Going through something hard. About racial identity.
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Workout4Health wrote: »rickflanders wrote: »Workout4Health wrote: »And she asked me if my Caucasian uncle is racist.
If she is serious, then answer her question and that will be the end of it. If your uncle is not from the Caucasus mountains, then he is not Caucasian. It is an archaic term rejected by anthropologists now. According to modern science, there is no such thing as race. Or another way to say it is humans are all of the same race.
http://www.newsweek.com/there-no-such-thing-race-283123
Ethnicity simply means lineage. We are all from different families. People have the characteristics of their families. Culture is completely external. A person can be part of any culture regardless of their lineage.
The U.S. education system and media continually inject race into every situation, which confuses many people. There is real racism, but it isn't based on facts. The answer is to provide the facts.
That’s interesting but what about animals? Are humans the same as animals too since we’re related to apes?
Quit being silly.
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Workout4Health wrote: »Okay, I'm going to bite because, well, I'm bored... If you know this girl is a "nice girl" then I'm assuming you have met her in order to form this opinion. Therefore it's not the first conversation she has had with either your mother or you. She has asked two questions of two different people, both of a very different nature so why would you assume that every time you see her (are you expecting to see her a lot suddenly?!) she is going to only ask racial or cultural questions?! I think you are either trolling or just overly sensitive.
As for me, I have lived in a couple of different countries other than my home country. I love, love, LOVE meeting people of new nationalities, cultures and religions. I am utterly fascinated by people and I ask a million questions about where they are from, the way they live their lives and how they view the rest of the world. Gosh I've learnt so much and now understand much better WHY people think differently maybe than I do. I am more open and tolerant to other peoples' viewpoints, I may still disagree with the way they think but can understand why they think their way.
Maybe your distant cousin is just curious and wants to know about her family members. Maybe she's just maing conversation. What's odd about that? And oh, if you are a different colour than her (I am assuming since you made a big deal out of telling us she is Caucasian that you are not!) , then newsflash, you ARE different to her... So...? Every single one of us is unique and "different" to the next person. What's the great secret about where you / your parents / other family members are from? Personally I think you are making this into an issue that doesn't exist.
There you go again saying I’m not Caucasian. I am part Caucasian and that’s how most people perceive me.
People must not have double standards. If it’s interesting that I’m also another race then it’s just as interesting to be white too. Stop calling me different.
Huh? What? You ARE different, because everyone is different in some way or another and different heritage, whether it's a different or same coloured one is interesting... If I'm white and interested in a Polish friends heritage is that okay, but if my friend is Jamaican that wouldn't be?! Besides, you are the one saying you are "part Caucasian" but if you are "part Caucasian" then you must be "part something else". I seriously couldn't care less, I was just trying to reply to your post and point out another viewpoint. Sorry for trying to make you feel better. The more I read your posts the more I think you are posting for a laugh.4 -
To the OP: it's okay to tell your cousin (or anyone) "I'm not comfortable answering that question," or "I feel self conscious when you focus so much on my race. I'm an American, like you." Or even, "That's none of your business."
I notice you ask a lot of different life questions here, in a forum which isn't the best one for asking this kind of question. There are forums out there devoted to answering all kinds of questions where you might get better answers than on a weight loss forum. Better yet would be finding a friend to talk to.1 -
People must not have double standards. If it’s interesting that I’m also another race then it’s just as interesting to be white too. Stop calling me different.[/quote]
wrong I am white quite boring , mixed is way more interesting . exotic , pretty just more exciting . as a straight haired older white lady I find any thing else interesting .( color , freckles curls Afro ) so whether you like or do not like being considered interesting is not the point .
the point is when asked a question you have options
you can just answer the darn question and you may find that the person is just trying to start dialog (or not ) .
or you can not answer which gives you more options you can say I find that question rude if it really is or you can answer with a question ... What makes you ask that ( or why would you ask that ) and depending on that answer decide what you want to say .
most of the time a question just means the other person is trying to start a conversation and does not know you well enough to know what to talk about
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My *kitten* brain. It hurts.4
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Workout4Health wrote: »
So white is an inferior race?
Whoa, easy now.0 -
Workout4Health wrote: »WorkerDrone83 wrote: »Workout4Health wrote: »
So white is an inferior race?
Whoa, easy now.
No, no. I'm not trying to be offensive and get a rise out of people. It's just people on here are saying white is boring. So is it a more boring race? Is it a more uninteresting race?
Just feels like we need to get down to the reason why it's okay for people to say that. What if I said that being anything other than white is so boring? Would that be fine?
Ah, I see. I'm sure it's just that people find things boring when they're exposed to it a majority of the time.
ETA- I don't think it has anything to do with race. All cultures are pretty interesting. A culture would most likely be less exotic or interesting to someone raised in that one.0 -
Workout4Health wrote: »WorkerDrone83 wrote: »Workout4Health wrote: »
So white is an inferior race?
Whoa, easy now.
No, no. I'm not trying to be offensive and get a rise out of people. It's just people on here are saying white is boring. So is it a more boring race? Is it a more uninteresting race?
Just feels like we need to get down to the reason why it's okay for people to say that. What if I said that being anything other than white is so boring? Would that be fine?
No one is superior or inferior, but in a place like America, the place you claim to live, it is a predominantly white country, with white media and white politicians making white common, average, boring compared to someone from a minority race or mixed race.
Just like a Chinese person would be boring, average or common in China compared to someone from New Zealand or Africa etc
To me, as an Australian I don’t find things like kangaroos all that interesting, I see them just about every day, but for people outside Australia a kangaroo is some sort of amazing animal that they will go out of their way to see, to pat and feed.
White people in America are like kangaroos to an Australian, not anything to get excited over, you see them everywhere. But someone like you, a mixed race individual, you are like a kanagaroo to a Japanese tourist, they want to ask a dozen questions and take 100 photos because you are interesting, new, unique.7 -
Even now, with that post above mine, you are still asking utter "kitten" questions to get a reaction. Not even a child is that ignorant, it's utter horse-"kitten" I've wasted my life reading two of your threads today, and I am confident enough to say they have both turned out the same way. COMPLETE LUNACY.
I don't care what colour, race, creed, religion,sexuality blah blah f-kittening blah you, or anyone else is. THIS IS A WEBSITE CALLED MY FITNESS PAL, not the "kittening" Jeremy Kyle Show. Take your "kitten" elsewhere so like-minded people HERE have a chance to actually talk about something important.4 -
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"it’s sad if we live in a world we’re people feel the need to use a fitness app to express their emotions on issues this deep."
It's sad if you've not seen previous posts to this - I've only been here a week and can see through this inflammatory rubbish.
"based on these stupid reactions. Ultimately, in my opinion.... "
"these stupid reactions" - yeah, the balanced voice of reason just cracked a little. No-one is perfect, however not everyone pretends to be either.5 -
We are all the same, some may look different but all the same1
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We're all pink inside
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Clever_User_Name wrote: »Find_Me_Again wrote: »We're all pink inside
I saw that movie
Was that a POV film?0 -
Clever_User_Name wrote: »RunHardBeStrong wrote: »Clever_User_Name wrote: »Find_Me_Again wrote: »We're all pink inside
I saw that movie
Was that a POV film?
The original wasn't but the 38 sequels were.
*39. It's like you're not even a fan
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Find_Me_Again wrote: »We're all pink inside
I’m black inside. All the coke I drank dyed my insides.0 -
Find_Me_Again wrote: »We're all pink inside
I’m black inside. All the coke I drank dyed my insides.
Should have had Pepsi.0 -
Workout4Health wrote: »I seriously am asking for advice because something is bothering me deeply. So one of my distant cousins who is Caucasian asked my mom if she’s from a certain country. That’s the first question she asked. And she’s a nice girl. She asked it nicely but it feels odd.
And she asked me if my Caucasian uncle is racist. It’s the first question she asked.
This is making me question my identity and where I belong. I grew up in America and it’s all I know. But I feel like crap now because I feel every time she sees me she is gonna ask these questions. I don’t like them. It makes me feel like I’m different from her. Should I feel different?
She’s just so intrigued. But is there a polite way I can tell her that she doesn’t need to ask about race and culture every single discussion? It’s just not something most people do.
If someone asks you a question that makes you uncomfortable or that you find offensive you can politely say things like:
"I don't know. Pass the bean dip please. When are you getting married/having kids?" (change the subject)
"I realize that race is a hot topic right now and maybe you are just being curious about someone else's experience but I don't want to talk about that with you. Please don't ask me these questions."
"I'm uncomfortable with you bringing up my ethnic background or race whenever we meet/talk. I just view myself as an American like you. I was born here and raised here just like you."
"I don't want to gossip about family members."
"I have no opinion to share on that topic."
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