Does anyone else get irritated when people ask "what's your secret?"

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theyrenothorsestheyretapirs
theyrenothorsestheyretapirs Posts: 5 Member
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I specifically mean when people who're maybe, a little larger, ask, and then refuse to listen, or accuse you of lying?

Someone in my class at Uni is big. I mean, huge. She must weigh a good 350lb, constantly drinks coke, I've never seen her drink water, she says it's boring, she eats a whole ton for lunch, often scoffing down three or four museli bars (they're "healthy"!) and it's obvious why she is the size she is.

A class mate and I use MFP and are losing/have lost a fair chunk of weight between us. Before joining here I have lost and kept off 70lb in the last four years. Our classmate has aksed us several times how we've done it, but doesn't like the answer and keeps pestering us about what our "secret" is and it's just ticking me off a lot lately.

Does anyone else get this? Do you get peeved off by it too?
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  • jaycanchu
    jaycanchu Posts: 265 Member
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    Nope, just means you have noticeable results
  • theyrenothorsestheyretapirs
    theyrenothorsestheyretapirs Posts: 5 Member
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    Maid_of_Mischief1 wrote: »
    No... did you ever think that maybe that classmate of yours had other issues and that's why she's eating like she Is? I'm sure she doesn't want to be the size she is but just hasn't had the motivation or maybe resources to help her get there. It's definitly not a pet peeve of mine when someone asks me things like that, I'm more than happy to talk to them about my lifestyle that helps me be where I am.

    If she has issues then whatever - we all do. I don't care especially about her eating habits, but she's making it my business by constantly nagging at me about what I'm eating, asking how I lost weight, etc. I don't tell her she's got a nerve wanting to go into healthcare and tell people how to look after themselves when she can't do so herself, so can't see how it's okay for her to harp on at me for my "secret" to not being obese. Honestly, working in the HCPC professions would, to me, be a huge incentive to get on top of my weight if I hadn't already. And I know that's not the case for alot of people - we have some of the fattest nurses in the EU - but to me, it's the right thing to do. I wouldn't want to use a mechanic with a car that failed it's MOT.


    I'm happy to talk about it too, but not when someone so hates my answer that they accuse me of lying.
  • theyrenothorsestheyretapirs
    theyrenothorsestheyretapirs Posts: 5 Member
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    km8907 wrote: »
    You know people like you were the reason I didn't like to eat in public. You know absolutely nothing about this girl and have no right to judge the tiny glimpse into her life that you see. Just be consistent with how you answer her and she'll get it eventually. In the meantime, keep your eyes on your plate and off of hers.

    I've never once commented on her food, and I've worked retail for a number of years so I'm really good at keeping my thoughts off my face. If you had a hard time eating in public because of your weight, that says more about your weight and how you felt about it than anything else.
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,426 Member
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    No one has ever asked me. If they did I would just say I track my calorie intake with a food diary app. No secret. Nothing to get annoyed about.
    I don't really talk about my weight or weight loss outside of the forums here.
    I eat pretty much the same foods as everyone else I know.
    I also don't have a problem changing the subject or telling someone I am not going to discuss a topic if they are bothering me.
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,741 Member
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    Yes. It gets very old!

    When someone says "What's your secret?" I just say counting calories/My Fitness Pal and leave it at that. Most people immediately lose interest because for whatever reason they want me to give them a recipe for putting 5 superfoods, some essential oils, and the blood of a virgin in a Vitamix to lose weight instantly. I honestly just roll my eyes at this point because it gets old.

    I like the other poster's answer "I guess I'm just lucky" because sometimes I wanna say that.

    I've also been annoyed by people who barely know me, and former coworkers, just assuming I had weight loss surgery. Not to say that's wrong or bad. But I did not have it, so I am mildly offended by the assumption. My former boss told the gossipy crowd that I didn't have WLS but I work out all of the time & ride my bike everywhere. Also untrue. She'd seen me on hiking trails and riding my bike ONCE (probably out of the ten times a year I ride). People decide things and go with it. Just gotta laugh but yes it's annoying!
  • tirowow12385
    tirowow12385 Posts: 698 Member
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    Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings wrote: »
    bojack3 wrote: »
    It's kind of relevant to the topic so this is a blog I wrote addressing my opinion on over simplistic approaches to weight issues.

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/bojack3

    Very well written and spot on! Many people throw phrases around like 'mind over matter' but never fully comprehend that we are, in fact, psychosomatic beings.

    I truly enjoyed this! :)

    Ps. I have a military father... could be partly why this resonated with me so much... as far as discipline goes.

    It's mind over matter though, well, mind over hunger actually.

  • goatg
    goatg Posts: 1,399 Member
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    The world is a better place when we take a breath and approach issues with compassion and inquiry.
  • Vikka_V
    Vikka_V Posts: 9,563 Member
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    lavinia_whateley_goals wrote: »
    this post vintage mfp, like a fine wine combing fat shaming, a touch of humble bragging and the faint note of flame baiting

    pairs well with dry humor

    I don't know vintage mfp...but I adore you and your mind...perfect description of 'today mfp' as well from what I gather!!

    Random...the 'old days' are always referenced with so much adoration and nostalgia...I feel like I missed something epic

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