I'm on day 4 and would like to make a friend to encourage and be accountable to one another!

Makaroni32069 wrote: »

I've gone back and forth about commenting as I have a lot more weight to lose than y'all do. I've battled an anxiety disorder for 15 years now and kinda lost who I am in the process. For the first time in years I feel strong enough to hit this and I have a pretty big incentive (more on that another time).

All these posts have given me hope so thank you for sharing!

Oh wow, I just came on for today and started on my homepage to update first, and if you look at it, you'll see I mention the anxiety! I TOO battle with it. I never had it before (though I've had depression on and off for years and PTSD from a trama 21 yrs ago) but these past 3 yrs has been virtual HELL (truly, no exaggerating) and I had all that PLUS this new one called Anxiety which leaves me so paralyzed I can't think, breath, function and I'm like a STIFF in a chair, praying until I can slowly breathe again, doing everything in my power not to take meds for it and so far, so good but trust, I have them and yes, of course I've used them when it left me this way far too long! I want YOU to know, I'm so happy you chose to write, open up and please don't feel like you have much more to lose, etc., I DO understand (15 or so yrs ago, and one of my many yo-yo times, I was 296 ok?) I hear you, and am here for you, no matter what! know that ok? All of us are - we are a family of same hearts and mind I believe. We are usually (as far as addictions go) very loving, compassionate and caring and though I know I can't speak for others, I believe this is more true than not! I'm glad you're feeling strong and remember we only have time so don't look back, rather look forward (esp to spring and summer and feeling even better!) YASSSSS!!!!! So I leave you with a major big hug, Yana

Hi girls welcome- I want to first thanks for sharing on anxiety and depression (I'm in total agreement) and I hope everyone keeps coming on here to share their hearts - that's ALL that matters I believe is what's in there (not so much in our minds) - because in our hearts is where the real truth lies. I want to also say welcome to Latoyia! I just finished talking to my little sister who wouldn't or perhaps couldn't hear me (denial is so powerful) yet it's ok, it's where we're all at sometimes but she's feeling desperate about her weight and just can't hear that it's what we put in our mouths and this ap is such a blessing and makes it so easy that it's encouraging on it's own! She instead is going to pay 300/month to have prepared food come to her home so she doesn't have to "think" about it. Ultimately I pray it works, but I also worry that she will be lost without that unless she plans on paying the rest of her life! I didn't want to discourage her at all and I KNOW I had to try a million things all these years, so who am I to judge her, so I don't - but I did say that this IS showing me results and is easy so I planted that seed! I think keeping it real and using this site to be real to yourself will SHOW each of us our truth - I mean really, if you don't place it all on there (I even put down how many T of sugar free creamer) I use each day! I can't then scratch my head on why am I not losing - ENCOURAGING each other even if it's just to say hi - there's something about KNOWING you guys are here, on my front wall (or whatever it's called) making my own blog that people can read if they want but doing it for MYSELF and my big one this year - for the first time putting ME FIRST - is amazing even while dealing with high stresses esp not knowing where my son is - I still believe I can do this and keeping my eyes on the Lord, and you guys - I'm not even worried about surgery next week - Glory be to God, that's all for now, hugs

babe, I have a question for you - Have you ever ordered or know someone who has - a dress on Amazon?

I think tomorrow I'll go out again and enjoy the day (hope it's not too cold) but head to the bridal store JUST to see before surgery - I'm got to have my backup plans - but then again, I may fall in love with a reasonable dress - ok, I'm PRAYING that will happen!

hi Cybermadi - welcome love! I'm talking to a woman in England and one in Ireland so it's a beautiful thing! We're all family and makes no difference in the world, it's always the same issue with the food, weight and scale (well except you guys use kg which means I'm clueless along with those stones, LOL) but it's all good! If you'd like to share your goals and what you're hoping to get from this site, etc, by all means share! I love reading what we're all doing to achieve our own happiness!

Welcome "Is" I wish I knew people's names, hahaha - Look, I know a lot and yet I know nothing, but I DO know this - WE know who we are and how honest we are to ourselves and what really works and doesn't and that's why I LOVE This site because for me, I am using it to the fullest which for me means this - I WRITE! I use to run support groups and the main reason people go is because they had a whole in their heart and the group gave them a safe place to share!!! So now that I've put on weight and need to take it off, I SHARE - the bottom line is first to figure out what works for you and what doesn't (like you said about your carbs) but also keep it real (cause makes no difference to anyone but YOU, cause it's YOUR boday and YOU are the one who lives in YOUR body!) So knowing that, my only suggestion for now since you're just starting is to NOT do a diet (in the mind) - I smiled when I saw what the dr's said, and then how you figured it out with a lot of numbers! I can only speak for myself, but once I figured ALL that out and when I didn't do it perfectly (cause like you said, you KNOW you can't stay on this or that) then I'd beat myself up which is why this site is FABULOUS - there's nothing to do (diet) BUT simply add up the calories as you choose to put in your mouth, LOL it's that simple PLUS - If I may say, it makes no difference if you diet to LOSE weight (now it does affect muscle) but what are you after? I am having surgery Wed ok? I KNOW I'll continue to lose (by staying around 1,000 a day, period) - so knowing that, and if I'm literally laid up for 2 months with NO walking, do you think I'm concerned? NOPE and will I lose? YEP - it's that simple. What are your trigger foods (eliminate those) that's keeping it real - I KNOW I can NOT EVER bring in this home any crunchy crap (cheeto's doritos, etc.) PERIOD because I will eat that bag whether in one day or a week - I"LL EAT IT ALL - so simple -I don't buy it, LOL - I'd rather get my calories a different way and more than that I want the CRAVINGS to stop, - again for me (and I've tested this on HUNDREDS of people in those yrs) I can eliminate cravings and "thinking" you have to have this or that in 3 days IF you do eliminate bad carbs - I promise the cravings go! After my 3 days, I've been GREAT and have NOT even thought about food, let alone go off of eating those crunchy carbs! Anyway, the bottom line is to stay open to suggestions - listen how others are doing it and take what you want and let the rest GO but I know the Dr is correct as I've gone from 300 lbs to 150 and kept it all off until these last 2.5 yrs when I've had trama, after trama (not to excuse it) and I actually "chose" yes, I chose on purpose to USE food (it's been that bad) and ended up at 187 but I'm not concerned, I know what works (lower those calories) and Now I'm at 180 and I know it'll come off and emotionally I'm back to feeling great and life is good again! I hope you liked something in here - but again, Remember, this is your life and either way, ALL of us will be here for YOU! Big hugs -