Feeling guilty after small slip ups

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  • tiptoethruthetulips
    tiptoethruthetulips Posts: 3,371 Member
    tdavis1994 wrote: »
    For everyone that had helpful positive things to say, thank you. I am at a huge deficit as it is and I need to remember that. It will take me time to get the weight off and I will learn what's best for me as I go.

    If you are substantially undereating recommended calories for weight loss, it is likely you will eat over your own set calorie allowance again. You body won't be getting the nutrition it needs and you will likely be hungry.
  • tdavis1994
    tdavis1994 Posts: 18 Member
    I am eating enough calories to feel full. I just mean that if I go over 100 calories one day the deficit in big enough that it really won't matter. And I should stop beating myself up about something that is such a small impact and learn from my mistakes

  • lizzy_yak
    lizzy_yak Posts: 9 Member
    It's easy to lose perspective when calorie counting if you overthink it. So try thinking about it another way:

    Bananas are around 120 calories. Are you really going to let 4/5 of a banana dictate how you feel about yourself today? :smile:
  • ezekielsherrard205735
    ezekielsherrard205735 Posts: 42 Member
    It's easy to lose perspective :(t6982y2gd23.jpg
  • sak20011
    sak20011 Posts: 94 Member
    Nope. And I also don't freak out if I'm 200 under. It's the average over time and whether that gets you to your goal that matters. In fact I carry a lot during the week because I will plan for things like giant lobster rolls and fries.
  • earlnabby
    earlnabby Posts: 8,171 Member
    tdavis1994 wrote: »
    I am eating enough calories to feel full. I just mean that if I go over 100 calories one day the deficit in big enough that it really won't matter. And I should stop beating myself up about something that is such a small impact and learn from my mistakes

    THIS !!!!!!!

    The best advice I received when I first started losing was :"You are not making a big change in your life, you are making a series of small changes".

    How this translates to the days I overeat:
    • Was I hungry? Did I NEED to eat extra?
    • Did I eat more than target of something healthy or was it fun food?
    • Was this a one-time thing or am I doing this frequently?

    If you are eating at a deficit on a daily basis, you are doing just fine. A day or two of eating at a smaller deficit (or even maintenance), especially if you were hungry, does not matter in the overall scheme of things. You are LEARNING how to eat better. People who are not overweight also have days where they eat more than they burned that day, they just adjust for it over the next couple of days. You are learning how to eat like that and this is just one lesson in that series of changes. It was NOT a mistake, it is part of the learning process.
  • cerise_noir
    cerise_noir Posts: 5,468 Member
    edited July 2017
    tdavis1994 wrote: »
    Does anyone else feel so guilty after going over there calories? Yesterday I went over by 100 calories and felt extremely guilty when laying in bed last night. Couldn't stop worrying that I had ruined my progress and would fall back into old habits. How do other people deal with this kind of thing?

    If you only went over by 100 calories, then you didn't ruin a damn thing. ;) When you signed up for mfp, you chose to lose a certain amount each week and the amount of calories are deducted from your maintenance calories. Technically you can eat up to your maintenance calories (anywhere from 250-1000) and not gain (or lose less than expected).

    You gain when you go over maintenance (500 over maintenance every day for a week) can lead to a 1lb gain. So your 100 calories isn't going to make much of a difference in the week- you'll lose just a tiny bit less, or it won't really matter. It certainly won't matter in the long run. A drop in the ocean.

    So drop the guilt and shame; it's not doing you any favours.
  • DebLaBounty
    DebLaBounty Posts: 1,169 Member
    I went over calories by about 125 yesterday. The day before, I was under by 54 calories. As much as we try to log accurately, there's some wiggle room in the MFP database. Don't micromanage yourself! It's all within the range of success. You'll find that you are still losing weight, slowly but surely, with these little blips.
  • rickdkitson
    rickdkitson Posts: 86 Member
    Nutrition labels can be off, legally, by up to 20%.

    You simply cannot measure your intake to the nearest 100 calories in a day.

    And if you could that is only 11 grams of body fat, your scale cannot measure that accurately.

    If you are worried, go an additional 100 calories under some day to make up for it.
  • MegaMooseEsq
    MegaMooseEsq Posts: 3,118 Member
    Yeah, I went over maintenance three days in a row as of yesterday. I'll probably be up a lb tomorrow, but I'm still in deficit for the month and I bet I can drop that lb again by the end of the week. It happens. I truly believe that this will only work AND stick if I'm gentle to myself. It took me seven years to gain the 70 lbs I'm hoping to lose and keep off. I'm six months and 18 lbs into it and so long as I'm losing or maintaining, I'm going to call that a success.
  • sczoo26
    sczoo26 Posts: 102 Member
    Everyone has "slip ups" it's the getting back on track is what counts, I think to myself even If I do go over - I'm a lot better than I used to before I started calorie counting.. That kind of perks me up ☺️