Does having MFP buddies really help?
Jeepfreak81
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So I've actually been a MFP user since before UnderArmor acquired it, but often fall of the wagon and get sick of logging or my mind is occupied with other things/issues. However, this time around I've been lurking here on the forums and see a lot of people like to get friends on here for motivation and accountability. How does that work? Do people find it useful? Is it kind of like having a gym buddy? My wife is pretty good at nagging me, so maybe I don't need one...haha.
Joking aside, just curious how the social aspect of MFP works for people.
Joking aside, just curious how the social aspect of MFP works for people.
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The answer is, maybe
I like having friends here and engaging on the forums because it keeps the process dynamic and interesting. It also keeps me from boring my friends, family, and co-workers to death with talk about CICO, TDEE, and weight trends 
My husband, on the other hand, has one friend here (me, and only so I can steal custom meals from his food diary lol) and that works fine for him.3 -
For some, it helps to have others going through the same thing to encourage and cheer them on. For others, they prefer to do it on their own. I’ve made great friends on here in four years, but ultimately I don’t depend on them.4
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Comments and messages from friends is huge and may make the total difference in keeping you accountable.4
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I have one MFP buddy that messages me on a regular basis and when I told that person that I was slacking on tracking because I knew it was going to be bad, they encouraged me to track the good, the bad and the ugly. I did and I am glad that this person has held me accountable. I feel better about doing it. It is also nice when your buddies "like" that you exercised and completed your food diary.
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I like participating in the forums but I don't accept friend requests. Years back I was on here and more people had their diaries open so it was more fun to have friends, but now I just don't see the point.2
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I agree with Justin741. I did MFP for 2 years without friends and I kept not logging. Last year, I started to have friends and it helps keep me on track. I can't do this journey alone and I will be more successful with friends. Good Luck to you and add me if you like. later
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I like that I can post updates and chat with like-minded people instead of blabbing at my real-life friends about calories and weight loss - because I guarantee they'd get annoyed pretty damn quick.3
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I agree, It depends on what type of person you are. I don't do a lot with my friends. I read my newsfeed and see what they're up to. Sometimes they write about something they're doing, or they need help, a boost, whatever,...and you can comment if you want to. I enjoy seeing what they're up to. Some people are amazing--very committed. Others want constant attention--I can't give that. You pick your friends. Watch the forum posts and when you see someone you admire, agree with, etc., send a FR. However, many of the "vets" (people that have been on here a long time) don't take FR. They have too many. Always say why you want to be friends when you send a request. There are alot of interesting people on MFP.9
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Having friends on MFP is great, but the most motivating thing I've found is joining team fitness challenges here. Some groups here are just a bunch of people encouraging each other, which for me is not much different than checking in or your newsfeed. However, doing a team competition challenge can really push you to do more than you would on your own.
The ones I'm a part of have specific exercise and nutritional goals each week and you're accountable to your team mates because you're trying to beat the other teams. The ones I'm currently doing are Game of Thrones, Amazing Race and Hogwarts. I've also done challenges based on The Apprentice and Ilvermorney (US version of Hogwarts). All ages of people at all levels of fitness, both men and women compete. Lots of fun!5 -
If the friends are supportive and comment on your posts yes it is very helpful, howeveruf they don't it very annoying. Support is a two way thing. Wishing you all the best and good luck1
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I did the friend thing more in regards to similar fitness interests and whatnot...not so much accountability and motivation...I don't get a whole lot out of pats on the back and atta boys. I'm not particularly active on my FL anymore...only occasionally.3
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It depends on the person. For some people, knowing that others are following you adds another level of accountability. For some, it's the "since I'm in the neighborhood..." factor. By coming to the site to socializing, they are reminded to log their activities. Yet, there are some who could take or leave the social media component.
I find myself in the third category. My social media participation depends largely on my mood and schedule. So I participate in spurts. Plus, I am more receptive to face-to-face motivation. It's hard to skip a day when you know someone is depending on you to show up.2 -
Just like anything your return is based upon your investment. If you simply add friends, but don't engage, then nothing is going to change.
If you engage with friends, post your failures and successes and find out what is going wrong and right, then you will likely succeed.2 -
My social media participation depends largely on my mood and schedule. So I participate in spurts.
I'm like this as well. Don't have a lot of friends and kind of come and go with my participation with them.
In real life, I tend to do this alone. And have been pretty consistent with it for the last year.
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It helps me cause my wife does not share my interest in diet and fitness so it gives me people to talk about it with of like mind.2
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I lurked on the MFP forums for years before joining - after I hit maintenance. Even then I didn't accept requests.
As I slow started accepting new friends, it was great meeting new people who has similar health/fitness/nutrition interests.
I've connected with some amazing people over the years who are now my real life friends.
Even though I lost my weight on my own, I can see how having some fitness buddies around would be helpful...especially on those off days.3 -
I like posting on the forums. It's great if you have a question and maybe want a response more personal than a Google search. I also like to help others when I can. It's nice to just read success stories as well, they can be motivating. As far as friends on here, it doesn't help me. I accept requests but I don't really interact with them. If you're unsure, give it a try! You may find that it is great for you!2
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I hate people, so for me, no.
But, you do you.6 -
Having mfp friends helps if and only if you have the right friends. It's hard to say why one friend is right and a completely different friend is also right, but you know it when you have it.2
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Tacklewasher wrote: »My social media participation depends largely on my mood and schedule. So I participate in spurts.
I'm like this as well. Don't have a lot of friends and kind of come and go with my participation with them.
In real life, I tend to do this alone. And have been pretty consistent with it for the last year.
You know you have the best friends on MFP.3 -
Awesome, thanks for the replies. I'll have to check out the challenges, I'm a pretty competitive person so that could be something to help me with my goals1
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I don't think it's helpful - I had a goal of bulking through the middle of last year but the only time people would send me messaged is when I lost weight. I got annoyed and disheartened trying to bulk when the only support I got was when I 'failed' at my goal and lost weight, like I was doing something bad.1
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Some people like working on common goals. Others like working by themselves.1
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Friends help me because the fact that they will see my diary keeps me on the straight and narrow. A lot less 3000+ calorie days that way. Likes are encouraging. The advice is encouraging. I'm learning a lot from them and from the forums (transitioning from WW). I get meal ideas from open diaries also.0
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There's three levels to it:
1) Reading Friends news-feeds and either "liking" or commenting on their calories burnt or completion of their food diary.
2) Posting on the forums and commenting on posts by your Friends and choosing new Friends based on their posts.
3) Actually sending private messages to your Friends about their Food Diary or their Exercise routine, and any other general discussion.
I don't think much of #3 happens in reality.0 -
I don’t mind friends but I cannot stand all of the email blasts when you like a post or comment. And god help you if your friends have a lot of friends that comment-you get emails for all those randoms too. Probably a way to change that in the settings, but for me it’s just as easy to keep a small, select group of friends.0
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I'm sorry (not sorry) but I cringe when people ask for friends for motivation and accountability. But that's just me.
I add people who show they are interested in learning from the forum community, which has helped me so much.
Usually I either send a friend request with message to say I've seen them post and think they're insightful, or I accept a friend request with message from someone who shows they've been reading the forums and learning.
I don't think the MFP news feed is a great place to learn all there is about using MFP and weight management.
I certainly don't think people who join and ask for friends the same weight/height/lack of motivation are looking to learn from successful people.
Again, that's just how I roll.4 -
Jeepfreak81 wrote: »Awesome, thanks for the replies. I'll have to check out the challenges, I'm a pretty competitive person so that could be something to help me with my goals
Huge recommendation from me for the MFP Monthly Running Challenge threads.
Not people being competitive with each other, but rather working towards each other being more successful at running.
Possibly the most active, helpful, and supportive place on MFP.
From Couch to 5K to 100 mile ultramarathoners, it's a wonderful mix of people sharing knowlege, highs, and lows.
Absolutely love it.
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I love reading, and occasionally commenting, in the forums. I've "tried" friends two different times and they are just not for me. Not to sound mean, but I don't want to feel obligated to "like" someone's 652 calories burned in 12 minutes of 2 mph walking downhill (yes, I've seen some ridiculous stuff). I also don't want to use people as motivation. I need to do this for myself and by myself. I'm not always going to have someone cheering me on or watching me so I need to hold myself accountable. I've personally found that I do better without friends.3
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