Shrinking boobs and bra size...

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  • Nony_Mouse
    Nony_Mouse Posts: 5,646 Member
    VintageFeline wrote: »
    Nony_Mouse wrote: »
    GottaBurnEmAll wrote: »
    tyrindor wrote: »
    Nony_Mouse wrote: »
    Oh, and anyone worried about losing too much cup size, dietary fat is your friend here (fact). Obviously there's genetics there that you can't control against without a surgeon, but if you cut your fat intake too low, you're not helping the twins.

    Chiming in here because I knew a girl that didn't want to lose weight because of this, and now she looks great after accepting being fit is far more attractive than bigger boobs.

    Girls worrying about losing cup sizes during weight loss really shouldn't at all. Most guys prefer a bust that fits the frame, so in many cases it's better to lose both and keep the balance. Amongst my guy friends, I'd say most think B/C cup on a small frame is the most attractive build you can have. If frame is small, A cup is also attractive and some guys prefer it. Personally, anything bigger starts to lose some attractiveness for me but it's still attractive.

    Some guys prefer DDs, and some guys prefer As and Bs. Most guys love all sizes. So seriously don't be afraid of losing some cups, and definitely don't stop weight loss because of it! Get to a healthy ideal BF% and you'll be the most attractive you can be.

    If you want to keep the boobs "for you", that's a different story, but remember the perks of smaller boobs... less back problems, and they hold up better with gravity/age. They aren't a bad thing. :)

    Okay, seriously... women's breasts are not about what guys prefer.

    Oh no, we should totally only be caring about what they think. Why the hell don't we have an eyeroll emoji??

    I don't know, when I started losing weight at the forefront of my mind 100% was whether I could get my cup size to the "ideal" being presented here of a B/C cup because it's all about the menz.

    Edit though: For reals did a man just come in here to tell us how attractive or not our boobs are to men and what we should want to be attractive to them? It is 2017 yes?

    There's always one, it seems. I get men wandering into a thread about boobs, but most have the good sense not to comment (unless they happen to be a bra specialist). And especially not to tell us what is and isn't attractive to them.

    And the more tissue you're able to retain, the less saggy they're likely to be. I can't speak for all women, obviously, but that's personally something I'm interested in. I live with these things 24/7. I'd like them to look their best, just as I'd like the rest of my body to look its best. And again, that's for me.
  • Nony_Mouse
    Nony_Mouse Posts: 5,646 Member
    edited December 2017
    tyrindor wrote: »
    Oh for crying out loud. I can't help but laugh. I even stated "If you want to keep the boobs for you, that's a different story" because I knew someone would claim "boobs are not about what guys want". NEWFLASH: It's normal to want to be attractive to the opposite sex/husband/wife/etc. To say it's not something you think about is simply absurd.

    Most guys DON'T care and that's my point, unless YOU need them for YOUR confidence then it's a pointless thing to worry about. Lose the damn weight and be healthy.



    Are you actually trying to dig yourself into a deeper hole?? Srsly.

    You came in with a whole lot of presumptive statements, such as sacrificing health, fitness, etc for the sake of cup size, and then went on about what men find most attractive.

    I DON'T need them for MY confidence. I happen to like the way they look. That's it. Aesthetics.

    Already lost the weight. Healthy. With an impressive, standing up well to age and gravity rack.
  • Nony_Mouse
    Nony_Mouse Posts: 5,646 Member
    tyrindor wrote: »
    Oh for crying out loud. I can't help but laugh. I even stated "If you want to keep the boobs for you, that's a different story" because I knew someone would claim "boobs are not about what guys want". NEWFLASH: It's normal to want to be attractive to the opposite sex/husband/wife/etc. To say it's not something you think about is absurd.

    Most guys DON'T care and that's my point, unless YOU need them for YOUR confidence then it's a pointless thing to worry about. Lose the damn weight and be healthy.
    Nony_Mouse wrote: »
    There's always one, it seems. I get men wandering into a thread about boobs, but most have the good sense not to comment (unless they happen to be a bra specialist). And especially not to tell us what is and isn't attractive to them.

    No, I just didn't realize this forum was full of a bunch of feminist that apparently do things only for them. Don't worry you opened my eyes. I definitely won't pop in here again.

    I'm just glad my wife isn't that way, if she told me that she keeps herself looking nice only for her and my opinion doesn't matter, I wouldn't be happy seeing as I try to make myself look the best I can for her.

    Oh and just wow at that edit! The 1950s are calling, dude.

    Signed, *kitten* proud feminist
  • VintageFeline
    VintageFeline Posts: 6,771 Member
    Nony_Mouse wrote: »
    tyrindor wrote: »
    Oh for crying out loud. I can't help but laugh. I even stated "If you want to keep the boobs for you, that's a different story" because I knew someone would claim "boobs are not about what guys want". NEWFLASH: It's normal to want to be attractive to the opposite sex/husband/wife/etc. To say it's not something you think about is absurd.

    Most guys DON'T care and that's my point, unless YOU need them for YOUR confidence then it's a pointless thing to worry about. Lose the damn weight and be healthy.
    Nony_Mouse wrote: »
    There's always one, it seems. I get men wandering into a thread about boobs, but most have the good sense not to comment (unless they happen to be a bra specialist). And especially not to tell us what is and isn't attractive to them.

    No, I just didn't realize this forum was full of a bunch of feminist that apparently do things only for them. Don't worry you opened my eyes. I definitely won't pop in here again.

    I'm just glad my wife isn't that way, if she told me that she keeps herself looking nice only for her and my opinion doesn't matter, I wouldn't be happy seeing as I try to make myself look the best I can for her.

    Oh and just wow at that edit! The 1950s are calling, dude.

    Signed, *kitten* proud feminist

    Also LOLing and the edit. I'm a feminist but that really has little to do with not needing unsolicited advice from anyone, not just men and not just about how I can make myself attractive for men.
  • batorkin
    batorkin Posts: 281 Member
    edited December 2017
    Nony_Mouse wrote: »
    You came in with a whole lot of presumptive statements, such as sacrificing health, fitness, etc for the sake of cup size, and then went on about what men find most attractive.

    Actually your statement is what made me post in the first place:
    Oh, and anyone worried about losing too much cup size, dietary fat is your friend here (fact). Obviously there's genetics there that you can't control against without a surgeon, but if you cut your fat intake too low, you're not helping the twins.

    You suggested if anyone was worried to eat more fat, and even mentioned surgery. My friend was depressed, and thought she was no longer attractive with small boobs. She started eating again because she wanted her boobs back. She lost weight to be more attractive, everyone has different reasons.

    I was just adding to your post that losing some size doesn't really matter, losing weight is the most important thing. If you like how they look, or they give you confidence, THAT'S FINE, but at the cost of being overweight it's not worth it.

    You ladies can translate that however you want, it's clear there's no getting through to this crowd. I'll always be the bad guy here, so what's the point. My point got twisted around completely, so no reason this won't too.
    VintageFeline wrote: »
    tyrindor wrote: »
    Oh for crying out loud. I can't help but laugh. I even stated "If you want to keep the boobs for you, that's a different story" because I knew someone would claim "boobs are not about what guys want". NEWFLASH: It's normal to want to be attractive to the opposite sex/husband/wife/etc.

    Most guys DON'T care and that's my point, unless YOU need them for YOUR confidence then it's a pointless thing to worry about. Lose the damn weight and be healthy.



    Why did you even think it necessary to offer up your pearls of wisdom? That's the point. Not yours or anyone elses personal preferences, just your need to vocalise them unsolicited.

    See above. My close friend got seriously depressed about this, and I wanted to chime in and say it's not a big deal if they get smaller. Sorry, I guess? I tried to explain that guys don't care about boobs as much as we lead on, and I even agreed that it mostly comes down to what the person they are attached to wants. That wasn't good enough though.

    I rest my case. Been on this site for about 48 days now, and honestly I don't know why I come to the forums anymore. Probably going to just go back to my old community because clearly I meant no harm but this community is not very motivating when you get talked *kitten* to just for making a harmless statement.
  • Nony_Mouse
    Nony_Mouse Posts: 5,646 Member
    tyrindor wrote: »
    Nony_Mouse wrote: »
    You came in with a whole lot of presumptive statements, such as sacrificing health, fitness, etc for the sake of cup size, and then went on about what men find most attractive.

    Actually your statement is what made me post in the first place:
    Oh, and anyone worried about losing too much cup size, dietary fat is your friend here (fact). Obviously there's genetics there that you can't control against without a surgeon, but if you cut your fat intake too low, you're not helping the twins.

    You suggested if anyone was worried to eat more fat, and even mentioned surgery. My friend was depressed, and thought she was no longer attractive with small boobs. She started eating again because she wanted her boobs back. She lost weight to be more attractive, everyone has different reasons.

    I was just adding to your post that losing some size doesn't really matter, losing weight is the most important thing. If you like how they look, or they give you confidence, THAT'S FINE, but at the cost of being overweight it's not worth it.

    You ladies can translate that however you want, it's clear there's no getting through to this crowd. I'll always be the bad guy here, so what's the point. My point got twisted around completely, so no reason this won't too.

    Read again, I said don't cut fat too low, because way too many women do. The surgeon bit was a flip comment. I also said you can't fight genetics. I never even slightly insinuated that anyone should remain overweight or sacrifice their health in any other way. YOU decided, based on nothing, to do that. You absolutely came across as suggesting I was sacrificing health and fitness for the sake of cup size.

    We didn't twist anything. You stuck your oar in with your mansplaining and telling us how you blokes will still like us just fine with smaller boobs.
  • GottaBurnEmAll
    GottaBurnEmAll Posts: 7,722 Member
    edited December 2017
    Nony_Mouse wrote: »
    tyrindor wrote: »
    Nony_Mouse wrote: »
    You came in with a whole lot of presumptive statements, such as sacrificing health, fitness, etc for the sake of cup size, and then went on about what men find most attractive.

    Actually your statement is what made me post in the first place:
    Oh, and anyone worried about losing too much cup size, dietary fat is your friend here (fact). Obviously there's genetics there that you can't control against without a surgeon, but if you cut your fat intake too low, you're not helping the twins.

    You suggested if anyone was worried to eat more fat, and even mentioned surgery. My friend was depressed, and thought she was no longer attractive with small boobs. She started eating again because she wanted her boobs back. She lost weight to be more attractive, everyone has different reasons.

    I was just adding to your post that losing some size doesn't really matter, losing weight is the most important thing. If you like how they look, or they give you confidence, THAT'S FINE, but at the cost of being overweight it's not worth it.

    You ladies can translate that however you want, it's clear there's no getting through to this crowd. I'll always be the bad guy here, so what's the point. My point got twisted around completely, so no reason this won't too.
    VintageFeline wrote: »
    tyrindor wrote: »
    Oh for crying out loud. I can't help but laugh. I even stated "If you want to keep the boobs for you, that's a different story" because I knew someone would claim "boobs are not about what guys want". NEWFLASH: It's normal to want to be attractive to the opposite sex/husband/wife/etc.

    Most guys DON'T care and that's my point, unless YOU need them for YOUR confidence then it's a pointless thing to worry about. Lose the damn weight and be healthy.



    Why did you even think it necessary to offer up your pearls of wisdom? That's the point. Not yours or anyone elses personal preferences, just your need to vocalise them unsolicited.

    See above. My close friend got seriously depressed about this, and I wanted to chime in and say it's not a big deal if they get smaller. Sorry, I guess? I tried to explain that guys don't care about boobs as much as we lead on, and I even agreed that it mostly comes down to what the person they are attached to wants. That wasn't good enough though.

    I rest my case. Been on this site for about 48 days now, and honestly I don't know why I come to the forums anymore. Probably going to just go back to my old community because clearly I meant no harm but this community is not very motivating when you get talked *kitten* to just for making a harmless statement.

    If you think it was harmless, you need to re-evaluate.

    Of course it was harmless. It's just those wimmin folk getting all bothered about something a man tried to tell them about when they should be a'listenin' to him and his 'splainin'.

    Sarcasm aside, men have no idea how women are erased as equals in standing as casually as this all the damned time and don't even realize when they're doing it.
  • mph323
    mph323 Posts: 3,563 Member
    I'm always bemused by the way the "feminist"* card gets thrown every time a woman discloses she doesn't give a damn what a man might think of how she looks or what she wears. Nobody bats an eyelash when we don't give a damn what other women think.

    *code for "selfish *kitten*"
  • GottaBurnEmAll
    GottaBurnEmAll Posts: 7,722 Member
    mph323 wrote: »
    I'm always bemused by the way the "feminist"* card gets thrown every time a woman discloses she doesn't give a damn what a man might think of how she looks or what she wears. Nobody bats an eyelash when we don't give a damn what other women think.

    *code for "selfish *kitten*"

    Being a feminist is just the absolute worst. I'm telling you. Those women these days, not knowing when to stay in their place.
  • mph323
    mph323 Posts: 3,563 Member
    edited December 2017
    Nony_Mouse wrote: »
    tyrindor wrote: »
    Nony_Mouse wrote: »
    You came in with a whole lot of presumptive statements, such as sacrificing health, fitness, etc for the sake of cup size, and then went on about what men find most attractive.

    Actually your statement is what made me post in the first place:
    Oh, and anyone worried about losing too much cup size, dietary fat is your friend here (fact). Obviously there's genetics there that you can't control against without a surgeon, but if you cut your fat intake too low, you're not helping the twins.

    You suggested if anyone was worried to eat more fat, and even mentioned surgery. My friend was depressed, and thought she was no longer attractive with small boobs. She started eating again because she wanted her boobs back. She lost weight to be more attractive, everyone has different reasons.

    I was just adding to your post that losing some size doesn't really matter, losing weight is the most important thing. If you like how they look, or they give you confidence, THAT'S FINE, but at the cost of being overweight it's not worth it.

    You ladies can translate that however you want, it's clear there's no getting through to this crowd. I'll always be the bad guy here, so what's the point. My point got twisted around completely, so no reason this won't too.

    Read again, I said don't cut fat too low, because way too many women do. The surgeon bit was a flip comment. I also said you can't fight genetics. I never even slightly insinuated that anyone should remain overweight or sacrifice their health in any other way. YOU decided, based on nothing, to do that. You absolutely came across as suggesting I was sacrificing health and fitness for the sake of cup size.

    We didn't twist anything. You stuck your oar in with your mansplaining and telling us how you blokes will still like us just fine with smaller boobs.

    But prefer us with specific sizes to match our body shape, if we can manage it.

  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 19,200 Member
    mph323 wrote: »
    I'm always bemused by the way the "feminist"* card gets thrown every time a woman discloses she doesn't give a damn what a man might think of how she looks or what she wears. Nobody bats an eyelash when we don't give a damn what other women think.

    *code for "selfish *kitten*"

    If being a feminist means that I place my own views on what's attractive over some guy opinions on the internet, then I'm a feminist.

    Guys who use it as an insult like this completely miss the level of arrogance it takes to sit there and be offended that a stranger doesn't need their validation to decide for themselves what's attractive.

    (Hint: I'm a feminist. A big, loud, proud one.)
  • GottaBurnEmAll
    GottaBurnEmAll Posts: 7,722 Member
    VintageFeline wrote: »
    Down with the feminazis! Know your place.

    Oh. You need to read Twitter today since you used that word.

    Back to the thread.
  • Nony_Mouse
    Nony_Mouse Posts: 5,646 Member
    mph323 wrote: »
    Nony_Mouse wrote: »
    tyrindor wrote: »
    Nony_Mouse wrote: »
    You came in with a whole lot of presumptive statements, such as sacrificing health, fitness, etc for the sake of cup size, and then went on about what men find most attractive.

    Actually your statement is what made me post in the first place:
    Oh, and anyone worried about losing too much cup size, dietary fat is your friend here (fact). Obviously there's genetics there that you can't control against without a surgeon, but if you cut your fat intake too low, you're not helping the twins.

    You suggested if anyone was worried to eat more fat, and even mentioned surgery. My friend was depressed, and thought she was no longer attractive with small boobs. She started eating again because she wanted her boobs back. She lost weight to be more attractive, everyone has different reasons.

    I was just adding to your post that losing some size doesn't really matter, losing weight is the most important thing. If you like how they look, or they give you confidence, THAT'S FINE, but at the cost of being overweight it's not worth it.

    You ladies can translate that however you want, it's clear there's no getting through to this crowd. I'll always be the bad guy here, so what's the point. My point got twisted around completely, so no reason this won't too.

    Read again, I said don't cut fat too low, because way too many women do. The surgeon bit was a flip comment. I also said you can't fight genetics. I never even slightly insinuated that anyone should remain overweight or sacrifice their health in any other way. YOU decided, based on nothing, to do that. You absolutely came across as suggesting I was sacrificing health and fitness for the sake of cup size.

    We didn't twist anything. You stuck your oar in with your mansplaining and telling us how you blokes will still like us just fine with smaller boobs.

    But prefer us with specific sizes to match our body shape, if we can manage it.

    Mine apparently being too big for my little torso (whilst somehow simultaneously sacrificing a healthy weight and body fat percentage to achieve that).

    Honestly, I don't see that little nugget of mine about not dropping dietary fat too low as being any different to the advice we give to strength train during weight loss for better body composition at the end. Genetics still play a big role, and obviously not every woman wants to retain what they have (and you're not going to retain it all). But I'm sure most also don't want to be left with deflated sacks with no shape.
  • mph323
    mph323 Posts: 3,563 Member
    tyrindor wrote: »
    mph323 wrote: »
    I'm always bemused by the way the "feminist"* card gets thrown every time a woman discloses she doesn't give a damn what a man might think of how she looks or what she wears. Nobody bats an eyelash when we don't give a damn what other women think.

    *code for "selfish *kitten*"

    Feminist gets thrown around when things like this are said:
    Sarcasm aside, men have no idea how women are erased as equals in standing as casually as this all the damned time and don't even realize when they're doing it.

    Its funny that so many women can claim men don't look at women as equals, but when I just made a statement in here and because I am a guy the only thing gotten from my post was "he thinks girl's boobs are only about what guys want". I am married and have a daughter, I definitely view women as equals. Who's really treating who unequally?

    Again, harmless comment that was taken way out of context because I am a guy. I stand by my original comment, and I had good intentions by encouraging weight loss and ignoring the fact your boobs might get smaller. I even showed this thread to my wife, and it's funny she threw the word "feminist" out before even reading the post where I claimed the same.

    I've learned my lesson not to post in girl-issue related threads in this community anymore. Continue on... lol.

    Since the thread is actually about finding the right bra size after losing weight I'm not sure what you thought you were contributing to this WOMEN'S issue discussion.
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