I'm undecided whether to tell people I'm on a diet. Scared of the negativity

VeryKatie

I don't like telling people. I tend to fall off the wagon more since I feel more stressed. I just tell my MFP people!

But then... the other day I was leaving my friend's house as her husband came home. After, she texted me saying he said "Oh Katie is so skinny. I guess that's breastfeeding for you!". And she was like "I breastfed for 18 months and never got skinny" and kinda sounded miffed at me somehow over text because of it.

Meanwhile here I was tracking calories EVERY DAY and trying to stick with it through crazy breastfeeding hunger and sleep deprivation and a little depression. Frick NO it's not the breastfeeding. That's my hardwork! BAH. But they didn't know I use MFP so... my fault I guess.

Anyway. Those are the two sides of the coin... one side is no pressure but the other is no (or little) acknowledgement for your hard work. Pick your favourite lol. Or just tell certain people I guess. That is an option too.

MaikeO1977

I also want to point out that the program I am in is overseen by a physician, a dietitian, and a psychologist. They analyzed my metabolism and gave me the appropriate calorie/macronutrient/fiber/water intake goals for my body. They address issues and I weigh in every week. Also they teach me to change or acknowledge my values and therefore my behavior.

And they always always always find something positive - what? I had trouble sticking to the plan? I gave in to a craving? I didn't exercise like I planned? I ate too much? I ate too little? Whatever my worries, in the end, they will turn it around to something positive. Look how well you're doing! LOL one week they said: well, you didn't lose any pounds but you lost ounces. You are likely the type to plateau for a while and then drop a lot of weight in a week.

The bottom line is: THINK POSITIVE about yourself! Give yourself credit for all victories, even if they seem small. Allow yourself to be human and fall off the wagon once in a while, just keep going. Tomorrow is another day, right? And be patient. It takes a long time to lose weight in a healthy fashion. What matters is that you are kind to yourself. So no, don't give others the opportunity to criticize. They will say positive things automatically when your appearance changes.

xo

lucerorojo

Don't tell people, it's none of their business. Of course you probably want to tell anyone who lives with you, just because you may be eating meals together. The only person I've told is my mother (who doesn't live with me) and she has been supportive. I have a few friends who I bumped into and haven't seen me--and I've gotten some positive comments about my looks but not my weight. I think that a good number of people these days are afraid to comment on weight to your face--whether positive or negative. But on FB, people comment on everything, so I definitely would'nt put it out there for the peanut gallery to detract you from your goals.

vingogly

If you're "scared of the negativity", why on earth would you think posting your decision on FB would be a good idea? The only reason to tell another human being is if you think they'd be a support in your journey.

evilpoptart63

Its kind of a personal thing. Not everyone needs to know.

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leggup wrote: »

Never post that you're in the process/going to achieve something. Post when you have a result to be proud of, like succeeding in your weight loss goals.

As my mom and her mom will say!