feeling down after visit from in-laws

Bughunter99

Your MIL is attempting to dominate you. You are letting her. You gave 3 choices. Continue to take her snark as meaningful, roll your eyes at it and blow it off or let her have it for being weight obsessed and rude.

dutchandkiwi

I is about setting boundaries, communication with your husband and following through no matter how hard it is.

What I did:
My MIL was forever commenting on my weight and shape in a way that made me feel incredibly uncomfortable. In her mind women should be pretty only and weight is really the most important thing. (long story behind it all)
Anyway I spoke to my husband about it and he in turn talked to both his parents explaining I was simply not comfortable taking with them about my weight and MIL agreed to stop. However the very next time we were alone she started again from an ever so slightly different angle but I was really getting uncomfortable. SO I raised my voice so FIL and husband could hear and said: "What are you trying to say here, Wasn't there something you agreed upon as a topic being off limits. You agreed with FIL and my husband" I also got up and started walking toward the door and making it clear I was ready to walk out.
She of course went to the "but but" stages but after me taking another few steps toward the door she said 'Yes I agreed to that and I apologise". It is then that I sat down and after a few awkward minutes the conversations tarted flowing again.

My husband told me that he and his father had sat there with their breaths held but had sighed in relief and that he was proud of me for standing up. I told him I was halfway to the door and he simply said I would have walked out with you (love that guy).
My MIL has never ever brought it up again. All she will occasionally say is that I look amazing and that is fine with me.