Can I back out of being a bridesmaid?
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Personally, I'd back out. Any semi decent person would understand that extreme event location changes and date changes would mean that some guests have to cancel. But whatever you decide, let your friend know asap so they have a fair amount of time to fill the spot if needed.0
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Jackibrazil wrote: »My friend asked me to be a bridesmaid and I was so happy and said yes. She had a date and a venue. My other good friend asked me to be maid of honor and her wedding is 5 weeks after. Perfect right? Wrong. First friend wants to not only change her date to dangerously close to friend number two, but the wedding evolved to a destination wedding and now I'm expected to come up with $600 to pay for my hotel stay for TWO NIGHTS at this resort. She's buying the plane tickets, but I wasn't expecting to have to do this in addition to buying my dress, contributing to showers and bachelorette parties and such. What do you guys think?
Yes back out.0 -
It’s called pulling out and your success rate may vary1
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TheRoadDog wrote: »How important is this person's friendship to you? More than $600?
If you stay involved you will be out $600 or more.
If you back out, you will be $600 richer and 1 friend poorer.
Well I would hope the friend would be understanding so not 1 friend poorer.0 -
_barefoot_ wrote: »I think you are over youre head trying to do both pick one .
The first one should be you're pick .
As for having to pay money ... yeah that kind of comes with the deal .
Not if it's costing $600 more.
I would tell her the truth, I was not expecting this would cost so much. I do not have the money for all that the wedding will entail.
Whatever you do, DO NOT go into debt for this wedding. It is not worth it.
$600 may not seem a lot to some people, but when it comes to repay, it is a whole lot of money.2 -
TheRoadDog wrote: »How important is this person's friendship to you? More than $600?
If you stay involved you will be out $600 or more.
If you back out, you will be $600 richer and 1 friend poorer.
Well I would hope the friend would be understanding so not 1 friend poorer.
Don't count on it. This is what she conceives to be the most important day of her life. The world centers on her for one day.2 -
OP hasn't been on since last month. Think it's safe to say that she took everyone's advice, tried to back out of being a bridesmaid, and her friend killed her in a fit of rage. Good going everyone, you caused another murder.4
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Caporegiem wrote: »OP hasn't been on since last month. Think it's safe to say that she took everyone's advice, tried to back out of being a bridesmaid, and her friend killed her in a fit of rage. Good going everyone, you caused another murder.
Ok.... but what if she is just a slow reader.
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Caporegiem wrote: »OP hasn't been on since last month. Think it's safe to say that she took everyone's advice, tried to back out of being a bridesmaid, and her friend killed her in a fit of rage. Good going everyone, you caused another murder.
Ok.... but what if she is just a slow reader.
Wouldn't it have showed her as active by now if she was still slowly reading through all of the responses?0 -
Caporegiem wrote: »Caporegiem wrote: »OP hasn't been on since last month. Think it's safe to say that she took everyone's advice, tried to back out of being a bridesmaid, and her friend killed her in a fit of rage. Good going everyone, you caused another murder.
Ok.... but what if she is just a slow reader.
Wouldn't it have showed her as active by now if she was still slowly reading through all of the responses?
Technically you don't have to sign in to read the forums. Maybe she's embarrassed. I hope she's ok. Now I'm worried.1 -
Caporegiem wrote: »Caporegiem wrote: »OP hasn't been on since last month. Think it's safe to say that she took everyone's advice, tried to back out of being a bridesmaid, and her friend killed her in a fit of rage. Good going everyone, you caused another murder.
Ok.... but what if she is just a slow reader.
Wouldn't it have showed her as active by now if she was still slowly reading through all of the responses?
Technically you don't have to sign in to read the forums. Maybe she's embarrassed. I hope she's ok. Now I'm worried.
Maybe she wasn't murdered. It's quite possible she worked herself to death trying to make the money needed to be a participant in the weddings.1 -
don't do it.0
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Caporegiem wrote: »OP hasn't been on since last month. Think it's safe to say that she took everyone's advice, tried to back out of being a bridesmaid, and her friend killed her in a fit of rage. Good going everyone, you caused another murder.
LMAO.
My friend changed plans a couple more times and then just went with the original plan to do a local wedding. I figured with the amount of times she'd changed her mind already I should just wait and see.2 -
Jackibrazil wrote: »Caporegiem wrote: »OP hasn't been on since last month. Think it's safe to say that she took everyone's advice, tried to back out of being a bridesmaid, and her friend killed her in a fit of rage. Good going everyone, you caused another murder.
LMAO.
My friend changed plans a couple more times and then just went with the original plan to do a local wedding. I figured with the amount of times she'd changed her mind already I should just wait and see.
OPs friend hacked her account after savagely murdering her in order to create an alibi1 -
Do it sooner than later. If she's really your friend she will understand. Let her know that when you said yes, the dates, location and finances all worked but with a changed date, destination wedding it's no longer possible. but do it SOON so she can find a replacement.0
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Most destination weddings don't have a bridal party for this reason. It's not affordable for everyone.0
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eccomi_qui wrote: »Jackibrazil wrote: »Caporegiem wrote: »OP hasn't been on since last month. Think it's safe to say that she took everyone's advice, tried to back out of being a bridesmaid, and her friend killed her in a fit of rage. Good going everyone, you caused another murder.
LMAO.
My friend changed plans a couple more times and then just went with the original plan to do a local wedding. I figured with the amount of times she'd changed her mind already I should just wait and see.
OPs friend hacked her account after savagely murdering her in order to create an alibi
Crap I've been found out.1 -
This whole situation is my worst nightmare. 10/10 would lock myself in my home and never befriend anyone again.0
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Jackibrazil wrote: »My friend asked me to be a bridesmaid and I was so happy and said yes. She had a date and a venue. My other good friend asked me to be maid of honor and her wedding is 5 weeks after. Perfect right? Wrong. First friend wants to not only change her date to dangerously close to friend number two, but the wedding evolved to a destination wedding and now I'm expected to come up with $600 to pay for my hotel stay for TWO NIGHTS at this resort. She's buying the plane tickets, but I wasn't expecting to have to do this in addition to buying my dress, contributing to showers and bachelorette parties and such. What do you guys think?
just be honest and tell her you cant afford it. if shes a true friend, shell totally understand.0
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