Brutal Honesty

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dnm1207
dnm1207 Posts: 251 Member
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Can you give an example of when you were brutally honest with someone, or when someone was brutally honest with you, and how did it turn out?
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  • mortuseon_
    mortuseon_ Posts: 257 Member
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    _Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »
    When I was in grade 7 or 8, I asked out a girl for the first time. It was so terribly difficult to do. Her response was, “I would, if you weren’t so short and fat”. It quite literally ruined me. To this day, that honesty has affected every part of my confidence level (or lack there of).

    Wow, what a little *kitten*.
  • WorkerDrone83
    WorkerDrone83 Posts: 3,195 Member
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    MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »
    WorkerDrone83 wrote: »
    I don't think I've ever witnessed brutal honesty that wasn't malicious. There's a way to be honest as well as tactful.

    You should've known me before I youtubed how to empathize

    LOL. I absolutely adore that you taught yourself that on youtube.
  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
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    WorkerDrone83 wrote: »
    MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »
    WorkerDrone83 wrote: »
    I don't think I've ever witnessed brutal honesty that wasn't malicious. There's a way to be honest as well as tactful.

    You should've known me before I youtubed how to empathize

    LOL. I absolutely adore that you taught yourself that on youtube.

    That's not all she taught herself.
    She probably learned some stuff about the universe and making essential oils too.
  • WorkerDrone83
    WorkerDrone83 Posts: 3,195 Member
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    gottabeeleighv wrote: »
    I am brutally honest when shopping with girlfriends. If it doesn't look good on them, I will never say it does.

    That's honest, but are you 'brutally honest' by saying that they look terrible?
  • MonkeyMel21
    MonkeyMel21 Posts: 2,388 Member
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    I finally had to tell my co-worker than I didn’t want to hear anymore *kitten* talking about a different co-worker. I never had a problem with him, even though his sense of humor was sometimes off-putting. She hated him and every look/movement/word he said and told me about it every day all day. I can not deal with that type of constant negativity and told her so and she was understanding and it got better.
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,742 Member
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    I tell people who sell things online (all the skincare, candles, essential oils, nails, lipstick, cooking implements, etc) that I won't ever buy their wares. It doesn't matter if we go back to third grade, are related, etc. I'm never going to participate in any of it, period. They usually get offended and I don't care.

    People like to be brutally honest with me about my hair. I had a pixie cut for years and friends/coworkers universally loved it that way. The longer it grows, the more people tell me it "lacks shape" or "looks bad" or "isn't flattering as the short hair". I used to get upset and cut it every time that happened but now I don't care & do as I wish. Usually I don't like their hair anyway!
  • caco_ethes
    caco_ethes Posts: 11,962 Member
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    I don’t know if I’m capable of brutal honesty.
  • thatsillyshana23
    thatsillyshana23 Posts: 106 Member
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    As a therapist, I've learned the art of being brutally honest such as "you'll die if you don't stop, but that's your choice..." or "I'm hearing excuses, when will there be some action?" I keep it tailored to the person though, some people can't handle it so I wait until it's a good time. It usually works. I had a few people who said I was completely wrong. I also had to call out coworkers for not doing their jobs, one specifically who is in charge of a few things...she denied it and blamed me for not doing her job in front of everyone and said I never communicated that she needed to do her job. So now I just avoid her because it's clear that she's just going to push her responsibilities on me.
  • RunHardBeStrong
    RunHardBeStrong Posts: 33,069 Member
    edited February 2018
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    In my job I have to be honest with people daily even if they don't like it but not brutally.

    Last time I was brutally honest was last spring, I told my sister in law that everyone is tired of walking on eggshells around her. She needs serious mental help. We are tired of her playing the victim and making everyone dread going to events she will be at. She didn't take it well. She moved away instead of facing her issues. She is still playing the victim but at least it's from 800 miles away now.

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