How do you do it?

NoCookiesBish
NoCookiesBish Posts: 126 Member
edited November 23 in Chit-Chat
How do you guys keep yourselves from stewing over pointless things that have upset you?
Do you get wasted? Take a long drive to clear your mind? Spend every dollar you have then go home and eat your feelings?
Give me some tips!
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  • NoCookiesBish
    NoCookiesBish Posts: 126 Member
    I usually eat my feelings, but I'm trying hard not to. These 35lbs were hard enough to lose, I'm not going to waste my progress on something so stupid!
  • joemac1988
    joemac1988 Posts: 1,021 Member
    If it's pointless, I don't worry about it. I have plenty of things that matter to worry about that I have no spare mental bandwidth to stress over petty things. I have a thing I go by; If it's not going to matter in 5 years, don't spend more than 5 minutes on it.
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    Go for a walk with my favorite music on or get on the treadmill with a good tv show.
  • MrSith
    MrSith Posts: 1,636 Member
    It's all about perception. bniu0tr6papm.jpg
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  • NewlifeinNW
    NewlifeinNW Posts: 3,866 Member
    I take a drive, inevitably in Atlanta traffic someone will piss you off in the first five minutes so you'll forget what was already bugging you.

    Music helps, getting out for a walk/run for time to think too.
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  • deputy_randolph
    deputy_randolph Posts: 940 Member
    I don't usually stew over pointless things anymore. It's not worth the time or energy.

    I've gotten to the point in my life where I am so busy and physically exhausted that I don't have the energy to devote to pointless things.

    So I guess the answer is that I keep my mind occupied with work/kids, and my body occupied with lifting.
  • NewlifeinNW
    NewlifeinNW Posts: 3,866 Member
    Helltoupee7 wrote: »
    csbnga wrote: »
    I take a drive, inevitably in Atlanta traffic someone will piss you off in the first five minutes so you'll forget what was already bugging you.

    Music helps, getting out for a walk/run for time to think too.

    Right? Atlanta traffic just makes you want to kill yourself. Problem solved. Move to Georgia people.

    Dont say that! Because even more traffic
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  • NewlifeinNW
    NewlifeinNW Posts: 3,866 Member
    Helltoupee7 wrote: »
    csbnga wrote: »
    Helltoupee7 wrote: »
    csbnga wrote: »
    I take a drive, inevitably in Atlanta traffic someone will piss you off in the first five minutes so you'll forget what was already bugging you.

    Music helps, getting out for a walk/run for time to think too.

    Right? Atlanta traffic just makes you want to kill yourself. Problem solved. Move to Georgia people.

    Dont say that! Because even more traffic

    Never mind people, Georgia is closed.

    Theyd hate it here. No creampuffs, obesity factor is high, everything is fried, we call them donut holes, we have a 4 alarm panic at the mention of snow, and we have bats in our attics
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  • LittleHearseDriver
    LittleHearseDriver Posts: 2,677 Member
    I watch a movie that makes me cry, browse Pinterest for sentimental mumbo-jumbo, go for a walk or get on the treadmill and pretend I'm running away from my problems.
  • caco_ethes
    caco_ethes Posts: 11,962 Member
    I watch Blackhawk Down and then be thankful for my quiet normalish life. :grimace:
  • 81Katz
    81Katz Posts: 7,074 Member
    A few things ...
    1. Eat (awful choice, don't do that.)
    2. Drink (I don't drink anymore, solves nothing. See line 1, eating solves nothing either.)
    3. Long walks, like a good few hours, 10 miles, etc. Or a workout in general. Sometimes I'm all "I sooooo don't wanna do this!!!" But in the end I'm always glad I did.
    4. Write letters to people who are bugging me. But NOT send them. It's really awesome to tell someone what a giant piece of crap they are and all the ways they hurt/irritate/disappoint you, etc. So at least by the next time you see them you're likely not stewing (as much).
    5. I sometimes rage clean. Wash woodwork, take the whole stove apart, nearly scrub the porcelain off the bath tub. lol
    6. And if all else fails I just go quiet (which can be a very bad sign) but it keeps me from saying something nasty (that I'll probably regret) and when my mind is more calm I'm usually ready to talk about it, like a civilized person.
  • NewlifeinNW
    NewlifeinNW Posts: 3,866 Member
    81Katz wrote: »
    A few things ...
    1. Eat (awful choice, don't do that.)
    2. Drink (I don't drink anymore, solves nothing. See line 1, eating solves nothing either.)
    3. Long walks, like a good few hours, 10 miles, etc. Or a workout in general. Sometimes I'm all "I sooooo don't wanna do this!!!" But in the end I'm always glad I did.
    4. Write letters to people who are bugging me. But NOT send them. It's really awesome to tell someone what a giant piece of crap they are and all the ways they hurt/irritate/disappoint you, etc. So at least by the next time you see them you're likely not stewing (as much).
    5. I sometimes rage clean. Wash woodwork, take the whole stove apart, nearly scrub the porcelain off the bath tub. lol
    6. And if all else fails I just go quiet (which can be a very bad sign) but it keeps me from saying something nasty (that I'll probably regret) and when my mind is more calm I'm usually ready to talk about it, like a civilized person.

    Yes, cleaning, good one, I do that as well.
  • xFunctionalStrengthx
    xFunctionalStrengthx Posts: 4,928 Member
    Like water on the back of a duck.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    When I am unhappy or stressed, I share my feelings with whoever made me unhappy or stressed.
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  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    1. Knit/crochet
    2. Draw/paint
    3. Drink.. a lot.
    4. Read a book.
    5. Look at funny cat memes online.
    6. Play a violent video game or one I really enjoy (like Skyrim!)
    7. Maybe drink some more.
    8. Eventually realize it's not worth being angry about because I hate wasting time being angry. Just makes you bitter and sad in the end.
    9. Drink a bit more in solidarity to myself.
    10. Repeat process if necessary.
    11. Sleep.
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  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
    "Sometimes when I feel like killing someone,
    I do a little trick to calm myself down.
    I'll go over to the person's house and ring the doorbell.
    When the person comes to the door, I'm gone,
    but you know what I've left on the porch?
    A jack-o-lantern with a knife stuck in the side
    of its head with a note that says "You."
    After that I usually feel a lot better, and no harm done. "

    -Jack Handy
  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
    edited December 2017
    But also I distract myself so I can't think about it, for example, listening to music, social media, exercise, video games, things like that. Humor and laughing also help.
  • sllm1
    sllm1 Posts: 2,130 Member
    Exercise - I can start a workout as mad as can be (usually at hubby and it's legitimate anger) - but by the end we are both fine. Endorphins.
  • RunHardBeStrong
    RunHardBeStrong Posts: 33,069 Member
    I usually remind myself that I am wasting emotions rehashing it, I can't change it. If I can change then I should put my energy into doing so. Otherwise, let it go. If I can't let it go, then I pop a xanax.
  • NoCookiesBish
    NoCookiesBish Posts: 126 Member
    Great suggestions everyone! I was going to use the pumpkin idea, but decided to go snuggle some cows in 10° weather instead. Turns out, shoveling a massive amount of poo is a great way to clear the mind of its own poo.


    And when you smell like a barn it's easy to not eat :grimace:
  • Caporegiem
    Caporegiem Posts: 4,297 Member
    NoCookiesBish wrote: »
    Great suggestions everyone! I was going to use the pumpkin idea, but decided to go snuggle some cows in 10° weather instead. Turns out, shoveling a massive amount of poo is a great way to clear the mind of its own poo.


    And when you smell like a barn it's easy to not eat :grimace:

    Do you think it has to be poo for it to successfully clear your mind? Or could I shovel say, a warehouse full of packing peanuts and get the same effect?
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    As f'd up as I am inside at times, I still have a good base level of comfort and acceptance of myself as I am, so anything that someone would say against me really doesn't bother me. I am also accepting of people as they are, without silly expectations, but always with positive hope, so will I may get disappointed I don't really get mad there either.
  • NoCookiesBish
    NoCookiesBish Posts: 126 Member
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    NoCookiesBish wrote: »
    Great suggestions everyone! I was going to use the pumpkin idea, but decided to go snuggle some cows in 10° weather instead. Turns out, shoveling a massive amount of poo is a great way to clear the mind of its own poo.


    And when you smell like a barn it's easy to not eat :grimace:

    Do you think it has to be poo for it to successfully clear your mind? Or could I shovel say, a warehouse full of packing peanuts and get the same effect?

    I guess it would depend on the person. Could be snow, packing peanuts, cat poo, body parts, earth, etc.
    Just depends on what you're in to :smirk:



    Cleaning in general help me a lot though.
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    Let things go that which I can not change. Looking for positives instead of dwelling on negatives.
    Meditate, exercise, get busy with other tasks, music, drawing, reading, killing things in video games learning new things.
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