Hiding Weight Loss From Friends

dawn_h_d

Is this strange? I haven't told many people that I have started exercising/losing weight. The reason being: When I have told people in the past I am trying to lose weight - they say they notice, but then I gain back and feel like I failed. My friends never say anything about me gaining it back, but it does bug me. Has anyone else just tried to lose weight secretly and NOT told many people? How has the long term motivation worked for anyone that has if no one knows?

My boyfriend of 7 years knows I am trying again and he has been very supported, like everytime else I have tried. He has NEVER made me feel like I have failed. (I just had to throw that out cuz I love him so much )

TyTy76

I don't hide it from my friends, never have. I have lost weight then put it back on many times.

Motivation has to come from yourself for this to work. Either you want it, or you don't.

I have tried to lose weight 100x. I failed every singe one of them, except the one that stuck this last time.

gigglybeth

I didn't really hide it, but I didn't really discuss it either. I didn't want to feel like I let everyone down if I failed. Motivation-wise it didn't make any difference if I told people or not.

leahcarrie

I never announced it to anyone, but once I started losing weight everyone noticed...so now everyone asks me how it's going and what not. I don't really care though I keep trucking, bottom line is I'm doing this for myself.

clarklynch

I'm with you, I didn't tell anyone for the same reasons. When enough weight has finally dropped off they will notice. We don't bring food to work so no worries making excuses why I'm not eating donuts and so forth. Keep up the good work!

KristyAnn81

Is this strange? I haven't told many people that I have started exercising/losing weight. The reason being: When I have told people in the past I am trying to lose weight - they say they notice, but then I gain back and feel like I failed. My friends never say anything about me gaining it back, but it does bug me. Has anyone else just tried to lose weight secretly and NOT told many people? How has the long term motivation worked for anyone that has if no one knows?

My boyfriend of 7 years knows I am trying again and he has been very supported, like everytime else I have tried. He has NEVER made me feel like I have failed. (I just had to throw that out cuz I love him so much )

I don't hide it, I just don't mention it. Mainly because I don't want to feel like I'm fishing cause then I get "but you're not fat" and statements like that. We all gotta do it our own ways

Turtlesallthewaydown

I don't mention my weight loss unless someone else does. I figure if it isn't significant enough for anyone to have noticed, it's too soon to celebrate.

twinsmom03

I haven't told anyone except my mother-in-law....She and my husband have been very supportive!!!! i just hate looking like a failure!!!!

liquidjem

I don't really announce it to people. I might say "Oh I went for a run last night" or something, but not that I am actively working my tail off. I think its all in my head. I don't want people to know that I am actively trying because I don't want them to feel obligated to say "oh think you've lost some weight, you look great" when or if I really haven't. I don't think its strange. If people notice and give genuine compliments, I say thanks! and keep it going. People close to me know though, like my family and my husband, but not people I work with or random friends.

lovelyx091

I don't post anything about it really, especially my weight loss. I don't want family to know yet, except my sister and niece because they're trying, too. My family would probably just at "yeah okay we'll see if you're serious" whereas my sister is very supportive and makes me feel good about trying. Friends, I don't tell. Unless they ask then I say that I am trying. Other than that, I will let them notice when more weight comes off.

splitendswoman

I don't really say much, unless asked. Years ago, I did tell everyone, and you wouldn't believe the amount of people who tried to sabotage my efforts, offering biscuits, cakes, sweets, etc. It was really annoying.

Also, if I am out and about and am offered something calorific to eat - I don't say "No I can't I'm on a diet", I just politely say "oh, I've just eaten and I'm not very hungry". If you say you're on a diet , they turn into Mrs Doyle from Father Ted - "You'll have some.. are you sure you don't want any? Aw go on, you'll have some. Go on go on go on go on go on go on go on go on GO ON! ! Lol!

wareje

I hide it for sure.
I'm a shorty and only want to loose a few kgs, if I ever pass on the morning tea cakes or mention I'm watching what I'm eating all I get is a stupid expression and a 'why you're already tiny'
nice of them to say but I know they are only saying that because I am 'tinier' than them, not 'tiny' for my height.

rosemaryhon

Is this strange? I haven't told many people that I have started exercising/losing weight. The reason being: When I have told people in the past I am trying to lose weight - they say they notice, but then I gain back and feel like I failed. My friends never say anything about me gaining it back, but it does bug me. Has anyone else just tried to lose weight secretly and NOT told many people? How has the long term motivation worked for anyone that has if no one knows?

My boyfriend of 7 years knows I am trying again and he has been very supported, like everytime else I have tried. He has NEVER made me feel like I have failed. (I just had to throw that out cuz I love him so much )

Yup, I didn't mention it to anyone at first, not even my husband, mom, or sisters. I'd lost about 15, maybe even 20 lbs before I said anything to them. I too didn't want to feel like a failure, I didn't trust I'd stick to it. This was something I did for myself mostly all by myself

alliemarie77

I have told my mother-in-law, my husband, and my kids. No one other than that.

I haven't really seen many people, or talked to anyone since my mother passed away. So that's why I haven't told anyone.

My cousins, aunts, and well... Mostly all of my family members are drama queens/kings. So I am waiting until I bump into one of them. I am still not telling them I have been trying to lose weight. If they notice, they notice. If they don't, they don't.
Either way, I am looking forward to hearing the rumors they will start about me. (-:

losingluisa

I think it just depends on WHO you're telling. I have a handful of close friends but I know who I can tell and who I can't. It doesn't define how close we are, there's just people who handle it well.
I'm not putting it on facebook. Those people who post every time they go for a run or every time they do a sit up drive me nuts. Haha.

MB_Positif

I didn't announce it to many people at all, just people who are around me all of the time. I don't really recall if I had a good reason for it, but now, 50 pounds later and having basically maintained that for a year +, people are still commenting on how well I did! Do it your way, whatever makes you comfortable. I had enough friends on here to hold me accountable!

Orfygirl

I don't hide it from people but I don't announce it in my everyday life. Most people close to me, including co workers know that I workout a minimum of 30 minutes a day. If the topic comes up it is just part of normal conversation.

fivethreeone

Choose your own adventure


1) I TELL EVERYONE AND THEY COMPLIMENT ME BUT I KNOW THEY JUST SAID IT BECAUSE I TOLD THEM.

2) I DON'T TELL ANYONE AND NOT EVEN MY HUSBAND NOTICES

3) I'VE LOST 30 POUNDS AND MY BOSS IS THE ONLY ONE WHO COMMENTED BUT THAT WAS TO FIRE ME FOR BEING TOO HOT NOW.

choijanro

i don't tell anyone about my weight loss,, i don't tell about my diet,supplements,exercise & schedule ,, i am happy about the people who compliment me but the people who are negative to me,, well i dont give a s**t or f**k ,, i just smile or laugh,, and karma will kill them :glasses:

_Waffle_

Choose your own adventure


1) I TELL EVERYONE AND THEY COMPLIMENT ME BUT I KNOW THEY JUST SAID IT BECAUSE I TOLD THEM.

2) I DON'T TELL ANYONE AND NOT EVEN MY HUSBAND NOTICES

3) I'VE LOST 30 POUNDS AND MY BOSS IS THE ONLY ONE WHO COMMENTED BUT THAT WAS TO FIRE ME FOR BEING TOO HOT NOW.

4) YOU WALKED INTO QUICKSAND. DO YOU GRAB THE ROPE HANGING ABOVE YOUR HEAD OR CALL FOR HELP

princesstoadstool82

I didnt and dont post on facebook about it... or any loses... but my partner and a few close friends know I am working on my body... and my family know I am working on getting my cholesterol down... ( and said friends)... the only people I see often are my close friends and my partner...

CoderGal

I didn't tell anyone squat. Nobody noticed until I was about 20lbs lighter. If I had my time back I'd choose 4)

Articeluvsmemphis

i don't think it's a matter of hiding it because when you lose it, they will notice anyway. i loss over 80, gained a little over 30 back and no one said anything, except my parents but not in a negative way.

not sure why people comment and give congrats when you lose, and say nothing when it goes back on. won't hurt my feelings actually not asking me about the weight gain hurts me a little, call me weird, lol

rhinesb

I recently read a book about a guy who lost his weight by not telling anyone. I mean people noticed eventually but he didn't announce his weight loss goals. And when they noticed he would just tell them that he's was just eating healthier. He wouldn't say he was actively trying to lose weight and he wouldn't tell them his goals. He said he yoyo'd in weight in his early attempts. When he told people he was on a diet and trying to lose weight he would see judgement in their eyes if he even touched a taboo food. He could be good all week or all month and then decide to have a slice or two of pizza or a slice of cake at a party and he'd have those people look at him with that 'you shouldn't eat that if you expect to lose weight' look on their face. When he told people he felt like a failure before he ever began.

Showing is better than telling as far as I am concerned.

I have not announced my weight loss to anyone. Though there are a few that know that I'm trying to get fit and healthy it is literally only a few.

corgicake

Friends aren't that hard to hide weight loss from, especially when it's summer and you're a college kid... it's the coworkers that I make an effort to hide it from. After close to a year and almost forty pounds gone I finally 'fessed up to one of the managers because there were no medium shirts in the store. I told the right one. Said manager is quietly losing too and has noticed the same trend of people trying to fatten up anyone who isn't overweight when they get hired and even some who are.

JanMarie2BHealthy

I prefer not to tell others about my goals - because it turn (in the past) it became the "topic of conversation" and scrutiny, advice, and comparisons - I was not comfortable. This time my husband, son, physician (and by accident my Mom) are the only ones who "know" my challenge.....

EDIT:* Laughing * well of course all of you know....

VioletNightshade

I didn't say anything at work for the longest time, until my boss pulled me aside and asked me if I was eating enough. The next week, one of my coworkers asked if I'd lost some weight, and then quizzed me at length about what I did to get there. More, because I have lost a significant amount (over 40lb) I get asked what I'm doing to get rid of it all.

Eventually they'll notice. It's not too difficult for me not to say anything. Usually they say something themselves when I stand up and have to pull up my jeans because they're slipping.

TribeHokie

I don't actively try to hide it but I don't talk about it either. There are a lot of factors that went in to that decision, but at the end of the day I am doing this because I want to and because it makes me feel better in so many ways. I don't really care if anyone knows or not.

VeggieKidMandy

I find that with women especially there is somewhat of a competition factor underneath their motivation , i dont see that too much on MFP because people are genuinely concerned for their health, but in a circle of friends when you are the heaviest one, the prettiest or the skinniest of the group is somewhat of the alpha....and they feel threatened that they might be over run. It's strange, but Ive noticed this with all the females Ive known my entire life.

So that being said, in a sense I do hide it from people I know, unless its my husband. I dont want unneeded competition to lose weight.

aNewYear123

I don't tell anyone mainly because it is my business and why would anyone else care. If they comment on the results or ask then I will talk about it. I will mention my exercise but that is more like telling someone I went to a movie, not in how it relates to weight loss.

Nix143

I have a wobbly gob and in the past have told all and sundry. This time I think I'm going to play it a little bit closer to my chest. No more Facebook statuses about a great lifting session or a healthy meal because they have inevitably been followed with a too fat to move and eaten my bodyweight in take away food status about a week later

Going to see if I can be quiet and mentally still about it to try and avoid the crazy emotional see saws I have related to my weight.