Has your mother cut contact with you?
imanibelle
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If so, how do you feel about it? Just curious. 
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I've spent far more time not speaking to/or being involved with my mother-in-law, which actually feels VERY freeing because I'm not being exposed to her crap and drama. Woohoo!
A couple times in my life my Mom and I were not always on the best terms. There were times we did not speak, much longer than I ever imagined and certainly didn't plan. Our problem is she and I are *very* stubborn. In the end we both had some 'growing up' to do, talk out past issues, come to common ground and just bury the hatchet. Our relationship has been very good for a long time now.2 -
Not my mom. She talked to me and e-mailed all the time before she died.
My MIL dropped off the face of the Earth as far as my dh and I were concerned for at least a year. It was kind of sad and frustrating but less drama during that time.0 -
Haven't seen the in-laws in nearly 10 years. That was my husband's choice. It's been so calm and peaceful...a relief actually. He doesn't regret it one bit. No hard feelings, just moving on without the drama. It sounds kind of sad, but it's really not.
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Nope, Mom and I are on pretty good terms. Love my Mom in law too, she's a sweetheart. Don't hang out much with my Dad, but we haven't been close in decades.1
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Nope, Mom and I are on pretty good terms. Love my Mom in law too, she's a sweetheart. Don't hang out much with my Dad, but we haven't been close in decades.
Both of my siblings have awesome MIL's. I went ahead and adopted both of them as my surrogate MIL's. I see both of them regularly.
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In a way. She died 4 years ago and communication has definitely taken a down-turn since that time. She just doesn't make the effort!
My father on the other hand, cut contact about 3 years ago and very glad I am too. A more racist unpleasant angry bigot I've yet to meet.3 -
In a way. She died 4 years ago and communication has definitely taken a down-turn since that time. She just doesn't make the effort!
My father on the other hand, cut contact about 3 years ago and very glad I am too. A more racist unpleasant angry bigot I've yet to meet.
I hate it when people use death as an excuse to stop making effort.4 -
My family cut contact with me and my daughters 3 years ago . My oldest just graduated high school and her grandparents didn’t even show up, ( they live half a mile away).
They know how much rejection my daughters have already suffered with their mother giving them up at 7 and 10 years old but, because of a petty disagreement with me over Christmas Day plans, they severed ties with my daughters just to try and hurt me. My mother even unfriended and blocked the girls on Facebook. The girls had nothing to do with any of it.
I say “good riddence “. We’re better off without them. My sister followed my mothers lead. They never even offered any help a year ago when I had just gotten out of the hospital after my second hip replacement surgery and our house burned down.2 -
peckchris3267 wrote: »My family cut contact with me and my daughters 3 years ago . My oldest just graduated high school and her grandparents didn’t even show up, ( they live half a mile away).
They know how much rejection my daughters have already suffered with their mother giving them up at 7 and 10 years old but, because of a petty disagreement with me over Christmas Day plans, they severed ties with my daughters just to try and hurt me. My mother even unfriended and blocked the girls on Facebook. The girls had nothing to do with any of it.
I say “good riddence “. We’re better off without them. My sister followed my mothers lead. They never even offered any help a year ago when I had just gotten out of the hospital after my second hip replacement surgery and our house burned down.
Thats women for you. Petty to the core
Seriously though, whilst it might hurt your daughters now, it sounds like its for the best to be away from such toxic ppl.0 -
peckchris3267 wrote: »My family cut contact with me and my daughters 3 years ago . My oldest just graduated high school and her grandparents didn’t even show up, ( they live half a mile away).
They know how much rejection my daughters have already suffered with their mother giving them up at 7 and 10 years old but, because of a petty disagreement with me over Christmas Day plans, they severed ties with my daughters just to try and hurt me. My mother even unfriended and blocked the girls on Facebook. The girls had nothing to do with any of it.
I say “good riddence “. We’re better off without them. My sister followed my mothers lead. They never even offered any help a year ago when I had just gotten out of the hospital after my second hip replacement surgery and our house burned down.
Thats women for you. Petty to the core
Seriously though, whilst it might hurt your daughters now, it sounds like its for the best to be away from such toxic ppl.
And my father has no say in anything and hasn’t had any say for as far back as I can remember.
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peckchris3267 wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »My family cut contact with me and my daughters 3 years ago . My oldest just graduated high school and her grandparents didn’t even show up, ( they live half a mile away).
They know how much rejection my daughters have already suffered with their mother giving them up at 7 and 10 years old but, because of a petty disagreement with me over Christmas Day plans, they severed ties with my daughters just to try and hurt me. My mother even unfriended and blocked the girls on Facebook. The girls had nothing to do with any of it.
I say “good riddence “. We’re better off without them. My sister followed my mothers lead. They never even offered any help a year ago when I had just gotten out of the hospital after my second hip replacement surgery and our house burned down.
Thats women for you. Petty to the core
Seriously though, whilst it might hurt your daughters now, it sounds like its for the best to be away from such toxic ppl.
And my father has no say in anything and hasn’t had any say for as far back as I can remember.
Poor man. Does she at least give him the key to the cupboard so he can polish his balls annually?2 -
peckchris3267 wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »My family cut contact with me and my daughters 3 years ago . My oldest just graduated high school and her grandparents didn’t even show up, ( they live half a mile away).
They know how much rejection my daughters have already suffered with their mother giving them up at 7 and 10 years old but, because of a petty disagreement with me over Christmas Day plans, they severed ties with my daughters just to try and hurt me. My mother even unfriended and blocked the girls on Facebook. The girls had nothing to do with any of it.
I say “good riddence “. We’re better off without them. My sister followed my mothers lead. They never even offered any help a year ago when I had just gotten out of the hospital after my second hip replacement surgery and our house burned down.
Thats women for you. Petty to the core
Seriously though, whilst it might hurt your daughters now, it sounds like its for the best to be away from such toxic ppl.
And my father has no say in anything and hasn’t had any say for as far back as I can remember.
Poor man. Does she at least give him the key to the cupboard so he can polish his balls annually?
I’m sure she confiscated his balls long ago.
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peckchris3267 wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »peckchris3267 wrote: »My family cut contact with me and my daughters 3 years ago . My oldest just graduated high school and her grandparents didn’t even show up, ( they live half a mile away).
They know how much rejection my daughters have already suffered with their mother giving them up at 7 and 10 years old but, because of a petty disagreement with me over Christmas Day plans, they severed ties with my daughters just to try and hurt me. My mother even unfriended and blocked the girls on Facebook. The girls had nothing to do with any of it.
I say “good riddence “. We’re better off without them. My sister followed my mothers lead. They never even offered any help a year ago when I had just gotten out of the hospital after my second hip replacement surgery and our house burned down.
Thats women for you. Petty to the core
Seriously though, whilst it might hurt your daughters now, it sounds like its for the best to be away from such toxic ppl.
And my father has no say in anything and hasn’t had any say for as far back as I can remember.
Poor man. Does she at least give him the key to the cupboard so he can polish his balls annually?
I’m sure she confiscated his balls long ago.
That's why he needs the key1 -
Look at her trying to lull people into a false sense of security with that jumper. Your reverse psychology doesn't work on me missy. I know evil when I see it0
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peckchris3267 wrote: »My family cut contact with me and my daughters 3 years ago . My oldest just graduated high school and her grandparents didn’t even show up, ( they live half a mile away).
They know how much rejection my daughters have already suffered with their mother giving them up at 7 and 10 years old but, because of a petty disagreement with me over Christmas Day plans, they severed ties with my daughters just to try and hurt me. My mother even unfriended and blocked the girls on Facebook. The girls had nothing to do with any of it.
I say “good riddence “. We’re better off without them. My sister followed my mothers lead. They never even offered any help a year ago when I had just gotten out of the hospital after my second hip replacement surgery and our house burned down.
Sounds like you are way better off without them.. Just because people are related to you doesn't automatically make them good for you. Seems true in your case. Your daughters definitely don't need their kind of influence in their lives.1 -
I can't relate to the thread in the least.
Why is it that the people that should love us all the most, sometimes treats some of us the worst?
It makes no sense.1 -
Motorsheen wrote: »I can't relate to the thread in the least.
Why is it that the people that should love us all the most, sometimes treats some of us the worst?
It makes no sense.
^^True! No one can hurt you as much as family.
My Mom never cut contact with me. She died in 2000, resulting from a car accident. I like thinking she is my guardian angel and always in contact with me!
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Yeah, she cut ties with my brother and me over 30 years ago. Never met her grandchildren. Oh well.0
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i_squat_for_pizza wrote: »I'm very close to my mom and very happy to be. I only have 1 and she's not getting any younger, our parents won't be there forever it's important to cherish every moment and be thankful that we do have parents.
squat your mom and maybe she'll get you pizza1 -
No. Maybe I'm not trying hard enough. I will re-double my efforts2
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Nah my mom pays pretty good attention to me1
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huntersvonnegut wrote: »Yeah, she cut ties with my brother and me over 30 years ago. Never met her grandchildren. Oh well.
My mum did this to my sister
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Always been close to my mom, had some bumps in the road when I was a teen but we got through it she's a sweet and loving lady. So sad all these other broken relationships, but I understand somewhat since I never had a relationship with my dad and he never really tried. All we can do is love and care for those who love us back and sadly lets those go who don't family or no family it just hurts that much more.0
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yweight1969 wrote: »Always been close to my mom, had some bumps in the road when I was a teen but we got through it she's a sweet and loving lady. So sad all these other broken relationships, but I understand somewhat since I never had a relationship with my dad and he never really tried. All we can do is love and care for those who love us back and sadly lets those go who don't family or no family it just hurts that much more.
The saddest thing I ever heard was my sister saying "How can anyone love me if my own mother can't " breaks my heart they are both so stubborn and missing out on so much0 -
slimgirljo15 wrote: »yweight1969 wrote: »Always been close to my mom, had some bumps in the road when I was a teen but we got through it she's a sweet and loving lady. So sad all these other broken relationships, but I understand somewhat since I never had a relationship with my dad and he never really tried. All we can do is love and care for those who love us back and sadly lets those go who don't family or no family it just hurts that much more.
The saddest thing I ever heard was my sister saying "How can anyone love me if my own mother can't " breaks my heart they are both so stubborn and missing out on so much
Tell her that her/your mum just doesn't know how to love properly. Parents often love the way they were loved as children.0 -
slimgirljo15 wrote: »yweight1969 wrote: »Always been close to my mom, had some bumps in the road when I was a teen but we got through it she's a sweet and loving lady. So sad all these other broken relationships, but I understand somewhat since I never had a relationship with my dad and he never really tried. All we can do is love and care for those who love us back and sadly lets those go who don't family or no family it just hurts that much more.
The saddest thing I ever heard was my sister saying "How can anyone love me if my own mother can't " breaks my heart they are both so stubborn and missing out on so much
Tell her that her/your mum just doesn't know how to love properly. Parents often love the way they were loved as children.
Ive actually pretty much said that..but the pain of a parents rejection hurts no matter if you can find reasons for it.. I've tried for years to get them together 25 to be exact...
I once asked my mother why she wouldn't accept a card my sister sent and her answer was "she's too hard to know" smh.
On the plus side my dad (divorced from my mum ) is the most awesome, sweet, kind and gentle man.0 -
Yea I get that. Parents are meant to love us. Some clearly aren't that well equipped though. Always tough to handle. Does your sister have a good support network around her besides you and your dad?0
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Yea I get that. Parents are meant to love us. Some clearly aren't that well equipped though. Always tough to handle. Does your sister have a good support network around her besides you and your dad?
Yes she does, she has some great gf's and apart from mum is happy. I do notice the results of the rejection spilling into her other relationships though, in particular her children, she's very needy and demanding of their time.0 -
slimgirljo15 wrote: »Yea I get that. Parents are meant to love us. Some clearly aren't that well equipped though. Always tough to handle. Does your sister have a good support network around her besides you and your dad?
Yes she does, she has some great gf's and apart from mum is happy. I do notice the results of the rejection spilling into her other relationships though, in particular her children, she's very needy and demanding of their time.
That's good about the support network.
Hopefully she won't/doesnt reject them or emotionally blackmail if they don't fulfil her demands. My mum does that-its how she was brought up.0
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