose7673 wrote: »

SteveMFP123 wrote: »

"ninerbuff wrote:

First and foremost...............are you addressing your depression professionally?

No I'm not, I've thought about seeing the doctor many times but I just never do, I don't really know why. I have what you'd call "situational" depression as opposed to "clinical" depression. There are problems with my life that cause me to be depressed, all of which are fixable, some more easily than others but after so many years I can't even see the light at the end of the tunnel anymore. Losing weight was the only positive thing I've done with my life and I managed to almost undo that. I really should see someone though, I know that, but I've never been good at making the correct choices for myself which is why I'm in such a state now. Being back on the diet has given me something positive to focus on though at least, 4 days back on the horse and I haven't cheated yet.

A psychiatris and therapist can help with your situational depression as well. In fact, it's a very good idea to see them because they can help you with coping mechanisms so that you can handle tough life events in a better manner so that you don't go down this road again in the future.

I'd suggest skipping the psychiatrist and try a psychologist first. Psychiatrists just manage drugs doses and don't really help with resolving emotional issues. In my experience, at least.

This isn't true in my experience. I see a psychiatrist because I need meds to control my symptoms, but our entire visit is spent working on cognitive behavior therapy.