I'm angry
lionessncubsx3
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I'm Beth, I'm 39 and I hate food. No really...I do. I don't cook, my husband or my mother does. I'd be fine eating pizza and cereal the rest of my life. They are quick and easy and I have to spend like ZERO prep time to not be hungry.
Of course, my total lack of love or care for food is why I weigh 233 lbs. Well, that and the thyroid cancer that started growing during puberty and was missed until I was like 23 years old but that is besides the point. I'm not angry about that. I'm angry because the more I try to educate myself on getting healthier and losing this weight, the more I'm realizing that my whole life is going to be about food. That absolutely enrages me.
I like exercise. At least I did, until I kept running across the phrase "You can't outrun your fork". Is there even a point to exercise?
I'm not one of those girls who is suicidal because I'm fat, because men make it very clear I'm hot even though I'm fat. Having to pay this much attention to food though...that might push me over the edge. I think I'd rather slit my wrists than make my whole life about food.
Of course, my total lack of love or care for food is why I weigh 233 lbs. Well, that and the thyroid cancer that started growing during puberty and was missed until I was like 23 years old but that is besides the point. I'm not angry about that. I'm angry because the more I try to educate myself on getting healthier and losing this weight, the more I'm realizing that my whole life is going to be about food. That absolutely enrages me.
I like exercise. At least I did, until I kept running across the phrase "You can't outrun your fork". Is there even a point to exercise?
I'm not one of those girls who is suicidal because I'm fat, because men make it very clear I'm hot even though I'm fat. Having to pay this much attention to food though...that might push me over the edge. I think I'd rather slit my wrists than make my whole life about food.
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If you have the money, just do Jenny Craig and they will tell you what to eat and you don't have to think about food at all.33
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You can improve your diet and still keep it simple. Don't over think it. Find a few more foods that you like and add those to the rotation. It's all about portion size. Sure, health is important and eating nutrient dense food is important but just start small. Make a few changes here and there.
It's true that you can't out work a bad diet but there are lots of other benefits to being active so just do what you enjoy.3 -
If you don't care what you eat, every Sunday cook up a bunch of chicken breast, brown rice and broccoli and fill 14 single serving containers. Do the same the next Sunday but switch the broccoli for another vegetable, the chicken for pork chops, etc. That way only 2 hours of every Sunday is "about food" and every other day is just auto pilot.47
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Weight gain is basically the fact that you eat too much and don't move enough. So if you are "fat" or overweight, it's because even though you HATE food, you still eat too much of it.
So, to lose weight, you'll need to eat less of it. But you'll need to know that you ARE actually eating less. So, yes, you may need to think about it. I find the only way I know I'm eating less is to actually weigh the food I eat, because honestly, I like being thin. I thought for a long time I liked eating what I wanted, when I wanted and how much I wanted, but I learned through this process I like to be thin more.
Maybe you need to figure out what you hate more, thinking about how much you eat OR being "fat".
Honestly, by your post, I don't think you are mentally ready to do the things that are required to lose weight.33 -
You might want to consider frozen meals. Some people add extra meat and vegetables to make frozen meals more filling but that could be ideal for you.11
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Experiment to find a way of eating that keeps you feeling full enough while leaving you with a calorie deficit. Once you find a rhythm, it doesn't take much thought at all.
You don't have to be perfect, just consistent over time. I aim for about 80% of my calories from nutrient-dense foods and 20% from treats.
Most of my days go like this:
hot tea
breakfast sandwich and square of chocolate
hot tea
oatmeal
hot tea
Lean Cuisine with a whole bag of sauceless steam-in-bag veggies
hot tea
Protein/fiber bar with a different flavor of hot tea1 -
i think you have the wrong perspective but its okay. When its a topic that's been a struggle of course someone's going to be bitter about it.
For you to be able to do this successfully you need support (besides family -- becuase expectations are natural for family members) so join an exercise class at the local gym, join weight watchers...or some sort of thing where support is built in.
Food wise..it's not always going to be about food. In the beginning yes becuase you have to monitor your intake in the beginning. I.e. counting calories, macros etc. weighing yourself. But once you get an idea of what 4 oz. of chicken looks like for example without having to measure it
then you will get to a point where you will prep a meal and know whether or not its too much or too little etc.
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I guess my question to you is--how badly do you want to lose weight? Being angry and stressing about food won't get you anywhere. You have to make peace with YOUR decision. You have alot to lose and that's a long haul. You'll need patience and consistency, for starters. Maybe you're not ready yet. Time to decide. We'd all like you to be a success.11
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You can lose weight and be healthy eating 100% foods that require no more prep time than pizza or cereal. There are so many frozen dinner options, cereals or pizza are not unhealthy as part of an overall healthy diet. Fruit doesn't need any prep other than maybe washing and peeling. You can even avoid that by buying frozen or canned. Same for vegetables. There are SO many steam in the bag options for vegetables.
But you need to be honest with yourself. You aren't eating pizza and cereal for the ease. There are a lot of healthy easy options. You are eating these things because you like them. Most of us do. We just balance them sensibly with other foods.17 -
Pizza and cereal...sounds like a high-carb kind of person. Like me
And most vegetarians, really.
As others have said, you don't need to cook fancy meals to lose weight--and you certainly don't have to think about food all the time. Hell, you could lose weight on pizza and cereal--provided you control the portion size to get the right number of calories.
As a long-term solution, incorporating more balance in your diet (healthy fats/proteins) is healthier. But if your first goal is to lose weight, I say stick to as close to your "normal" diet as possible, eat what you normally eat (just less of it), and make one small, non-obsessive change per week. Like drinking more water, or making a chimichanga for dinner or something. (All my dinners cook up in less than fifteen minutes because I.have.no.time. Also, my diary is open...)1 -
To lose weight all you technically need is a calorie deficit. You can lose weight eating pizza and cereal. You can eat frozen dinners. You can eat rotisserie chicken and frozen broccoli. Just put your stats into mfp, get a calorie goal, and log accurately and consistently. It can take a little practice and might seem time consuming at first, but after awhile it requires very little time and thought.2
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I feel you, sister. I get what you're going through. There has to be a way to keep doing what you're doing, just smarter. Maybe find a "healthier" low carb pizza with vegetables and resume your exercise cause regardless of whether you outrun your fork or not, it's a great thing worth doing for your health. Good luck ♡0
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It actually sounds like you hate cooking, you're OK eating the food others prepare. And I've actually never heard the phrase "you can't put run your fork". I'd argue differently. Weight loss is a calculation of energy in vs energy out. Just make sure you "run" off more energy than you take in with your fork.
Good luck!2 -
Your husband or your mother cook.. Not seeing the issue? Just eat at a deficient.6
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You're exaggerating how much time and effort you need to spend on food and you're diminishing the role that exercise can play in helping you lose weight. I would say that I spend a grand total of 25 minutes a day preparing food, max. That's hardly a life time.4
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OP you mention education.... Actually... education will help you be smarter and wiser, and while it seems a lot of information overload in the beginning, soon there is a point when everything will click. The logging efforts get easier, your food choices and habits get better.
Here is the kicker, you have to want to ingest, retain and use that information. There is a point in your weight loss and maintenance of goal weight where you have to care enough about it to make it a priority or you will just keeping doing the same thing expecting different results..
I have no advice other than, just simply eat less of what you are currently eating. Eating less will always result in weight loss and you will be successful. I'm not going to throw around what is healthy, best nutrient wise food choices, I believe over time you are gonna work all this through.. one day at a time. one meal at a time.6 -
Once MFP starts to know what you eat regularly, you can enter the first three letters and it usually pops up with your last amount eaten. You can then just click the check mark so long as it's the same amount and done. You can also start copying meals from previous days to the current day. It "learns" what you eat regularly, so it takes a little less time on those particular items.
Also you don't have to cook as others have mentioned. You can eat whatever you want so long as you eat at a deficit. Those convenience foods often time have more calories, so you may find yourself still hungry and will have to work in easy veggies, like carrots and hummus, a handful of almonds, or a banana.3 -
Would you be just as fine eating century eggs, celeriac, liver, cod roe, fugu, spiders, snails, or "Rocky Mountain Oysters"? If not, you do have preferences! If you will be fine with any meal, pick any one-week meal plan with meals that are just as quick as pizza, from the net, and use that, week after week. No education, like no prep time, and no thinking.
With meals taken care of, I would focus on attitude - and exercise. Yes, there is a point to exercise, the value of exercise is not nullified when you don't eat perfectly. And your whole life is not going to be about food. Your anger right now is what makes food take up too much space. Your mother and your husband cook, why is it important that the food is quick and easy to make? Don't you know how to cook? Do you feel you're "not good enough" in the kitchen? Do you think you should be eating certain foods and avoiding certain other foods? Maybe losing weight and finding more meals you like to cook and eat, will reduce your anger?5 -
lionessncubsx3 wrote: »I'm Beth, I'm 39 and I hate food. No really...I do. I don't cook, my husband or my mother does. I'd be fine eating pizza and cereal the rest of my life. They are quick and easy and I have to spend like ZERO prep time to not be hungry.
Of course, my total lack of love or care for food is why I weigh 233 lbs. Well, that and the thyroid cancer that started growing during puberty and was missed until I was like 23 years old but that is besides the point. I'm not angry about that. I'm angry because the more I try to educate myself on getting healthier and losing this weight, the more I'm realizing that my whole life is going to be about food. That absolutely enrages me.
I like exercise. At least I did, until I kept running across the phrase "You can't outrun your fork". Is there even a point to exercise?
I'm not one of those girls who is suicidal because I'm fat, because men make it very clear I'm hot even though I'm fat. Having to pay this much attention to food though...that might push me over the edge. I think I'd rather slit my wrists than make my whole life about food.
Weight loss is about calories not type of food. You can lose while eating pizza and cereal.
Figure out the calories for a limited menu and eat the same thing every day. Just get the portion sizes right for your goal.
Some people would get bored but if you do not care about food it shouldn't bother you to eat the same breakfast every day, same lunch, same dinner and same snacks most days. You are going to have to think about food sometimes but it doesn't have to be all day every day.
You- or your partner- can cook a large batch of something once a week or month and portion it out to fit your calorie goal. Put the containers in your refrigerator or freezer so you just have to pull one out and not think about it. Your cook can look up once a month cooking, feeding the freezer or meal prepping for ideas of what foods work.
If that is too much work you could buy frozen meals or shakes.0 -
lionessncubsx3 wrote: »I'm Beth, I'm 39 and I hate food. No really...I do. I don't cook, my husband or my mother does. I'd be fine eating pizza and cereal the rest of my life. They are quick and easy and I have to spend like ZERO prep time to not be hungry.
Of course, my total lack of love or care for food is why I weigh 233 lbs. Well, that and the thyroid cancer that started growing during puberty and was missed until I was like 23 years old but that is besides the point. I'm not angry about that. I'm angry because the more I try to educate myself on getting healthier and losing this weight, the more I'm realizing that my whole life is going to be about food. That absolutely enrages me.
I like exercise. At least I did, until I kept running across the phrase "You can't outrun your fork". Is there even a point to exercise?
I'm not one of those girls who is suicidal because I'm fat, because men make it very clear I'm hot even though I'm fat. Having to pay this much attention to food though...that might push me over the edge. I think I'd rather slit my wrists than make my whole life about food.
Your whole life will not need to be about food. When you first start trying to eat better (by better I'm referring to both eating a more well rounded diet as well as eating at a more appropriate calorie level) you will need to spend more time than usual thinking about your food choices. But after a relatively short time period, those choices will become quicker to make and you will not need to spend as much deliberate effort on them. As trite as it may sound, it gets better.1 -
Wow, I didn't expect so many responses and great information. Thank you all for the support.
I am having a tantrum and I apologize for that. I quit smoking in feb and have gained back the 30lbs I worked my butt off to get rid of and I've developed a caffeine allergy so I lost caffeine too. Not a bad thing since I was a soda addict but doesn't help with attitude!!
I will use all of this information to readjust my attitude. thank you!29 -
The primary point of exercise is fitness and general health and well being...unless you're training like an athlete, the energy expenditure from exercise is paltry relative to the calories you expend merely existing and going about your day to day. For example, i burn around 24000-2500 calories just being alive and going about my day to day...my average morning ride will burn anywhere from about 350 - 450-500 depending...relatively small in comparison...this is where that phrase comes from.
You need a certain number of calories to maintain weight...for me, that's around 2800 including exercise...if I eat over that amount on a consistent basis, I will gain weight regardless of the fact that I'm exercising regularly...to lose weight I just need to eat below that amount.
Regular exercise is more about your fitness and general health and well being...it is very good for you, especially in the more or less sedentary world in which we live...1 -
So just eat amounts of cereal and pizza that put you in a deficit... add in an apple now and then... take a multivitamin.6
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Third time losing 25# for me. This time I created meals to log. I eat pretty much the same meals most days. One click logging. I hang out on the maintenance boards, and I've educated myself as best I can on slow weight loss and lifestyle change. Like you, I really didn't want to start over. This time I'm hoping will be my last.2
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I've been working on it for 3 months, not lost a single lb. I need to lose 90lbs to be where I'd like to be. Supposedly a healthy weight for me is 119 lbs but I don't even want to be that small...I wouldn't look healthy.0
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I love food, but I hate to cook. I still lost 76 pounds eating out, having cereal and pizza and whatever processed foods fit my schedule. I do eat a lot of "healthy" foods. But I also eat convenience foods. It is the portion sizes that matter. Just eat whatever your husband or your mother cooks, just eat appropriate portion sizes and you can lose weight. It will help if you get a food scale because then you will know that you are eating what you think you are, but it isn't absolutely necessary.2
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I agree that you can parcel out your thinking by coming up with a set plan and just repeating it. Think once, repeat many times.
Since you love exercising, do lots of that. It doesn't add up to a huge deficit, but it will make this whole body reform thing much more enjoyable for you.
I suggest also that you mark out a single portion of cereal for your bowl by putting it on a scale. You can only fill to that line forever on. You only have to weigh once.
Also, find out how many calories are in a single slice of pizza and decide how many slices you can afford at a meal. Fill out the rest of your meal with bagged salad.1 -
what does weighing food accomplish? I keep seeing that but I don't get it0
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lionessncubsx3 wrote: »what does weighing food accomplish? I keep seeing that but I don't get it
If you follow nutrition labels it'll say stuff like 1 serving of "XYZ" (40g) is 300 calories.
If you are watching your caloric intake. That 40g is important. Becuase if you aren't weighing correctly you may eat 45g which is over 300 calories.
You may eat more than you're supposed to thus not seeing any difference weight wise.1
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