I'm on day 4 and would like to make a friend to encourage and be accountable to one another!

Makaroni32069

I've gone back and forth about commenting as I have a lot more weight to lose than y'all do. I've battled an anxiety disorder for 15 years now and kinda lost who I am in the process. For the first time in years I feel strong enough to hit this and I have a pretty big incentive (more on that another time).

All these posts have given me hope so thank you for sharing!

lappledesigns

Hi. My name is Gemma. I like in the uk. I would love to come on board with you all. I need to lose approximately 4st. I would love to be part of a group that supports one another and motivates one another.
I know I struggle the most when I haven’t got like minded people around me to guide and encourage me in the right direction.

kymarai

Welcome to the newcomers. Thus is a journey, Not a quick solution. Surrounding yourself with aupportive peopke is a steo in the right direction. We all have the same goals in mind, health, happiness, and strength. It doesn't matter how much or how little you need to lose. The sad part about today's society is the loss of community. More and more people suffering in silence. This site gives you a place to get friendship and non-judgemental support. If you friend someone who is being judgemental, just unfriend them. Suggestions are acceptable, judgement is a no no! As I said previously, I have been here for 8 years and have loved the support I have gotten whether it was food, exercise, or even personal support. This community is here to support, but the work is up to us individually. You make the best choices you can at the time, and move forward. We are strong ladies!
Have a blessed day and welcome!
Kylia in Ohio

ysache13

Makaroni32069 wrote: »

I've gone back and forth about commenting as I have a lot more weight to lose than y'all do. I've battled an anxiety disorder for 15 years now and kinda lost who I am in the process. For the first time in years I feel strong enough to hit this and I have a pretty big incentive (more on that another time).

All these posts have given me hope so thank you for sharing!

Oh wow, I just came on for today and started on my homepage to update first, and if you look at it, you'll see I mention the anxiety! I TOO battle with it. I never had it before (though I've had depression on and off for years and PTSD from a trama 21 yrs ago) but these past 3 yrs has been virtual HELL (truly, no exaggerating) and I had all that PLUS this new one called Anxiety which leaves me so paralyzed I can't think, breath, function and I'm like a STIFF in a chair, praying until I can slowly breathe again, doing everything in my power not to take meds for it and so far, so good but trust, I have them and yes, of course I've used them when it left me this way far too long! I want YOU to know, I'm so happy you chose to write, open up and please don't feel like you have much more to lose, etc., I DO understand (15 or so yrs ago, and one of my many yo-yo times, I was 296 ok?) I hear you, and am here for you, no matter what! know that ok? All of us are - we are a family of same hearts and mind I believe. We are usually (as far as addictions go) very loving, compassionate and caring and though I know I can't speak for others, I believe this is more true than not! I'm glad you're feeling strong and remember we only have time so don't look back, rather look forward (esp to spring and summer and feeling even better!) YASSSSS!!!!! So I leave you with a major big hug, Yana

ysache13

Gemma everything that Kymarai wrote is 100% true. I know for me on my thread I will not have it so please feel free to express your heart. I have found already 2 nice ladies who live near you! One is in England and one in Ireland and we write every day to one another and my first best friend from childhood married a man in England and has been there since we were 19 and I still talk to her and yes, have gone to visit her (omg, I need to get back because you need to see how I drive on the wrong side of the road, too much FUN and laughing!) I SEE that light again, I see life, I see a real life for me. I made a major decision to love not just others as I've done for all these years, but I'm choosing to love ME first - not just for now, but for ALWAYS (well after Jesus) ok, Loving me SECOND sounds Wonderul!!!!! then I'll give this heart away!!!!! Encouragement IS what this site has been and I'm only on 2 weeks, but I'm here every day for sure (I just start late cause my sleep is off) but I'll always be on and if I'm not - pray, LOL Hugs to you as well and welcome!!!!! (p.s. I crack up when you guys keep saying stones, LOL)

momdedge4

Makaroni32069 Member
March 4, 2018 7:02AM
I've gone back and forth about commenting as I have a lot more weight to lose than y'all do. I've battled an anxiety disorder for 15 years now and kinda lost who I am in the process. For the first time in years I feel strong enough to hit this and I have a pretty big incentive (more on that another time).

All these posts have given me hope so thank you for sharing!

Having anxiety isn’t something to be ashamed of! You would be surprised how many there are that battle anxiety/depression!! I do as well. I have quite a bit of weight to lose as well & it doesn’t really matter how much weight a person is trying to lose...all that really matter is that they are trying trying to do it...for themselves!!!
Welcome!
Dedra

latoyiajackson06

Hi, Everyone. I'm Latoyia. From Alabama . I am looking to lose 45 pounds. I have two boy's 6 and 11. Let's just say I never lose the baby weight and year after year its i am going to lose weight but i eat some that's not good for me or I don't see the weight fall off like I want it. And I fall off track. 115 before my boy's to now 200 pounds . 2018 is my year . It's going to be hard, but I can do this.

ysache13

Hi girls welcome- I want to first thanks for sharing on anxiety and depression (I'm in total agreement) and I hope everyone keeps coming on here to share their hearts - that's ALL that matters I believe is what's in there (not so much in our minds) - because in our hearts is where the real truth lies. I want to also say welcome to Latoyia! I just finished talking to my little sister who wouldn't or perhaps couldn't hear me (denial is so powerful) yet it's ok, it's where we're all at sometimes but she's feeling desperate about her weight and just can't hear that it's what we put in our mouths and this ap is such a blessing and makes it so easy that it's encouraging on it's own! She instead is going to pay 300/month to have prepared food come to her home so she doesn't have to "think" about it. Ultimately I pray it works, but I also worry that she will be lost without that unless she plans on paying the rest of her life! I didn't want to discourage her at all and I KNOW I had to try a million things all these years, so who am I to judge her, so I don't - but I did say that this IS showing me results and is easy so I planted that seed! I think keeping it real and using this site to be real to yourself will SHOW each of us our truth - I mean really, if you don't place it all on there (I even put down how many T of sugar free creamer) I use each day! I can't then scratch my head on why am I not losing - ENCOURAGING each other even if it's just to say hi - there's something about KNOWING you guys are here, on my front wall (or whatever it's called) making my own blog that people can read if they want but doing it for MYSELF and my big one this year - for the first time putting ME FIRST - is amazing even while dealing with high stresses esp not knowing where my son is - I still believe I can do this and keeping my eyes on the Lord, and you guys - I'm not even worried about surgery next week - Glory be to God, that's all for now, hugs

kymarai

Hi! I am still here, just not a lot of spare time. Will catch up soon.

Kylia

ysache13

babe, I have a question for you - Have you ever ordered or know someone who has - a dress on Amazon?

kymarai

I have ordered occasionally, I just make sure not from a Chinese company. Order early!

ysache13

I think tomorrow I'll go out again and enjoy the day (hope it's not too cold) but head to the bridal store JUST to see before surgery - I'm got to have my backup plans - but then again, I may fall in love with a reasonable dress - ok, I'm PRAYING that will happen!

cybermadi2018

Hi ladies its madi here from london.I would live to join you.I m 63.5 kg at the moment.my goal is to achieve 55 kg by this summer.

ysache13

hi Cybermadi - welcome love! I'm talking to a woman in England and one in Ireland so it's a beautiful thing! We're all family and makes no difference in the world, it's always the same issue with the food, weight and scale (well except you guys use kg which means I'm clueless along with those stones, LOL) but it's all good! If you'd like to share your goals and what you're hoping to get from this site, etc, by all means share! I love reading what we're all doing to achieve our own happiness!

doppysmum

Hi. I've enjoyed reading everyones posts. I'm Kate 34 from the UK. I have about 30 pounds to get shut of. I can't stay off the scale either honestly. Couple of times a day. They do not budge! Thinking of hiding them from myself. Good luck everyone xxx

kymarai

The scale is a wicked mistress! Make sure to take measurements too. If you get more fit, the scale might not move much,, but measurements will.

Hi to the new additions!

Snow fell this morning in Ohio. Just enough to cause lots of black ice. Be safe wherever you are!
Kylia

ysache13

Girl, "when" I was able to work out I did the measuring thing (and yes it's nice to see) but it still didn't help with the scale. I think it's a mental issue to be honest- I think since we've all had it affect us from childhood - it's like the bad evil tool we allow to beat the crap out of us, LOL - Just getting on twice IS hard. You have NO idea when I finally rolled out (yep, rolling hahaha) of bed, the ONLY way I can stop myself is to mentally say - ok, hurry and JUMP in that shower and for some reason (this is how CRAZY I am over the scale) I say to myself, ok now I can do it because I think I'll weigh MORE with water on my body and hair, LOL and I have SHORT hair, hahaha - so like I said, after next Wed, I will have NO choice and won't be able to use it, but I'm obsessed wanting to get on I suppose cause I'm SEEING results so yea it affects my emotions still. Oh well, Im hanging in till Sunday and then countown to surgery! YIKES - LOL Welcome "doppys" from the UK! I LOVE everyone from that area so much! hugs

momdedge4

doppysmumdoppysmum Member
March 8, 2018 12:33AM
Hi. I've enjoyed reading everyones posts. I'm Kate 34 from the UK. I have about 30 pounds to get shut of. I can't stay off the scale either honestly. Couple of times a day. They do not budge! Thinking of hiding them from myself. Good luck everyone xxx

Sounds like u need someone to hide the scales from you! When you put all your focus on the scale...you can end up getting discouraged. It’s best to weigh in once a week or less. Judge your loss by the way your clothes fit and measure yourself as well. Remember that muscle weighs more than fat, so if you are exercising/lifting weights...you will be building muscle.
Welcome!
~ Dedra

kymarai

Hi everyone!
Busy, busy! I keep reading. But not much time. Keep working it.

Kylia

muffinmondays

Hello ladies, please feel free to add me too. my initial goal is too lose 15lbs and hopefully with fingers crossed some more after that! I turn 47 in a couple of weeks.

kymarai

Good morning from sunny and cold Ohio. Make today a great one!
Kylia

momdedge4

It has turned windy and cold here! Last Tuesday, I took my mom into get a 3rd stint in her heart...we had grass fires near the hospital & near our small town in KS...it was super stressful worrying about my mom & my family/friends!! I didn’t get to move around much & I dislike that it’s harder to eat right during these times! I made it through it & back on track!!
Anyhow, have a wonderful day!!
~ Dedra

ysache13

hey girls - very hard day (my heart is hurting over my son) but I'm still "choosing" to love me FIRST and that means the old mental voices that say to just comfort myself with food is a simple choice on my part and I'm choosing NOT to eat over anything and rather, I NEED to feel the hurt. I've done this on and off in the past and would always fail or fall back eventually and I'm truly making a real life change because I can NOT sit here and choose to let go of my own son who's an alcoholic and I'm telling him he's got to CHOOSE life or death, either family or booze and not do it myself even though they (my family) doesn't even think food is at the same level - when in fact it IS. I'm not in my right mind when not only I'm eating, BUT when I'm medicating myself with a trigger food (for me it's crunchy anything with high carbs) and I'm not going there - I need to think straight right now, and I'm going to take a walk outside and talk to the Lord, I'll pray over your mom and others on this site for sure and I KNOW the Lord will give me the one thing that I want and need that the devil hates me to received and that's PEACE of mind! It's worth more than gold and when I'm having His peace, I don't desire food and I can see truth clearly and make healthy choices (even boundries) - and that's what I'm after today! I thank God I can just keep it real on my thread and my silly little blogs, but I need this and here's my first bump since I found this site 3 weeks only ago and I didn't even lose today and it's not bothering me so THAT also IS a blessing for me! It use to affect my mind but not today - I'm looking UP and looking to you guys because right now I need a friend (mine died) and I realize how alone I am, but the Lord keeps reminding me I'm NOT when I have Him and He showed me this site and I have you guys - I appreciate you all more than words can say and getting someone to share esp after I do and uplifts me means truly the world to me. I guess not having family has me being this raw to you guys, but I'm doing me and after surgery and I walk again, I'm praying for LOVE too - why not right? I'll need to open up about my situation with you guys and in my little self made blog - I'd love to hear what you guys think because even that's not normal (whatever normal is, LOL) ok, going to the dollar store - something close enough to drive to and walk around just to get out! hahaha, HUGS and welcome to all the new people! sorry for the Novel

kymarai

Yana- ((HUGS)) had a post started then oldest daughter called and it disappeared. I will write more tomorrow.
Prayers
Kylia

lsutton6

My name is Linda, and I've just started using MFP this week. I had been on nutrisystem, and had lost about 25 lbs, but then I quit losing, and then actually gained some back. I was feeling pretty depressed about it. I'm almost 70, and I need to lose 100 pounds as well. I need to have hip replacement surgery, but I need to lose weight before I can get that done. I blamed my not exercising for the weight gain, but was told by 2 doctors that exercise has little to no impact on weight loss, that it's totally dependent on what you eat. Dang, I really wanted something else to blame it on, and not just my food.

I was really at a loss as to what I needed to do. I am 5' 6 " and weigh 258. I was eating 1200 calories a day, but not losing. I went to see a weight management doctor last week and he gave me some good information, as well as letting me know what I've been doing wrong. What they recommended is more protein than carbs. So I'm keeping my calories for the day between 1000 and 1200. The ratio of carbs-proteins-fats is 30%-35%-35%. So that's roughly 90g-105g-105g per day. I just started it Friday, so I haven't weighed yet. But I do feel not so stuffed up by reducing my carbs, but that may just be my imagination. I can't go on one of those that cuts out all carbs. I know myself, and I won't stay on it. It's kind of stupid, I know, but as soon as I start trying to limit myself on something, all of a sudden that's what I crave.

I haven't weighed myself yet, since it's only been 3 days, and I'm going to try to weigh myself once a week. Also, since I can't do hardly any exercise, and basically just sit all day, the doctor did recommend doing band exercises. This will help build some muscle, and hopefully help some with my metabolism..

Well, I've yammered enough, but it's nice to share thoughts with others who are battling the same problem.

ysache13

Welcome "Is" I wish I knew people's names, hahaha - Look, I know a lot and yet I know nothing, but I DO know this - WE know who we are and how honest we are to ourselves and what really works and doesn't and that's why I LOVE This site because for me, I am using it to the fullest which for me means this - I WRITE! I use to run support groups and the main reason people go is because they had a whole in their heart and the group gave them a safe place to share!!! So now that I've put on weight and need to take it off, I SHARE - the bottom line is first to figure out what works for you and what doesn't (like you said about your carbs) but also keep it real (cause makes no difference to anyone but YOU, cause it's YOUR boday and YOU are the one who lives in YOUR body!) So knowing that, my only suggestion for now since you're just starting is to NOT do a diet (in the mind) - I smiled when I saw what the dr's said, and then how you figured it out with a lot of numbers! I can only speak for myself, but once I figured ALL that out and when I didn't do it perfectly (cause like you said, you KNOW you can't stay on this or that) then I'd beat myself up which is why this site is FABULOUS - there's nothing to do (diet) BUT simply add up the calories as you choose to put in your mouth, LOL it's that simple PLUS - If I may say, it makes no difference if you diet to LOSE weight (now it does affect muscle) but what are you after? I am having surgery Wed ok? I KNOW I'll continue to lose (by staying around 1,000 a day, period) - so knowing that, and if I'm literally laid up for 2 months with NO walking, do you think I'm concerned? NOPE and will I lose? YEP - it's that simple. What are your trigger foods (eliminate those) that's keeping it real - I KNOW I can NOT EVER bring in this home any crunchy crap (cheeto's doritos, etc.) PERIOD because I will eat that bag whether in one day or a week - I"LL EAT IT ALL - so simple -I don't buy it, LOL - I'd rather get my calories a different way and more than that I want the CRAVINGS to stop, - again for me (and I've tested this on HUNDREDS of people in those yrs) I can eliminate cravings and "thinking" you have to have this or that in 3 days IF you do eliminate bad carbs - I promise the cravings go! After my 3 days, I've been GREAT and have NOT even thought about food, let alone go off of eating those crunchy carbs! Anyway, the bottom line is to stay open to suggestions - listen how others are doing it and take what you want and let the rest GO but I know the Dr is correct as I've gone from 300 lbs to 150 and kept it all off until these last 2.5 yrs when I've had trama, after trama (not to excuse it) and I actually "chose" yes, I chose on purpose to USE food (it's been that bad) and ended up at 187 but I'm not concerned, I know what works (lower those calories) and Now I'm at 180 and I know it'll come off and emotionally I'm back to feeling great and life is good again! I hope you liked something in here - but again, Remember, this is your life and either way, ALL of us will be here for YOU! Big hugs -

fitblonde88

latoyiajackson06 wrote: »

Hi, Everyone. I'm Latoyia. From Alabama . I am looking to lose 45 pounds. I have two boy's 6 and 11. Let's just say I never lose the baby weight and year after year its i am going to lose weight but i eat some that's not good for me or I don't see the weight fall off like I want it. And I fall off track. 115 before my boy's to now 200 pounds . 2018 is my year . It's going to be hard, but I can do this.

I'm from Alabama too-Spanish Fort. I alao have a boy (just turned 7) Where are you located?

wyldewilson1122

Tomorrow is my official day one! Been dieting and exercising on and off but i want fo get down to business! Need some great people to help motivate and share some great yips with each other

ysache13

Hi wylde (name pls, LOL) I'm here for you and I'm sure everyone else is also! This site has been wonderful and I'm only at 2.5 weeks now - 8 lbs down and had surgery today! I feel WONDERFUL and I believe this site is truly my saving grace. I need to start sharing some real truths such as - If you believe you can't you won't - and if you believe you can you will! We ARE what we speak out, from our minds (which is where the real battle lies) - think about that! Also (I speak only for myself) but I KNOW I can NEVER stay on any diet, which is why you have to decide what do you want to do? For me over 20 yrs ago I went from 296 to 160 and have maintained it becaue I did NOT diet, I chose to truly change my lifestyle knowing it will NEVER end (diets end) and I didn't fall when I went back to 187 I CHOSE to eat on purpose because I just finished 2.5 of pure hell which I don't want to get into it all, but I will say this it was so difficult I had a breakdown, started having anxiety, got on meds for both and food was the only thing I could think of doing until I got strong to stop all that madness that I had to endure. But the day it ended I could grieve (lost bff during that mess too) and then my MIND was able to allow my heart to grow my faith and now here I am - gong back down to 160 or maybe 155 with no struggle because truth IS you'll lose if you cut down calories and this site is such a blessing if you're honest with yourself you have to lose but make a number that'll give you loss. Only you know that number and age plays a roll as I'm past menapause and have no metabolism, so I eat very little (temporarily) but I don't drop otherwise LOL hope something in here touched your heart - Blessings, Yana