Husbands
After about an eight month plateau, I have begun the transition into primal eating and exercising. I have been working really hard to stay primal, but my husband puts up a big fuss about the cost of buying locally based meats and eggs. I am even thinking of giving up my gym membership, just so I don't have to hear about it anymore. Ever since I started this journey a couple of years ago, I truly found something that I take great pride in, my health and fitness, it just seems that he is my biggest obstacle at times. I have tried to convince him to change his eating habits, but he is all about the junk and sodium. The man doesn't even like fruits or veggies, heck he doesn't even like pasta, even though I don't eat pasta myself. So, how does one try to make their spouse happy without loosing something you truly are passionate about and love?
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come to a compromise (dont buy locally based eggs and meats?)0
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Buy a few hens and get your own eggs daily! They're the best!!!!0
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come to a compromise (dont buy locally based eggs and meats?)
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Yeah, no one ever got healthy not eating locally raised meat and eggs.0
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Buy your own meat and eggs?0
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I do, just trying to not make him upset when I come home from the organic store....Buy your own meat and eggs?0 -
Sell your hubby and buy a cow and hen
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You need to do what you feel is right for you. I have to be very careful on what i eat as it seems that i can gain weight just by looking at food. My wife, on the other hand, eats whatever she wants and never seems to gain an ounce. I try to eat paleo/primal but get sidetracked with the pasta's and other stuff she enjoys eating. If you look, you can usually find a local store that will sell meat that you can feel good eating and may even save you some money. I would also consider a co-op, where you can go in with others and get better prices on the meat and eggs. Remember, you can not change him. He has to want to change. Try to work out something you both can agree on. I would also advise against giving up your gym membership unless you are able to workout at home and have the motivation to do it.
Just my thoughts. Good luck.0 -
Yeah, no one ever got healthy not eating locally raised meat and eggs.
fair enough.... With the whole primal thing, I just wanted to stay away from the grain fed and hormone injection in animals....
But, I see what everyone is saying...0 -
Yeah, no one ever got healthy not eating locally raised meat and eggs.
fair enough.... With the whole primal thing, I just wanted to stay away from the grain fed and hormone injection in animals....
But, I see what everyone is saying...
Treating an eating philosophy as a religion, especially when it really isn't necessary, and harming your marriage is not a great idea. Just something to think about.0 -
Sounds like your hubby is really focusing on the cost of specialty foods and gym memberships.
Maybe try to find a cheaper gym or ymca?0 -
I do, just trying to not make him upset when I come home from the organic store....Buy your own meat and eggs?
Then he shouldn't have a say in what you buy with your hard earned money. You keep doing what you feel is right for you. Also, congrats on your 101lbs lost! Wow!0 -
Maybe tell your husband to stop acting like turd and be thankful for the smoking hot wife he has.0
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It's your money and you're helping yourself and the environment, I say good for you. Sounds like he is just being bossy for tne heck of it. Unless you're near bankruptcy he shouldn't be such a tightwad on what is important to you.0
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cloveraz
I am beginning to feel your pain. Its been less than a week that I have adopted a vegan diet. A couple of nights this week I have prepared tasty vegan meals. One was an asian stir-fry with brown rice and last night we had vegan chilli beans with corn chips. The other nights I have been cooking what my kids like to eat and I have been eating the left-over vegan dinners from the night before.
This morning for breakfast I prepared for my wife traditional oats rather than the 90-second microwave variety that she is used to. The poor thing couldn't cope.
I just don't get the negativity.
I hope it works out for you and your husband.
kind regards,
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I think it's the whole. it was good enough for my parents, and it was good enough for me growing up thing.
Well guess what, times change and our understanding of nutrition has gotten better.
Funny how the people closest to you can be the most toxic0 -
I do, just trying to not make him upset when I come home from the organic store....Buy your own meat and eggs?
Then he shouldn't have a say in what you buy with your hard earned money. You keep doing what you feel is right for you. Also, congrats on your 101lbs lost! Wow!
It isn't "her" hard earned money it is "their" hard earned money.0 -
I do, just trying to not make him upset when I come home from the organic store....Buy your own meat and eggs?
Then he shouldn't have a say in what you buy with your hard earned money. You keep doing what you feel is right for you. Also, congrats on your 101lbs lost! Wow!
It isn't "her" hard earned money it is "their" hard earned money.
It depends on if their fiances are combined. If it is "her" own money and if she doesn't tell "him" what to do with his money. Not all marriages have combined finances, it's 2013.0 -
I do, just trying to not make him upset when I come home from the organic store....Buy your own meat and eggs?
Then he shouldn't have a say in what you buy with your hard earned money. You keep doing what you feel is right for you. Also, congrats on your 101lbs lost! Wow!
It isn't "her" hard earned money it is "their" hard earned money.
It depends on if their fiances are combined. If it is "her" own money and if she doesn't tell "him" what to do with his money. Not all marriages have combined finances, it's 2013.
Yeah, because combining finances is an antiquated concept.0 -
Yeah, no one ever got healthy not eating locally raised meat and eggs.
fair enough.... With the whole primal thing, I just wanted to stay away from the grain fed and hormone injection in animals....
But, I see what everyone is saying...
Treating an eating philosophy as a religion, especially when it really isn't necessary, and harming your marriage is not a great idea. Just something to think about.
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I do, just trying to not make him upset when I come home from the organic store....Buy your own meat and eggs?
Then he shouldn't have a say in what you buy with your hard earned money. You keep doing what you feel is right for you. Also, congrats on your 101lbs lost! Wow!
It isn't "her" hard earned money it is "their" hard earned money.
It depends on if their fiances are combined. If it is "her" own money and if she doesn't tell "him" what to do with his money. Not all marriages have combined finances, it's 2013.
Yeah, because combining finances is an antiquated concept.
It totally is. Sounds like you are bitter about your situation. Not everyone is like you. :flowerforyou:0 -
I share your concern about hormones in dairy and meat products. Luckily, lots of the bigger brands that they carry in grocery stores are adopting hormone-free stances (and posting them on product labels.)
Some common ones are Daisy, Mountain High and Darigold.
A lot of stores like Safeway, Costco or Walmart carry meat and eggs without hormones as well. You can get the stuff without going to an organic store and he doesn't have to know.
Not that I advise keeping secrets in a marriage, but sometimes a little discretion goes a long way toward keeping the peace.
And a plus for both of you, it's usually cheaper.
Also, it sounds like a deeper issue - it seems unreasonable that he's really that angry about organic meats. Is there something else going on?0 -
I do, just trying to not make him upset when I come home from the organic store....Buy your own meat and eggs?
Then he shouldn't have a say in what you buy with your hard earned money. You keep doing what you feel is right for you. Also, congrats on your 101lbs lost! Wow!
It isn't "her" hard earned money it is "their" hard earned money.
It depends on if their fiances are combined. If it is "her" own money and if she doesn't tell "him" what to do with his money. Not all marriages have combined finances, it's 2013.
Yeah, because combining finances is an antiquated concept.
It totally is. Sounds like you are bitter about your situation. Not everyone is like you. :flowerforyou:
My...situation? Please tell me what I have to be bitter about. :laugh:
And no, it isn't an antiquated concept. The husband controlling the finances and being the sole breadwinner are antiquated concepts. A married couple combining finances and having an equal say and shared responsibility in their household's financial planning are NOT antiquated concepts.0 -
I've found 2 things when it comes to local meat and eggs
There's high priced specialty store local meat and eggs
Then there's the farmers markets on weekends where the farmer sells direct and you end up paying at worst only slightly more than supermarket generic pre packed rough cut price
As for the rest its all in communication, explain to him how much it means, I'm sure he as something in his life that also costs a fair chunk that you get nothing out of, explain this is your thing.0 -
Maybe tell your husband to stop acting like turd and be thankful for the smoking hot wife he has.
:flowerforyou: this!0 -
My boyfriend and I went through this a bit, so we decided to buy our won eggs/meat etc. I buy local everything and he gets his own stuff. Every one is happy.
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Interesting subject. I lost my partner due to my weight lose after 4 years in relationship. I am not sure what was worst, my food regime or me losing so much weight ...he likes girls with bum size of triple wardrobe with a mirror...But then again, if it was just about my physical side..I let him go gladly 0
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Yeah, no one ever got healthy not eating locally raised meat and eggs.
fair enough.... With the whole primal thing, I just wanted to stay away from the grain fed and hormone injection in animals....
But, I see what everyone is saying...
buying local is an economic and/or political decision, not a health one. It's about reducing food miles (transportation of food contributes to pollution and burning of fossil fuels) and about supporting local farmers and the local economy.
whether locally grown food has more or less hormones etc, whether it's grain fed or not depends entirely on where you live. My local is not your local. I live in Bahrain, and local farming in Bahrain and surrounding countries is totally different to the west, locally produced food here is much cheaper than imported food. And the issue of pesticides in food will vary according to the country of origin and their regulations, not whether it's local or not. Avoid food from countries with really lax standards for that kind of thing, but transporting food around doesn't make it get full of hormones and pesticides. And even locally produced food in the supermarket will have spent time in warehouses etc so isn't necessarily any fresher either.
If you're on a tight budget then you don't really have the luxury of making many political decisions when it comes to what food you buy (but you can to some extent about issues you feel really strongly about). Given your situation with your husband, a good compromise would probably be to continue to eat primal but to forget about the whole locally produced thing and just focus on eating a healthy diet. This should bring your food bill down, which seems to be his main concern. In terms of what he eats, you can't make him change, he has to want it for himself for his own reasons, so best to just get on with eating what you want to eat and let him do the same.0 -
Eating local, even organic, is more of a political consideration than a health one. The food and hygiene standard in USA is such that I don't see a perceptible difference between organic and non organic health-wise. If he doesn't share your political view and you don't compromise, then it's going to be tough times ahead.0
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Maybe tell your husband to stop acting like turd and be thankful for the smoking hot wife he has.
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