Emotional about where I'm at

Smallville127
Smallville127 Posts: 51 Member
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I was fine...I went out today with my son. Felt winded easily and it frustrated me. So I went online and came across a blog from a guy who weighed 420lbs at his highest. Said 9 things I hated about being morbidly obese. Reading that was like a Mac truck hit me in my heart. It hit home for me. It wouldn't take much for me to be at that weight and I am so ashamed of myself. I keep saying I'll start tomorrow... I'll kill it tomorrow..and tomorrow comes...I log in and that is it. I'm still screwing up I am totally unmotivated and now I feel so depressed. I wish I knew where to start. I have everything in line to do this except me... I'm crying typing this cause for the first time I feel completely hopeless.
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  • BlueMacaroniArt
    BlueMacaroniArt Posts: 122 Member
    I think this is one of those things where you just have to make yourself start. Just be stubborn and call up all of your inner strength and just log your food. Whatever it is. In my experience once I do that part, it gets easier. Everything else start to happen. You lose the first few pounds and start to believe you can do it. You start to feel better just from your food choices. Soon everything will have changed and all it takes it for you to start. The day doesn't have to be perfect, just log it. You can do it! I know that first step is hard.... But you are not hopeless!
  • abirdintherain
    abirdintherain Posts: 73 Member
    eyrems wrote: »
    I feel the same way. :(

    I believe in you, too! All of the replies here apply to you, as well. You got this.
  • Dootzy1
    Dootzy1 Posts: 2,340 Member
    Pinuplove has the idea! Baby steps! There has been a payoff for me in being overweight. I have to figure how to enjoy other payoffs.
  • Skworon
    Skworon Posts: 40 Member
    Add me as a friend I would love to help any way I can. I also have lots of weight to lose. And getting heavier is easy,losing is easy too with some support. Over a 100 pounds to lose , trying it one day at a time.
  • Smallville127
    Smallville127 Posts: 51 Member
    Skworon wrote: »
    Add me as a friend I would love to help any way I can. I also have lots of weight to lose. And getting heavier is easy,losing is easy too with some support. Over a 100 pounds to lose , trying it one day at a time.

    Thank you x glad to have some positive influence.
  • gymprincess1234
    gymprincess1234 Posts: 493 Member
    If you don't have the motivation to do it for yourself, do it for your kid, he needs a parent that's a good example, healthy and lives as long as possible.
  • SuzieQ789
    SuzieQ789 Posts: 8 Member
    chrystenfo wrote: »
    You don't have to be perfect, just better than yesterday. Or make this week better than last week.

    I had a really hard time starting. I was unhappy, and knew what I had to do, just lacking the motivation. Then I read what I wrote above on MFP. My small change at first was healthy breakfast. I did that for a week. Then I added lunch. Still working on dinner, but most days I am better. Not anywhere near perfect.

    This! It is so true. One meal at a time. If I think about making radical changes in everything, I get overwhelmed and depressed. One small step at a time. Even one little change at a time is a big step forward. If we mess up, we pick ourselves up and try again. No judgement - especially from ourselves! We are all here for one another. <3
  • HDBKLM
    HDBKLM Posts: 466 Member
    I agree with all of the above. Baby steps. Start logging what you eat BUT don't actually change what you eat. Just put the information down there and start getting into the habit of doing so. Then a next baby step might be to start reducing the portion sizes of what you like to eat BUT don't change the food itself; i.e., don't leap toward so-called health foods suddenly. If and when you eventually start to make incremental changes in WHAT you eat (not just how much of it), think of it in terms of adding rather than taking away. For example it could be, 'I think I'll try adding sauteed spinach as a side dish to my steak and see how I feel about it' as opposed to 'I must stop eating starchy carbs!' Over the longer term, and without the psychology of deprivation, you may find the new additions slowly crowding out the old habits. And if they don't, they don't. Portion control/calorie deficit is the main thing for the for weight loss. Nutrition is a separate issue.

    Also, if we're taking baby steps here, don't add in any specific exercise that you don't already do as part of your normal routine. Give it a week or two or three until your other baby steps are taken and you're feeling comfortable. Then, if you've been really sedentary, as little as walking a couple of times around the block will make a difference. More rigorous exercise, gym memberships, and all that stuff can be for another day.

    And I as several others have said, don't set yourself a goal of perfection. When I first started tracking my food intake 9 months ago I went FANTASTICALLY over my allotted calories on just the fourth day and was sooooo discouraged. The best move I made at that point was just to keep going anyway. I'm now 75% of the way to my (initial) goal weight. When you think about it, a day going fantastically off the rails means you reach your goal weight one day later. It does NOT mean you've ruined everything and may as well give up. Plus, you have to live your life, right? Maybe you went off the rails not because of a failure of 'will power', maybe you did because it was your child's birthday party and you wanted to indulge in some cake and pizza with the family as you build new happy memories. Don't feel guilty and don't segregate yourself into the 'dieting monastery'. Just get back to it the next day. As you'll often see on the MFP forums, Calories In Calories Out (CICO) as an approach to weight loss is dead simple. That is, it's not easy but it's simple. No magic foods, no special techniques or equipment you need to buy. Just keep track. And as you've done here, reach out whenever you feel the need. There are loads of like-minded folks here on the boards.
  • cmrt1
    cmrt1 Posts: 1 Member
    I felt/still feel the exact same way. I kept telling myself that I will do it. Well a year passed and I still had not done anything. I simply was not motivated. I woke up one Sunday and set a simple goal of tracking everything I ate that day. That turned into me doing it every day except a few days here and there. Start with small goals. I believe it you! You got this! ❤️
  • chelliz88
    chelliz88 Posts: 62 Member
    Well, you've logged in...First step! Go ahead and log those foods. Don't worry about the calorie count at first. It's a starting point. It's going to take you a while, but you may end up finding something you love! Maybe march in place during your favorite tv show. When you feel like giving up, push through it. You might feel a little better after doing that a few times. Planning a specific time to do things can help us more rather than saying "I'll do it tomorrow" or "I'll do it later." I typed in "planning specific times rather than I'll do it later" to Google and came up with a couple of articles that may or may not help.

    You're not hopeless! We've all had those trying times where we just aren't motivated.
  • dangerousdumpling
    dangerousdumpling Posts: 1,109 Member
    There's a big difference in knowing you need to start and being ready to start. I completely understand that. I've lived a big part of my life knowing I need to start but not actually starting. One thing that keeps people from actually starting is wrong ideas about what it takes to lose weight. I've seen some comments here from people saying things like, "But I don't want to eat salad everyday" and "I can't run" or "I don't like to eat vegetables". You don't have to do any of those things to lose weight. You could even ease into it by eating AND LOGGING maintenance calories for a week. Then try a little deficit. Maybe a 250 calorie deficit. Then go for a walk a couple of times a week. Don't feel like you need to jump into living like an Olympic gold medalist. It doesn't have to be that way. But when you do make a change let yourself feel empowered by it and motivate you to continue. Somewhere inside you is the strength to do it. You just need to figure out how to tap into it. What part of weight loss will give you that eye of the tiger feeling? Goals? Feeling more energetic? The feeling of accomplishment? The feeling of metamorphosis? Whatever it is focus on that and not all the negative stuff.
  • jnennig4
    jnennig4 Posts: 3 Member
    I agree with everyone.....baby steps. It's encouraging to see all this support! Please don't feel hopeless! This community is here to help and support you. Take it one day at a time, log as you can and KEEP TRYING! Never give up - you got this. I believe in you:)

    Feel free to add as a friend if you'd like. We're in this together. All of us:)
  • SandiTaylor63
    SandiTaylor63 Posts: 6 Member
    You ARE worthy!!! You've taken ur first step by logging in and opening up in a group forum thats an amazing start!! I'm 4'9 and started at 204 pounds in January and I had no idea where to begin or what to do just that I needed to loose this weight for my health. I put all my info in MFP and I've been tracking everything I eat (it makes u responsible for everything you put in ur mouth) I couldn't even walk around the block!!! Fast forward I've lost 14 pounds so far (a long way from where I need to be but I feel better already) I now walk around my building at work everyday on lunch and I've just started adding a little bit of exercise in the evening. Hoping to be 50 pounds lighter by the end of summer!!! Some days I get fustrated but I tell myself you can do this Sandi - i hope this helps a little and we are all here together helping each other!!! Good luck and add me!!!
  • iowalinda
    iowalinda Posts: 357 Member
    edited February 2018
    What are your trigger foods? A lot of times it's something sugary or salty. Don't bring those in the house. Actually, anything you don't want to eat, don't bring it home. You can't eat it if it isn't there :) Wishing you all the best. You can do this :)
  • MzCara148
    MzCara148 Posts: 205 Member
    I freaked out when I crossed the 300 lb mark. I remember thinking "I have always been overweight but now I am a FAT person". Ugggh. But I didn't want to do the work. Heck, I'm still not at the point that I'm loving it yet. What I did was figure out my TDEE (total daily energy expenditure) and set my calories to just loose .5 a pound a week. Then went to a pound a week, now I am currently at 1.5 pounds a week. I haven't added in exercise yet. I think the math gets a little weird when you are this big as I have been loosing more than that. Lots of water weight I guess. But I felt it helped to start in tiny increments.
  • goatg
    goatg Posts: 1,399 Member
    One day at a time.

    Perhaps logging in would feel less daunting if you had a sense of direction and a goal. Have you considered hiring a nutritionist?
  • lois1231
    lois1231 Posts: 330 Member
    edited February 2018
    Just start with one small thing. Mine was not buying soda and drinking more water. You can do this. I am sure most of us on this page have felt hopeless at one time or another. You aren't alone.
  • kenyonhaff
    kenyonhaff Posts: 1,377 Member
    You're not alone on this. Plenty of people here "get it" and are rooting for you!

    Yes it could be easy to become even more obese, but instead you're taking steps to turn it around. Just by posting you are doing that.

  • ThatHealthyCaper
    ThatHealthyCaper Posts: 22 Member
    I agree with all the other posts, and don't really have anything to add. Just wanted to add my "you're so worth it! Don't ever don't it. And you've totally got this started already!" I think just starting to log your food is great advice and go from there in small steps. You don't have to achieve major goals over night or in a week or a month...just get started (which you've done already). Feel free to add me if you're looking for friends.

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