Damn. Back handed compliments.

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  • huntersvonnegut
    huntersvonnegut Posts: 1,177 Member
    edited April 2018
    I’ve lost a few pounds in the last few years and I appreciate comments/compliments when people I know have noticed. A few that I knew well I couldn’t help but say, “so...before you thought I was a fat *kitten* slob?” Of course if the tables were turned, I’d say, “well...yeah.” But yeah, we have become way too sensitive as a society in too many ways.
  • DaylightDuchess
    DaylightDuchess Posts: 251 Member
    Are we to the point that even compliments are considered offensive already? If you think “you look great” is a backhanded compliment I would hate to see your post about the friend who didn’t mention your looks at all. This isn’t about her words at all, this is about your insecurities.

    Well whenever I believe that I am complaining too much, I'll remember this thread! At least my complaints aren't just quantity {numerous}, there're also quality {reasonable}!
  • HappyKat5
    HappyKat5 Posts: 369 Member
    Are we to the point that even compliments are considered offensive already? If you think “you look great” is a backhanded compliment I would hate to see your post about the friend who didn’t mention your looks at all. This isn’t about her words at all, this is about your insecurities.

    Thank you your post. I admire people that tell it like it is. I believe everyone is insecure about something in their lives. I’m not just talking about a body, diet, face or haircut) it can be about a job, marriage or what school to apply to or if you even want to go to school. I am insecure but I’m also secure in myself. I’m not trying to defend my post, I was putting it out there to get others thoughts.
  • dnunny70
    dnunny70 Posts: 411 Member
    How you feel if Friend didn’t say a word about how you looked/changes?

    I wouldn’t let it bother you. You looked great...awesome!!