Have an adult son that still lives at home, refuses to get a job, has a very serious weight problem.

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  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    ljmorgi wrote: »
    Does OP also have a daughter who's dating an older man who doesn't respect her dad?

    :laugh:
  • JeromeBarry1
    JeromeBarry1 Posts: 10,179 Member
    I had a friend in high school whose mother threw her and all her stuff out when she turned 18. She survived and now has no contact with her mother.
    I have a daughter who moved out on her 18th birthday with all her stuff and now has no contact with her mother.

    You can't be nice enough to make his life good. He's got to do it himself and if it has to go through a rough patch, it has to because he decided it would. Quit paying his way.
  • born_of_fire74
    born_of_fire74 Posts: 776 Member
    138shades wrote: »
    born_of_fire74 wrote: »
    138shades wrote: »
    born_of_fire74 wrote: »
    The first step is to stop thinking of a 37 y/o man as a "kid." He's not a child; he's an adult regardless of his mental illness and you aren't doing him any favours by enabling him to live this way.

    his mental age isn't 37.

    OP made no mention of disability. As a 42 y/o woman with a very similar diagnosis (bipolar with severe depression), I can assure you that bipolar disorder does not impair your mental age or cognitive abilities. With proper care and medication, one can even lead a fairly normal life. It definitely doesn't mean that you should live in your parents' basement forever, never get a job, never take care of yourself and be hurtful to your loved ones.

    OP seems to think getting his son into a group home where he can learn to live a productive life will be harming him somehow. They "could never do that to him." My point is that they need to consider what they are doing to him now by allowing him to live the life he currently is. It seems pretty harmful even though they aren't doing it maliciously.

    Having difficult children is difficult. I know. I have my own issues and my son was quite a handful for his own reasons. I don't mean to be hurtful to OP. His intentions are obviously well-meaning but even he knows things aren't working out as is--that's why he's here exasperated and seeking advice. I wish him best of luck in a really tough situation.

    I can tell you as a psychologist and a family therapist you listen to people like me. Not everyone is affected the same. Don't try to tell me something I have license and 5 degrees in and you pay to see people in my field. His cognitive ability relates to his dependence on his mom which she inhibited him l. Schizoaffective isn't bipolar. Read a little more.

    I'm curious how you would know anything about the relationship with the mother based on the information provided that makes no mention of the mother other than to say OP and his wife (who may not even be the "mom") don't want to put him in a group home? I'm sorry but no medical practitioner I know offers an opinion based on 2 paragraphs and no medical practitioner I've encountered offers any sort of advice in a public forum; these are highly unprofessional behaviours.

    Luckily, this appears to be some sort of hoax. I won't be adding anything further to this discussion. Good day.
  • RoxieDawn
    RoxieDawn Posts: 15,488 Member
    this went well!
  • Chase_The_Pain
    Chase_The_Pain Posts: 255 Member
    SomebodyWakeUpHIcks wrote: »
    amandacalories wrote: »
    You wrote in another post that you're 29 years old? Sooooo little confused here

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    @retro_gamer On top of being busted for not keep your stories straight, my guess is your over 60 years yet your name here is Retro Gamer? And your son is a gamer? Apple fall far from the tree?

    My mom is 70 and plays "The Division" on Xbox. It breaks my heart every time she tells me about some little kid screaming at her telling her how bad she stinks at the game.

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