Dating someone from your gym
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Maid_of_Mischief1 wrote: »I've dated someone who goes to the gym, yes.
No story to go along with that?0 -
Go for it, common interests... and all, why not?
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your an adult....if you like him go for it....Gyms arent highschool...Although admittedly some of the bros seem to think it is...3
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If you like the person why not?
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Maid_of_Mischief1 wrote: »Maid_of_Mischief1 wrote: »I've dated someone who goes to the gym, yes.
No story to go along with that?
Not really, no. Honestly, I don't see what the big deal is if he goes to your gym or not? If you like him and he likes you why wouldn't you? I don't understand.
I understand the apprehension.
If she's entrenched in her gym and it's a part of her day-today routine she might not want anything to detract from her time there. If the relationship sours, then there is that added distraction to what was once a diversion free environment.
Thing is, it cuts both ways for him and her.
That being said, I still think: Damn The Torpedoes !1 -
Maid_of_Mischief1 wrote: »Maid_of_Mischief1 wrote: »I've dated someone who goes to the gym, yes.
No story to go along with that?
Not really, no. Honestly, I don't see what the big deal is if he goes to your gym or not? If you like him and he likes you why wouldn't you? I don't understand.
I spend 12-14 hours per week in the gym. I've dated someone from the gym before and it was a little uncomfortable when we broke up. But I'm willing to see if it's worth it again.JaydedMiss wrote: »your an adult....if you like him go for it....Gyms arent highschool...Although admittedly some of the bros seem to think it is...
You're* an adult too, thanks! I know gyms aren't* high school but I do take my training seriously and like to keep that in mind.2 -
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Maid_of_Mischief1 wrote: »Maid_of_Mischief1 wrote: »Maid_of_Mischief1 wrote: »I've dated someone who goes to the gym, yes.
No story to go along with that?
Not really, no. Honestly, I don't see what the big deal is if he goes to your gym or not? If you like him and he likes you why wouldn't you? I don't understand.
I spend 12-14 hours per week in the gym. I've dated someone from the gym before and it was a little uncomfortable when we broke up. But I'm willing to see if it's worth it again.JaydedMiss wrote: »your an adult....if you like him go for it....Gyms arent highschool...Although admittedly some of the bros seem to think it is...
You're* an adult too, thanks! I know gyms aren't* high school but I do take my training seriously and like to keep that in mind.
Maybe just don't go at the same time he goes?
Aaha, we're all the 5-7:30 after work crowd on the week days. Good idea though.
I don't really want to overthink it for myself. I'm probably going to at least go out with him. Just felt like chatting and hearing stories.0 -
Go for it! My gym is 24/7, so if just change up my time lol0
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I assume the hesitancy is because if/when things don't work out, then seeing him at the gym will be awkward? Will that somehow impact your ability to train?0
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My boyfriend and I go to the same gym. A mutual gym friend introduced us. We enjoy working out together. We don't always go at the same time and have different fitness goals. A lot of the other regular members we talk to didn't know we were a couple. Dating someone from my gym has worked out well for me. We've been together over 2.5 years.0
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I assume the hesitancy is because if/when things don't work out, then seeing him at the gym will be awkward? Will that somehow impact your ability to train?
It didn't really with the last guy. I chose to say hello at the gym, he chose to ignore me. I trained like I always would.
The new guy is kind of more social with other people at the gym though..
I guess I always want to maintain a bit of privacy. I've been going to that gym for many many years and though I'm friendly with a lot of people there I am one of the only women down in the weight room and I just...you know...don't want everyone knowing all the things.0 -
Since everyone seems to assume "dating" won't work out, and they're probably right, perhaps it's best to approach this activity with caution?
Meaning, like, keeping the clothes on and maintaining separate sleeping quarters until you're dang sure you're going to get married with the ring and the wedding date to back it up?
Then if it goes sour, you can still keep going to the gym, the workplace, the clinic, the laundromat and the strip club like nothing ever happened.
Yeah that's what I was planning. One night out, a little conversation, get my butt home in bed alone by midnight.0 -
I once dated this woman from my gym back in the day. We went out, fooled around, went out again a little then it seemed we lost interest in each other.
A few months later, I was out with a good friend of mine and his girlfriend her two girlfriends who were strippers.
They -- that is, the strippers -- liked me. They would take turns sitting on my lap, buying me drinks, whispering naughty things in my ear. The evening was going awesome until crazy ex-gym gf sees me out with them and promptly c*ck blocks me.
Still, as a consolation, I go home with crazy ex-gym gf -- last time I ever saw her before moving to Chicago.0 -
I asked out my Zumba instructor once. She said hell no but I still kept taking her class anyway. I think it's important in life to try.3
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giantrobot_powerlifting wrote: »I once dated this woman from my gym back in the day. We went out, fooled around, went out again a little then it seemed we lost interest in each other.
A few months later, I was out with a good friend of mine and his girlfriend her two girlfriends who were strippers.
They -- that is, the strippers -- liked me. They would take turns sitting on my lap, buying me drinks, whispering naughty things in my ear. The evening was going awesome until crazy ex-gym gf sees me out with them and promptly c*ck blocks me.
Still, as a consolation, I go home with crazy ex-gym gf -- last time I ever saw her before moving to Chicago.
What is c*ck blocking. It sounds very mean. I mean, if you were able to turn the tables on strippers and get them to buy you drinks and sit on your lap free of charge and say dirty things to you out of the goodness of their hearts, I don't see why this gym girl couldn't just be happy for you and offer to move to Chicago with you too and start a family.
Or just joined in with me and the strippers0 -
That was funny!giantrobot_powerlifting wrote: »giantrobot_powerlifting wrote: »I once dated this woman from my gym back in the day. We went out, fooled around, went out again a little then it seemed we lost interest in each other.
A few months later, I was out with a good friend of mine and his girlfriend her two girlfriends who were strippers.
They -- that is, the strippers -- liked me. They would take turns sitting on my lap, buying me drinks, whispering naughty things in my ear. The evening was going awesome until crazy ex-gym gf sees me out with them and promptly c*ck blocks me.
Still, as a consolation, I go home with crazy ex-gym gf -- last time I ever saw her before moving to Chicago.
What is c*ck blocking. It sounds very mean. I mean, if you were able to turn the tables on strippers and get them to buy you drinks and sit on your lap free of charge and say dirty things to you out of the goodness of their hearts, I don't see why this gym girl couldn't just be happy for you and offer to move to Chicago with you too and start a family.
Or just joined in with me and the strippers
You mean she didn't? I thought c*ck blocking had something to do with that sort of cultural possibility but now you have me all confused. Nevermind. Last time I heard strippers talking about whooping it up after a hard night on the pole with some white zinfandel and some girl-girl-girl-boy action, somebody got their wallet stolen and feelings were hurt all around.
That night I was hoping to hook up with the two strippers and not the crazy ex gf girlfriend, who put the c*ck block on me. I ended up with one woman that night, and not two as I hoped
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OP-I have before
We never worked out together really I always did my own thing he did his
We ended things and it remained the same way.. I didn’t try to avoid him he didn’t either, to much work into doing that and I’m there to workout anyways not socialize
We ended things on a pretty mature note so maybe that was a reason it wasn’t bad?
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I wouldn't. Finding a great gym in a small town is difficult enough. Why compound the issue with a gym hottie ? There is only one I in fit. Room for just one in my fitness me zone, my shangrila.1
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Meeting a person at the gym is just as arbitrary as meeting them at a coffee shop your frequent or a super market. Personally, I want a partner that is fit and health conscious, I've know the opposite to cause tension.2
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I did. First time I’ve shared it.giantrobot_powerlifting wrote: »I once dated this woman from my gym back in the day. We went out, fooled around, went out again a little then it seemed we lost interest in each other.
A few months later, I was out with a good friend of mine and his girlfriend her two girlfriends who were strippers.
They -- that is, the strippers -- liked me. They would take turns sitting on my lap, buying me drinks, whispering naughty things in my ear. The evening was going awesome until crazy ex-gym gf sees me out with them and promptly c*ck blocks me.
Still, as a consolation, I go home with crazy ex-gym gf -- last time I ever saw her before moving to Chicago.
You love to tell that story, don't you?
Can't blame you. I would too.
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I don't go to a gym but wonder if you would feel the same hesitation dating a guy you like who lives in your neighborhood, works in the same office/building, goes to the same school, goes to the same church, etc? There is always a risk you will not stay together and things may be awkward. Life is short though so take the risk.
I met my dh when we worked together and we started dating while we both still worked there. We did not end up breaking up so never dealt with that. There was a man and woman who worked in our department who had once been married and divorced. They pretty much just stayed away from each other unless they had to communicate about something work related. They both worked there for many years after they divorced so I guess it wasn't too much of an issue.2 -
I don't go to a gym but wonder if you would feel the same hesitation dating a guy you like who lives in your neighborhood, works in the same office/building, goes to the same school, goes to the same church, etc? There is always a risk you will not stay together and things may be awkward. Life is short though so take the risk.
I met my dh when we worked together and we started dating while we both still worked there. We did not end up breaking up so never dealt with that. There was a man and woman who worked in our department who had once been married and divorced. They pretty much just stayed away from each other unless they had to communicate about something work related. They both worked there for many years after they divorced so I guess it wasn't too much of an issue.
At work, yes, but I'm an elementary school teacher. I'd feel differently if I was in less close quarters or not around children.
If I could date someone from my neighborhood I would be THRILLED. Taking the subway to far away NYC hoods to date is exhausting.
There's something about the gym...it's such a huge part of my life. My training is so important. I don't want anything to get in the way. And also, I like my privacy being one of the only women in a sea of men. Honestly, I'm sometimes a bit self-conscious there as well because I don't look my best deadlifting 275 after working with k-5th graders all day and 2 hours of commuting.0 -
LOLCoffeeAndContour wrote: »I dated a guy from the gym but things didn't end up working out.1 -
I had a golden rule - don't date from my gym. broke that rule twice and regretted it both times. both became bothersome to me at the gym when it did not work out - then I got a call from one who said "are you dating this other guy?" (which I was not at that time cuz it was over)...drama drama drama. I DONT DATE FROM MY GYM.0
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I don't think it's a big deal dating someone from the gym as long as you are honest with yourself on what you can handle. Drama only exists when more than one party entertains it. If you think it may be trouble, it probably will be. If you know that it won't bother you it probably wont.0
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