I'm undecided whether to tell people I'm on a diet. Scared of the negativity

DarleneHerndon

I'm scared of the negativity and pressure I'd be under. I'm on Facebook. Should I post about it?

jgnatca

I say no. I logged my runs for a while and I got lots of likes for those.

nutmegoreo

Why does everything have to go on FB? If you don't want comments, don't give people the open door. You make the comment, all kinds of people will be giving you advice and selling you their miracle concoctions. And some will be supportive. Choose your experience.

jgnatca

People are too weird about diets and nearly everyone has a failure story. You don’t want to be flooded with banana/military/cleanse advice so just keep your diet plans to yourself.

dejavuohlala

It should be more about healthy eating regime that you can adopt for life ' diets'
Are short term

LuvtoBeme1

First and foremost let us just throw the word diet out of the vocabulary. Dieting isn't healthy. It pertains to a temporary and often food adjustment to obtain some kind of weight loss or weight gain goal. To be healthy sweet miracle, we need to work on your mindset. Already you are operating in fear.Where is the root?You should not give a hoot what people think about your decisions about your own personal walk. They are your own decisions. You have the God given right to feel how ever you darn well want to feel and to make choices about what you do with your life pro and con and to face those consequences.No One has the right to tell you how to live your life.No One!
If you are not in counseling I highly recommend you seek a licensed social worker that you click with while you are on your wellness journey. This is all about whole health, harmony and balance. Not a number on a scale.
Depending upon where you live, there are tons of healthy information to teach you how to eat.What proper portion sizes look like. How to adjust foods if you are diabetic etc. Learning what is healthy versus unhealthy is the first step. I highly suggest learning this first and foremost. Then beloved miracle, make one small decision and stick with it for 14 days.If you drink tons of soda, for ex. let us say 8 cans, then take one can away.That will be a nutrition adjustment you can make. For exercise take a 10 minute walk everyday. There is a small adjustment.The next 14 days you make another adjustment.Take away 2 cans of soda and add a serving of veggies to two of your meals. For exercise Make it a 15 minute walk everyday.Little by little you are making healthier choices.To be a healthier you. These are very attainable and not going to put your body into shock.
For more information on portion sizes and healthy eating you can go to
https://health.gov/dietaryguidelines/2015/guidelines/
Many blessings to you.
Post whatever your sweet little heart desires so long as you are doing no harm to anyone including and especially yourself! Muahxxx

kommodevaran

What you eat is nobody else's business - so you shouldn't feel obligated to tell anyone, but you can if you want to, just be prepared that people may want to share their opinions. Just like I am now: It's generally not a good idea to go on a diet. To lose weight, you just have to consistently eat less. If you think that sounds boring, unexciting and ineffective, compare it with how difficult or dreary you think starting and going on a diet, is, or seems - it's always your choice what to do, but you can't decide the outcome of any given choice.

klowieislyfe1

I find that when I make it known I'm on some kind of diet or eating pattern, a bunch of *kitten* come out of the woodwork to tell me why I'm doing it wrong and why I should listen to them because they're the oracle of wisdom when it comes to fitness and nutrition. Diet seems to be a really incendiary topic for some people. I'd just keep it on the DL if I were you, but your call.

ninerbuff

The reality is NOBODY really cares. They may say they do, but it's just for the moment. It's YOUR uptaking and there's no need to put it out there.

A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
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Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

leggup

Never post that you're in the process/going to achieve something. Post when you have a result to be proud of, like succeeding in your weight loss goals.

dsboohead

First off....why dont you rely on the element of surprise when you start evolving into a slimmer healthier you!
I just dont know why its important to post every aspect of our lives on social media.Why not kill'em with the element of surprise and mystery instead of killing yourself trying to gain approval.
A mysterious and everchanging you is much sexier!

dsboohead

.......when you do start really taking it off.....post a picture of yourself in a new cute outfit and ask if they think if the style or color suits you.
Of course they will ask why...how...and what but don't answer "that" question. Oh how fun that would be!

deadenddiva

I let people know if I am actually going to be sharing a meal with them. If it is something like an event where there are snacks provided, then it is up to me to chose wisely, or to just not indulge, but I always let people who want to feed me know that I am learning new habits, have health concerns, etc. Telling folks you worry about diabetes is a great way to get them involved in a positive manner, especially since it is a huge health concern now. https://www.cdc.gov/media/releases/2017/p0718-diabetes-report.html

enyagoboom

FWIW: my experiences in the past were I would tell everyone because of 'accountability' and I'd go strong for a couple of weeks and invariably get sidetracked and... well. fail. Again.

This time, I didn't tell anyone when I started - not even my husband. I wasn't keeping it a secret, but I was trying to focus on making the changes I needed to make and try things out with room to both fail and start up again without everyone's input. As I've gone on people have been looped in to varying degrees of success, and when I hit 100 days of tracking and nearly 20lbs down, I posted about it because I do think MFP has made all the difference this time.

Overall, I talk about these changes more now than I did in July because those changes have become center stage in my life - swimming, fitness, losing weight, needing to look at going clothing shopping - those are results that I'm really happy to share. And even though I've had setbacks and bad days and maybe a slower loss than I'd like, I can talk about them too because I know they come and go and I'm seeing an overall downward trend.

The biggest thing is trying not to become the person who *only* talks about fitness and food.

Whatever you do, when you engage people on this topic you are opening yourself to their positive and negative comments. If this is a fear for you, dig into the reason why it makes you anxious, and engage that fear. Or find new people who aren't obnoxious jackholes. Your mileage may vary. All the best!

cwolfman13

I don't understand why people feel the need to talk about this kind of stuff.

munster14

I didn't tell anybody until it naturally came up in conversation, such as when they ask what I plan to eat at lunch or supper. Answering salad is pretty much a dead giveaway and leads to the diet unveiling.

Karliemyalgia

Diets are typically known to be short term, so people might get caught up in that thought.

Are you doing this long term? Short term? Are you making genuine changes to your eating to bring with you into the future? If so, then I'd consider it a "lifestyle change" and not a diet. If you want to avoid the numbskulls caught up over a word, just change the word

Evamutt

personally, I don't share personal stuff on FB or share anything I want comments about. But I'm an introvert & don't like to be noticed too much. I do notice when ppl do share they get so much advice & I don't want that. That's why I share on here with like minded ppl. On the other hand, I have a friend who lost 70 lbs so far on keto & shares all the time. I say good for her if that's what she wants to do. I also encourage & congratulate her. The general public doesn't know or care about weight loss & has a lot of opinions so think about it first.

mysteps2beauty

leggup wrote: »

Never post that you're in the process/going to achieve something. Post when you have a result to be proud of, like succeeding in your weight loss goals.

I find this to be a good approach. I read somewhere that when you announce that you are doing something that takes the impetus off from doing it....like saying it somehow becomes I did it. And then you don't. So if you want to say something say it after you have some measurable attainments, like maybe lose 50% of what you are aiming for. Frankly, I'd keep it mum until someone says something like, you look different, what are you doing?

tiptoethruthetulips

Not everything in your life needs to be posted on facebook nor do you need tell anyone about your weight loss efforts unless you genuinely want to.