WHY DO I STILL FEEL FAT!!!!

Seffell

kimberley1975mfp wrote: »

So it’s not super helpful for someone to say 167 is fat.

You said you think you look fat and that you are 167. I thought you wanted to not look fat when naked in the shower because you said you wanted to cry. So I offered my advice which was to lose more instead of learning to lie to yourself with false positive body images. After reading your reply I realise you only want to feel slim, not actually look slim. You only wanted to be told you don't actually look fat. That's fine then. The others have given you great encouragement about that. I hope you start feeling slimmer.
It just never works for me. I need to look slim to actually feel slim. But to each their own.

crazykatlady820

I spent my entire childhood until 15 years old hearing I was worthless, ugly, digusting, and no one would ever love me... every single day. I hated my father so much that I never realized how much his words actually stuck with me. I didn't even realize until this past year (at 35) that I have believed those words all these years. No matter how awful and untrue it is, when you are told something every day for years and years it stays with you. It has affected so much of my life without me even realizing it. I have always felt like even though I have a wonderful husband and 2 pretty awesome kids that one day they would realize I'm this awful unloveable person and they would leave me. Same for my friends. I have always approached every friendship like I'm an imposter and they'll realize it and dump me eventually. A man that is probably one of the worst humans alive made me hate myself and I didn't even realize it. It's hard work, but I do my best to love myself now. I tell myself every day that I'm not worthless, because maybe if I hear it enough it will be what sticks with me instead. Because I'm not worthless and I know it... it just takes time to remember that and to make sure my actions and feelings reflect my truth and not someone else's lies.

My point is that you need to tell yourself the opposite of those awful things. You need to live in your truth and you need to know that you don't need anyone else's permission to feel beautiful and feel good about yourself. Give yourself permission to feel beautiful and to love yourself. It'll take a lot of work, you'll have to remind yourself every day (sometimes more than once a day), but you're worth it.

tomteboda

gebeziseva wrote: »

kimberley1975mfp wrote: »

So it’s not super helpful for someone to say 167 is fat.

You said you think you look fat and that you are 167. I thought you wanted to not look fat when naked in the shower because you said you wanted to cry. So I offered my advice which was to lose more instead of learning to lie to yourself with false positive body images. After reading your reply I realise you only want to feel slim, not actually look slim. You only wanted to be told you don't actually look fat. That's fine then. The others have given you great encouragement about that. I hope you start feeling slimmer.
It just never works for me. I need to look slim to actually feel slim. But to each their own.

You know the woman in her after picture looks and is healthy and slim.

nickssweetheart

gebeziseva wrote: »

kimberley1975mfp wrote: »

So it’s not super helpful for someone to say 167 is fat.

You said you think you look fat and that you are 167. I thought you wanted to not look fat when naked in the shower because you said you wanted to cry. So I offered my advice which was to lose more instead of learning to lie to yourself with false positive body images. After reading your reply I realise you only want to feel slim, not actually look slim. You only wanted to be told you don't actually look fat. That's fine then. The others have given you great encouragement about that. I hope you start feeling slimmer.
It just never works for me. I need to look slim to actually feel slim. But to each their own.

Congratulations, you were 125 your whole life. Do you want a cookie or something?

She looks great NOW. That she thinks she looks disgusting is not reflective of reality. How you can post something like this after seeing her picture is just borderline trolling.