Women made fun of me at my walking group so no motivation now....

KatTad77

2 years ago I weighed 425. I now weight 311 as of today. I exercise 4 times a day and I eat what I am suppose to. I have not felt this healthy in a long time. But as soon as I walk out to greet the world I continuously get punched in the gut by everyone and anyone. I decided to join a walking group in my area and they made it a point to make me feel unwelcome. Then the women who organized it whispered under her breath but where I can hear her that "we are going to be behind because of the fatty" It makes me depressed and today has been even worse. It makes me not want to do anything but hide in my house. I feel like I have no support except my husband but he doesn't understand either because he has never been overweight Has anyone else here been through this and any tricks to overcome it?

tulips_and_tea

Great progress so far! Keep going. Don't let ANYONE stop you from reaching your goals.

So sorry to hear your walking group was so negative. Personally, I'd address the woman specifically that said that about you. There's a possibility your misunderstood what she said, but if not, then she needs to be informed that she is wrong and rude.

I'm not sure what you mean by they "made it a point to make me feel unwelcome". Sometimes it's our own perceptions but again, if not, there are plenty of other good, supportive people out there so just dismiss this group and move on.

Do not give up. Do not hide. Don't let the opinions and words of other people take away your confidence or self-worth.

rj0150684

Yeah, there’s a lotta jerks in the world and coming across one usually isn’t a good time, especially when they’ve decided to take whatever insecurity or anger they’re feeling and direct it at you. I know it’s trite, but the good people outnumber the jerks, even if it doesn’t always seem that way, and obviously if that’s the kind of person who would lead a group, that probably isn’t the right group for you (or any normal person). Find a different group and I doubt you’ll have the same experience, and hang in there. You’ve lost over 100lbs, which is something most people couldn’t do if their life depended on it (and sometimes it does). Dealing with some catty woman is nothing compared to what you’ve already done.

snowflake954

Find another group and try again. Eventually you'll find like-minded people. Do not throw in the towel. The problem is them, not you. If you have ANY doubt that you might have misread or not heard correctly, give them another shot-then decide. If you keep going, one day you'll be jogging past them in hot jogging shorts, and then listen to the comments.

workinonit1956

I’m so sorry that happened to you. Wow, what a mean spirited person. Would your husband walk with you?

staci2476

First, congratulations on the weight loss! Great job! Second... *kitten* them! The only reason people are petty and say stuff like that is because they are insecure. It gives them undo self worth. Third, you are in this for you and no one else.

dhiammarath

Wow. You've come so far and what you've lost RIGHT NOW is no small feat! Don't let trolls knock you down and devalue your efforts. They're not worth it and you are worth more than their words.

If it's daunting to find a new group, go walking on your own! What I do is load up a good audiobook (music can get old and there's no cliffhangers to keep them steps coming) that's got a lot of action and I find myself walking longer and longer because I want to find out what's gonna happen next. The world will fall away when you're battling dragons and taking keeps or whatever your book preference is.

Slay the world's poor attitude. Grab your sword and sheath and go be awesome! Because you ARE awesome!!

cmriverside

Yeah, I walked by myself...I like to use the time to do a walking meditation and get in touch with myself and Nature.

There may be Weight Watchers or Curves or a T.O.P.S. group near you. They are full of ladies who would love a walking partner. Don't give up. Congrats on your progress so far.

dlcharles

You done great so far...115 lbs, be proud of yourself.
We have to be our own cheerleader at times.
Walk the dog, go to the school track, start your own walking group. Keeping showing up with the one your in and keep on walking. You got this. So proud of you. You are an inspiration

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RuNaRoUnDaFiEld

That was their excuse to cover up their lack of self esteem that you were keeping up with them!

Where are you from? Maybe we can find you a walking buddy who isn't a prick?

nutmegoreo

dhiammarath wrote: »

Wow. You've come so far and what you've lost RIGHT NOW is no small feat! Don't let trolls knock you down and devalue your efforts. They're not worth it and you are worth more than their words.

If it's daunting to find a new group, go walking on your own! What I do is load up a good audiobook (music can get old and there's no cliffhangers to keep them steps coming) that's got a lot of action and I find myself walking longer and longer because I want to find out what's gonna happen next. The world will fall away when you're battling dragons and taking keeps or whatever your book preference is.

Slay the world's poor attitude. Grab your sword and sheath and go be awesome! Because you ARE awesome!!

This made me smile.

Personally, I use the Zombies Run! app. Great story and I have my music playing between sections of the episode. You don't actually have to run at any point in time, but it's nice to have that distraction.

As for what the woman said and how you felt in the group? I'm not too sure exactly how to respond to that. There is likely a few things at play here. 1) regarding the specific comment, she's clearly got her own issues, 2) as for how you felt with the group: our perceptions can be altered by past experiences. I'll try to better explain. When you get a sunburn, everything that touches that burnt spot hurts more. A hand or clothing on a non-burnt spot is barely noticeable. But that burnt spot, that same pressure will cause a lot of pain. The garbage you've endured up to now regarding your weight is like a burnt spot. It's more sensitive. Without knowing specifics of their behaviour, I don't know if this was a sensitive reaction or if they were truly just hags. Regardless, keep looking for a different group. There are good people out there who will support you.

88olds

Read this somewhere just today: what others say about you, says something about them, not you. (Paraphrased)

Keep going. Really. You’ve been handed a gift, a challenge you can win just by showing up and going for a walk. You can look back on this day as the day you locked in success. Don’t let the opportunity slip through your hands.

Just my view- weight loss is a solitary pursuit. If you find a kindred spirit, its a rare occurrence. We’re mostly alone in this. If you think walking benefits you, go walk.

More than likely you’re not the only person in that group that thinks that person is a PITA. Learning about courage and determination can be valuable lessons. Looks like you’ve been chosen to teach those folks.

I can’t express how much I want to read a follow up post- Walking Group II. (III, IV, V actually)

serindipte

I'm so sorry you ran into an insecure *kitten* like that.. unfortunately, they do exist (and reproduce, somehow). I'm very self-conscious about my walking. What I do is call my best friend (she lives in another state) and I talk to her on the earpiece and we both go for a walk. She walks at a faster pace, but it doesn't matter. We walk 'together', talk, huff, complain to each other lol.. then at the half-time mark, we turn around and walk back. She may go further than I do, but it lets us walk with each other like if we were in a group.

kami3006

I tried to type a response several times before getting so pissed off that I walked away. Stuff like this is just way too common and just so asinine. You're doing so well and I hope that you can see that comments like that reflect the person making them and not you.

You're already a success story with your loss so far and I hope that you're able to move forward, with or without a group, and keep on with your progress. There are plenty of people here who would be happy to encourage, support, and listen to you. Take advantage of it, read the success stories when you're feeling low, and please report back on how you're doing.

mom23mangos

You've done an amazing job losing over 100lbs. Don't let this derail you. Go on meetup.com and form your own walking group. Make sure you specify that ALL are welcome and it's a judgement free zone.

PaytraB

Congratulations on your progress to date. You are doing fantastic!

I'm sorry about the comment heard in the walking walking group. That was rude and uncalled for. Don't let it deter you, though. Keep going. Is there another walking group? Can you start your own walking group?

I go for walks on my own a lot. It's quite relaxing to be in my own thoughts for awhile.

Whatever you decide, do not give up. You are amazing.

mochapygmy

I wrote a big post and my phone froze.

To sum up:
You rock. Figure out your goals and your why so no one and nothing can deter you.
They are ASSHATS!
We are all with you.

Bry_Fitness70

Let me rewrite your title:

"Women made fun of me at my walking group so now motivation now...."

Decades ago an ex said to me as we broke up "you are going to be fat and bald when you get old!" (She was half right, the hair is gone, lol). Rather than getting dejected, I went to work and let that motivate me! That comment actually still bounces around in my head at times, but it makes me smile rather than making me sad...

dsboohead

If you stop.....they win...do not let them!
Dream of the day when you become smaller than any those mean spirited women and come back to let them know of their ugliness!
Heck....go back now and let them know what was said and how it felt!
You keep going and achieve your dreams!

Lounmoun

You've done so well. I hate that you ran into some rotten people. Don't let them take away from you.

Why do you want to join a walking group?
I have not tried joining a group for exercise. I don't know how walking groups work. Do you stick close together and chat as you walk or it it some kind of competitive walking team? Is it because your area is unsafe to walk alone or supposed to be more motivating with other people?

I know it is harder for me to walk together for exercise with someone who has longer legs, or is very slow or very fast compared to me. I walk alone to get places or just around my house or I walk with my dd who has about the same pace.

urloved33

wrong walking group. find another. its a harsh reality that women are really awful to each other in a wide spread way...until you find your "people" go it alone - never let it stop you - just let living well be your best revenge.

KatTad77

Thank you everyone. You could not imagine how much this has helped this morning.

2aycocks

My gosh! What a bi-utch! I'm so sorry that happened. You have accomplished so much! Find another group to walk with. You don't need those shallow airheads anyway. Hugs! ❤️️

ITUSGirl51

That’s why I prefer to exercise alone or with my husband. It’s very hard losing weight and I wouldn’t want to chance anyone bringing me down and making me feel I wasn’t worth it. It’s happened to me many, many times. Women can be mean. Just not worth it.

Keep working on being the best you can be and F off the losers that want to bring you down.

Hamsibian

You can start your own walking group. Create one on meetup or Facebook, and make sure to write that it's a judgement free group

By the way, congrats on your accomplishments so far! You should be proud, and those who made you feel bad just suck. Keep on walking!

rugratz2015

Well done on the weight loss x there sure is some nasty people around, unfortunately walking doesn’t seem to do cure their ignorance. I’m on a fb walking group where everyone is supportive, regardless of your reasons/goals and where you could see if there’s anyone in your area, they have members from all over the world.

TangibleTania

I don't ever post as I am never on here..came on tonight to look at recent posts...read about 20+ titles..and your's caught my eye...oh girl..you need a ((((((hug))))). Those gals are not 'women'...they are child-like minded. Grrrr. Stuck in high school (no offense to you nice girls in school..honest)..anyway..all those gals needed was for you to say..YA KNOW I CAN HEAR YOU! I know..not everyone is that bold..and it hurt..well I just want to say GOOD FOR YOU FOR POSTING HERE TODAY. It just ticks me off. I'm no skinny minnie...never have been and I need to lose a lot..if you were my neighbor I'd walk my fat rear right over and we'd go walking! Anyway...keep going...115 lbs of loss is amazing. YOU ARE AMAZING. If you ever just need another lady to chat with on here just message me...we can send positive support back and forth..I mean it. I've not been on here in well over a year and I'm trying to get back on track. I have some nice recipes (I love to bake and cook) to share that have helped me lose weight...willing to share sweetie. Have a restful night and be proud of yourself..don't let those nasty girls bring you down!!!! YOU ROCK!

sbrownallison

Please don't let this discourage you; clearly this group was not for you and sounds really toxic. That's the last thing we need, right? I agree that walking is a wonderful solitary activity, and now that better weather is almost here, don't waste a minute of it being discouraged. I've discovered podcasts (yeah, they've been around awhile but I'm behind the times), so that's what I listen to on walks. Music doesn't do it for me but I can walk all day listening to This American Life. Stick with your new healthier habits and don't let negative people bring you down.

hipari

Ugh, I’m so frustrated that people still do and say that kind of crap. You’ve done amazing! All bodies are great and I don’t think ”regular people” (non-doctors, trainers, dieticians, medical professionals etc.) have any business judging other people’s bodies. Your body is strong, capable and beautiful, and it sounds like you’re doing a great job treating it well. The word ”fatty” shouldn’t be in anyone’s vocabulary, when it comes to describing other people.

Rant: I’m so sick of people judging or making fun overweight people who work out, eat healthy food etc. These are generally the same people who judge obesity in general and are the first to tell you to do something about it, and then proceed to make fun of any attempts to lose weight or make it a point that only already-healthy people can eat healthy foods or exercise, as if there’s no middle ground or no pathway for change.

Keep up the good work and show those b*tches where to shove their negativity. Others have given great tips on entertaining yourself while walking, here’s one more: Pokemon Go. It’s surprisingly entertaining and motivating, and I’m saying this as someone who was never into Pokemon as a kid.

OneofGodsfav

Remember you are Beautiful and wonderfully made. And always remember this is your journey , not anyone else and you run your race. And shame on the person that started that group that made you feel bad because although they may be smaller than you their the ugly ones cuz for anyone to say that it's just not right and it makes them look like a bullies. Don't let their ignorance make you feel bad remember where you came from 400 and something now to 300 something don't let them make you feel bad for what you've already achieved dont let that be in vain.