Women made fun of me at my walking group so no motivation now....
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You are doing amazing. I am so happy when I hear stories of such weight loss. I have no idea who this woman is, but remember that usually when someone puts others down, it is because they have to build themselves up...She isn't feeling good about herself or she wouldn't "try" to bring you down. She truly is not worth your worry.
Keep it up...Maybe you could build your own walking group made for "positive" people. If she did this to you, I will guarantee you are not the first. Try it!
Keep up your awesome work girl!!
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2 years ago I weighed 425. I now weight 311 as of today. I exercise 4 times a day and I eat what I am suppose to. I have not felt this healthy in a long time. But as soon as I walk out to greet the world I continuously get punched in the gut by everyone and anyone. I decided to join a walking group in my area and they made it a point to make me feel unwelcome. Then the women who organized it whispered under her breath but where I can hear her that "we are going to be behind because of the fatty" It makes me depressed and today has been even worse. It makes me not want to do anything but hide in my house. I feel like I have no support except my husband but he doesn't understand either because he has never been overweight Has anyone else here been through this and any tricks to overcome it?
Hey dear I am so sorry about people treating you like this! People can be very ugly. Also when you are improving yourself I always tend to see people get intimidated and will say nasty things like that. I gained about 60lbs when I first went on birth control 3 years ago and I was always a tiny thing I was 120 lbs muscular and you wouldn't believe the comments that I got from friends and even some family! People were asking me if I was pregnant and poking my stomach or they were saying what did you do to get so fat???? I said I went on bc you jerk. It slows your metabolism the first year and then you go back to normal over time.
Update to now and I've lost 45 of it and now those same people are complimenting me. *insert eye roll*
Don't let anybody steal your thunder. I bet pretty damn well those women that are belittiling you have so many insecurities you can't imagine and they need to take it out on someone to make themselves feel better.
I also tried a running group local since I used to do xc and I joined for one day for a 5 mile run and they all had the audacity to get angry that I couldn't do a 8 minute mile and were nasty to me like they were to you. I said im simply restarting calm down and atleast you may think I am ugly on the outside you will always be ugly on the inside and I walked away.
If you would like to add me on myfitnesspal as friends we can try to keep supporting each other. I also just found a nice app called My Affirmations: Live Positive and it has nice affirmations each day and I feel like it helps at times when you are feeling low. Also try writing as well or any hobby that you enjoy. Try to keep your stress levels down as well.
I am proud of your accomplishment as well and keep going!!!!!!2 -
Don't let those idiots bother you. Keep up with the good work!1
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RuNaRoUnDaFiEld wrote: »That was their excuse to cover up their lack of self esteem that you were keeping up with them!
Where are you from? Maybe we can find you a walking buddy who isn't a prick?
That's what I said! They probably have so many insecurities and have to make themselves feel better. I haven't been on myfitnesspal discussions all too often but I am so happy I looked today. It made me feel really good to see so many people being supportive even if we do not personally know the woman. I feel like we need more of this going around. Faith in humanity is restored lol
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If you stop.....they win...do not let them!
Dream of the day when you become smaller than any those mean spirited women and come back to let them know of their ugliness!
Heck....go back now and let them know what was said and how it felt!
You keep going and achieve your dreams!
Haha oh yeah! I will tell them to their faces when people used to do that to me and you wouldn't believe the look of horror I received. It's like yeah it makes you look ridiculous right?? Lol now I've embarassed you in front of your "cool" friends. Also if you stand up even if its difficult at the time it teaches them that its not acceptable. Trolls get away with so much because no one has verbally handed it to them on how they act. Trust me when you do they will not bother you ever again!1 -
Kick their *kitten*, not your own.1
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People have all said so much - and I echo their sentiments, and just want to send some love and admiration your way. Tbh - seeing people who have worked so hard, and who have used walking as exercise have totally been my inspiration. So thank you for being one of them I haven't seen you out walking, because I don't live there, but you are one of the folks that I would see working at weight loss in my own community and I would think "*heck* - look at her go! She's doing more than I am; even if I just went for a walk.... ' and that's how I've been easing back into exercise and taking care of myself. So thanks for working hard because it inspires the rest of us!! BIG HUG to you. 2
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Regardless of how one looks, they will somehow be ridiculed by others...........................just because. Sometimes you have to learn more how to be RHINO SKIN thick because listening to all the criticism can drive you nuts.
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Thx for the positive motivation. You really helped me...all of you.7
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A thought.
Were they all rude? Or just one?
If you walk 4 times a day, maybe some of them walk more than once a day. Go back, find out. Maybe one of them would like to walk a different time of day. Maybe a walking buddy instead of a walking group.
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Well that's just not very nice. F them. Go you! Congratulations on what you've accomplished. I hope you won't lose heart, and that you keep at it! Try to use it as motivation. Easy to say, harder to do. Sending positive thoughts your way.1
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Amazing loss! I recently found this saying. It resonated with me. Maybe it will help you. " Always Walk like you Deserve to be right where you are."
Don't let anyone stop you from walking!3 -
Holy heck what miserable lives those women must lead. It's a good thing you discovered quickly what jerks they are, so you're not too emotionally invested in them.1
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It was people like that who made me hate working out where others could see me. Their whisperings were never quiet and it really got to me. Just remember that we all are made of the same stuff, so you have just as much right to exercise in public as they do!2
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You are amazing for losing that much weight! Don't listen to her: just walk on your own or find one or two people to walk with. One of my friends walks the pups at the local animal shelter: only love there! I had a weird experience the other day: I tried a new class at our gym because there was free classes all week. I am 50 lbs over weight but proud to say I lost 12 pounds in the last two months. I am actually relatively fit but pretty uncoordinated. So I tried a Pilo class. The instructor asked who was new to it(she was a sub). She then turned to me and said" Oh, this class was the first I took when I started to lose weight: it inspired me to lose 50 pounds and get fit" I was pretty insulted by her attitude. At the end of the class she had the nerve to say: You did very well keeping us with us" My equally tubby friend made a point to say loudly: "Did you run your five miles this morning or are you going now?" I will never go back to that instructor: life is too short to be insulted y people who don't know you or your abilities but feel free to comment.
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You are a queen. The other lady doesn't deserve to be in your presence.1
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Hey, I don't know if you have seen the commercial with the little girl who was made fun of and called googly eyes. She is so precious and inspirational, she is no different from you! See that little girl in you, she is in all of us. Bullies suck. Be glad you found out who these people really are early on so you don't waste anymore if your precious time with them.1
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Who cares what they think? Seriously, you’re amazing and an inspiration to me! Keep it up! You’ve got this! People only hate because they are jealous of your success and are battling their own insecurities!2
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Wow! I am so angry that those people were so ugly! You keep doing what youre doing beause youve already acheived much more than most people! OVER 100 POUNDS! Life is to short to spend unnecessary time with people who are so low. I say find a new group that will appreciate having you! After all I bet you could teach someone a thing or two about weight loss and getting fit! Keep up the good work!1
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You'll find a lot of support here! Anybody who feels they need to tear others down like that is usually a sad, small person. You should be proud of your progress so far!
I do know how it feels when a nasty comment ruins your day and sticks in your mind, though. It's hard to let it roll off your back sometimes. All I can say is that I've found most people are not that nasty. I'm sure you can find a supportive group, and I'm sure they'd be just as disgusted as we all are with that person's attitude!1 -
I really liked reading these responses. Thanks for posting this, even though you felt vulnerable. I hope you got the inspiration you needed to keep going. You've come so far and your perseverance through that crap will be a good story to tell when you're long past the hurt. Best of luck!1
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There are a lot of people who have atrocious manners, I am truly sorry you had this happen to you. You have lost a lot of weight already, so you are doing great! Keep it up! Maybe try to find someone in the group that you could buddy up with. If not, do you have a dog? My dog is my best walking companion.
Don't let it get you down! Show them by keeping with your program and eventually you will achieve your goals!1 -
The woman who talked to you rudely may herself have
your weight in the past - you may remind her of her former past but even if so
she is out of line and insecure
If you have a small group of 5 people then I can understand it may just be too intense
If you are not comfortable walking with group
then I would say find one other person
If larger group then just avoid her
although I would tell her as calm as you can that her comment is inappropriate and leave it at that
Some people like group as have people to talk with
Just as a side note the gym I go to has a mixed group
lots of obese people among the size 2's
They have every right to be there
Of course check out any other groups or any day events involving walking
You will,meet other people
As far as that woman she is unkind and bet you are not
the first person,she has spoken to in
an inappropriate way
If she ever apologizes then accept it
Don't let this situation stand in the way of your goals
Don't let her rent space in your head
Let us know what happens
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Find her out of class when no one is around. Get a handkerchief with rohypnol, put it over her mouth, wait for her to faint and then stuff her into a box. Find a train that is going a long distance and sneak the box onto the train with the other freight. If anyone asks about her where abouts just pretend you don't remember her.1
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I had something similar recently. I go running with a friend (we’re doing couch to 5k), but on this occasion she couldn’t make it so I went alone. It’s a run, walk, run method, so I was walking past shops when I became aware of someone shouting at me. There was a break in my music and I heard the man shout, “you should be running, why are you walking? It’s because you’re fat!” Now, this usually would have crushed me, but I smiled to myself, in the knowledge I’d just run a mile, and this was a walk section, and I’d lost 50lb by this point. Doubt he’d ever run a mile. You’re on a journey. You have a plan, a method, and you’re very successfully sticking to it. Don’t let a rude comment derail you. You do you. Disregard anything else. You’ve lost an incredible amount of weight, and you’re still going strong! You’re far more successful than the woman who said that to you. Own your success hun. Be proud of it. Hold it firmly in your thoughts if/when someone says something, because one day they’ll be eating their words.7
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mom23mangos wrote: »You've done an amazing job losing over 100lbs. Don't let this derail you. Go on meetup.com and form your own walking group. Make sure you specify that ALL are welcome and it's a judgement free zone.
mom23mangos suggested pretty much what I would have. Meetup is a great place to find all kinds of awesome people with similar interests. If you don’t want to start your own walking group yet, you can search in your local area for existing groups that are more in tune with your goals.
What everyone else has said is also true... there will always be insecure haters out there who try to derail you (sad, definitely), but this is YOUR journey and frankly, they can all suck it! I’m sure everyone here can attest to having had crappy days throughout their health and fitness journeys, but remember that you’re doing this for you. Shake it off (to quote Taylor Swift) and keep dancing (or walking or whatever it is that brings you joy)!
Your MFP community is here to remind you that you’re amazeballs! You got this.1 -
Congratulations on your progress. You're amazing! As far as those aholes, I'm sorry that happened to you. People can suck at times!1
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When someone behaves in such a rude way, I just remind myself that there's likely something very unhappy in their life and I brush it off. That's not always easy to do though and I'm sorry someone felt the need to go out of their way to be nasty. You're doing great, don't let anyone make you feel bad; hold your head high and keep going, if you drop out they'll get a jolt of schadenfreude and I'm really big on denying bad people the malicious joy they want. 1
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WHAT A JERK! Do you have an SPCA or doggie shelter nearby? They are almost always looking for people to take dogs on walks. Two birds with one stone- good deed and a walk!1
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