Emotional about where I'm at

Crafty_camper123

Now that you've had a good cry, know that you've got this and there are people on here that believe in you. As others have said, start small. Maybe just start logging what you're eating now for a week or two. Don't even worry about the weight loss yet. Just start logging to see where you're at. Then, when you're ready, set your calories to maintenance for a while and work to eat to that goal for a while. Then, maybe work to see if you can cut just 50 calories a day for a while, then 100, etc. When you think you're ready, add in a bit of exercise. Go slowly and you'll be less likely to get as frustrated with yourself. And if you have a bad day? week? Just start fresh with a clean slate the next day. If you find yourself stuck in a derogatory thought cycle with yourself, try to replace those thoughts with something positive. Maybe look in the mirror every morning, and tell yourself something positive. You're smart, you're beautiful, you've got this, for example. As the saying goes " You are your own worst critic.". Meaning the things you don't like about yourself, are usually only seen by yourself. No one else is thinking these things about you, so why should you?(And if they are, they are *kitten* you don't need in your life.) You're worth it, and you deserve to be healthy and happy.

saralynn0416

I struggle with this as well. Depression and anxiety took control of my life. I started with 7 minute high intensity workouts, I’m only three weeks in...it is SO HARD but i spent the last 4 years on my couch. And now I am moving a bit each day. I add more to each work out, and I quit thinking about it so much. I can spare 30 min a day to work out. If I can binge watch supernatural for 6 hours and not move I can AT LEAST watch two episodes while on an elliptical. You can do this. Baby steps. I’m here for you!!

girlwithcurls2

So many people here can relate. It's not hopeless. You're not hopeless. There is really good advice here. Start small. Sometimes it helps just to log your food. That's all. Don't cut anything out or down. Just log what you eat for a week or two. Then you can see what your patterns are and start to make small changes. It's too overwhelming to take on all at once. Make tiny changes if you have to, just to get started. Tell yourself that if nothing else, you're going to stop gaining weight and just maintain. With little, gradual changes, you'll get little, gradual results. Those will smoosh together into something really good, which will motivate you to keep going. Honestly, getting past the despair and over to "there is hope for me" takes time for some of us.

Log your food. Make friends here who have been there or are doing it with you. You can do this. Be kind to yourself.

faeriequeene_1596

Drunkhorse08 wrote: »

I was fine...I went out today with my son. Felt winded easily and it frustrated me. So I went online and came across a blog from a guy who weighed 420lbs at his highest. Said 9 things I hated about being morbidly obese. Reading that was like a Mac truck hit me in my heart. It hit home for me. It wouldn't take much for me to be at that weight and I am so ashamed of myself. I keep saying I'll start tomorrow... I'll kill it tomorrow..and tomorrow comes...I log in and that is it. I'm still screwing up I am totally unmotivated and now I feel so depressed. I wish I knew where to start. I have everything in line to do this except me... I'm crying typing this cause for the first time I feel completely hopeless.

I think you've come to the right place Don't be ashamed, it's happened, you gained some weight, and you're not alone. There's tons of people on here who are in the same boat (there's even an MFP group for people losing over 100 lbs - I highly recommend it). Maybe just start with small goals as some people have already suggested, you don't have to change your life in an instant. And, what folk said above - don't feel you have to be a perfect dieter. There's no point. You screw up from time to time, doesn't mean everything falls to pieces.

Whatever you do, don't beat yourself up. Be calm, be kind to yourself, and figure out how you got here, what your food triggers are, what you eat too much of (are you a cookie monster or a carb monster, or both? ). That may take a little time, but that's ok: when you can, you'll be ready to deal with this. There's LOTS of support here and I promise you this situation isn't hopeless. And I've been where you are - eventually, when you're ready, you move forward. You won't feel like this forever.

And feel free to add me for support

betty_veronica4

No one is hopeless! Reaching out for help is a big step. Clearly, you are not alone in this journey. Can you set one small, attainable goal a day to get you moving forward? Maybe tomorrow, log your breakfast. Then the next day, breakfast and lunch, then the next day, add a short burst of exercise. Build on each success and remember that this is a long process. I am sorry this is a hard day, but know that there are many wishing you well.