I don’t know if I can do this whole weight loss
evangarciakarlo
Posts: 61 Member
I’m slowly losing commitment, I have two choices 1) put the hard work in & believe it’s going to pay off 2) just give up pretty much. Any encouragement will help. It’s taking longer than expected!
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Weight loss takes a long time, so the biggest thing you need is patience. Put in the hard work, log everything as accurately as possible, and it WILL pay off.
How long have you been at this?16 -
If you think it's taking a long time now, imagine how long it'll take if you quit.
Take your time, for however much time it takes.46 -
What are you hoping for here? You pretty much ignored attempt for people to help out in your other thread and kept giving vague responses. Ask some specific questions and people will offer some advice about how to address your challenges.14
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Honestly, you have to eat right? Why not eat a little less than you normally eat. Do this day in and day out.5
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Concerning goals - I started off with a weight loss goal of 1.5 pounds per week. According to what I have read, that is an acceptable rate given my current weight. However, that put me at 1200 calories per day, which I did not find sustainable. I was tired and hungry all the time. So, I lowered my goal to 1 pound per week. I find that very doable. My suggestion to you is to take a second look at your goal and see if you need to make adjustments.
As far as exercise goes - it is not necessary for weight loss but does provide numerous benefits. If you decide to exercise - do something you like. I like walking, but I walk real slow. I find it relaxing. If I had to walk faster I would not like it and would want to give up exercising. So, again, do something you like.
Also, you do not want to be doing all this work if you are not really in a caloric deficit. Use a food scale and track accurately.
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You have a third choice, make it your new way of living. If you take choice #1 what will happen? You will lose the weight , it'll "pay off" but then go off the diet and gain it all back again. Choice #2? Nothing. You don't get healthier. Pick choice #3, you have the rest of your life to make little positive changes to being a healthier you every day. It's not easy.. but over time it will become a habit and you won't even have to think about it anymore. Your new way of living. You can do it, you deserve to feel the best you can be every day for the rest of your existence.13
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evangarciakarlo wrote: »Keeping the weight off is the hardest for me in the journey
This guy had similar struggles, and a lot of people helped him out. Maybe reading through some of his past threads will help you out.
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10602129/obstacles2 -
evangarciakarlo wrote: »Keeping the weight off is the hardest for me in the journey
This guy had similar struggles, and a lot of people helped him out. Maybe reading through some of his past threads will help you out.
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10602129/obstacles
Great find. That should be a huge help to OP, as the situations sound very similar. Very, very similar indeed.2 -
It's hard. It's hard almost every day but you just have to remember that the time passes either way, so you might as well just keep on going. Slip ups won't stop you from just continuing on the next meal or the next day. We can all do it if we just don't give up.7
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Here are a few ideas.
- set weekly goals unrelated to weight. I suggest behavioural goals.
- Find an accountability partner. It sure helps me if I have to report to someone!
- Get some ideas for behavioural goals from Duhigg’s book.5 -
Guess what? If you want to lose weight, you can! Woo hoo! The best news ever. I lost over 70# and have kept it off for over 3 years. Why? Because I hated being fat!!! Eat lots of veggies instead of crap. Sweet tooth? Bromabakery.com has a fabulous recipe for 37 calorie brownies! Yes! You do not have to give up flavor to lose weight. skinnytaste.com has lots of recipes that will satisfy you without breaking the calorie bank. If you know how to cook, you can learn to skinnify any recipe.
It is NOT hard! You can do this! Just set your mind to it. MFP has a great recipe blog. You don't need to eat chicken breasts and broccoli for the rest of your life.
Oh, and the time is going to pass whether you work at losing weight or not. Why not give it a shot? I am willing to help if you want. I do not log any more, but am here if you need an honest friend with no bs.
P.S. I am a 59 year old female. I love running, but will do any kind of exercise.10 -
Guess what? If you want to lose weight, you can! Woo hoo! The best news ever. I lost over 70# and have kept it off for over 3 years. Why? Because I hated being fat!!! Eat lots of veggies instead of crap. Sweet tooth? Bromabakery.com has a fabulous recipe for 37 calorie brownies! Yes! You do not have to give up flavor to lose weight. skinnytaste.com has lots of recipes that will satisfy you without breaking the calorie bank. If you know how to cook, you can learn to skinnify any recipe.
It is NOT hard! You can do this! Just set your mind to it. MFP has a great recipe blog. You don't need to eat chicken breasts and broccoli for the rest of your life.
Oh, and the time is going to pass whether you work at losing weight or not. Why not give it a shot? I am willing to help if you want. I do not log any more, but am here if you need an honest friend with no bs.
P.S. I am a 59 year old female. I love running, but will do any kind of exercise.
Thanks for the tip about Bromabakery! I'm checking that out right now!
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Consistency is the key. Just keep moving and eating at a deficit. And live, laugh and walk. Take a friend, or mans best friend if you have one or your favorite playlist. I prefer to walk alone I take the time to encourage myself. Don't give up, keep pushing your not alone, we all doing the same thing the struggle is definitely real, but real worth it.1
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Take a picture of yourself and ask yourself if you want to continue looking like that. That’s what finally gave me the kick in the behind to get serious and moving.6
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I think one of the ways many of us, me me, in the past do our selves in. Is we set a totally unrealistic goal of we will lose X amount of weight by X date. And then when we do not, or do but cannot keep it off. We throw our hands up and say. Not worth it, and give up. I know I have done that many a time in the past. But this time, I said nope, you are not going to go down that road. I will remind myself I did not just wake up one day, this incredibly obese it took lots of time. So the effort to get where I intend to go, well it is going to take time, being patient with myself. Realizing if I skip a few days of exercise, well just get back to it.
If you give up, you will be farther away than you are today, and really you do not want that. So remember take it as each day. Try not to look at a million days lost, or a million days to go. Just as each day, what you will do that day, measure, weigh, prepare, eat, and move around lots. You can do this!
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I think the problem is people want fast and drastic results. They expect to lose 20 lbs in a month and then wonder why they are not losing that fast. If you lose weight slowly then it will be easier and more sustainable for you. But, you have to commit to it, be willing to take time to plan your meals, weigh your food, etc. Eating whatever and however much you want is how a lot of people get overweight. You didnt gain the weight overnight so cant expect to lose it overnight. OP, what is the hardest part for you? Are you hungry a lot, cheating too much?5
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I think that before we continue wasting our time the OP has to come back and give out their stats, settings, goals, monthly logged calories in and out and results so far, including timeframe.
ETA: if it is too difficult you need to change things so that it's easier to adhere to your plan10 -
I don't know what approach you're taking but if it's a struggle then perhaps you're trying a method that isn't right for you.
There's no rule that says weight loss needs to be hard work or a punishment. There's loads of different paths to calorie deficit so if the one you're using is onerous then try something different.
Perhaps:
- change what you're eating. If you've made drastic changes to the food you're eating and you don't really enjoy that food then go back to what you were eating before and eat less of it to create a deficit. Leave 'healthy' eating and macro tracking for when you're feeling stronger and eat 'bad' food at levels that are within your goal.
- Change why you're eating. Check in and notice why you're eating when you do. Are you only eating breakfast because "breakfast is the most important meal of the day"? Are you only eating lunch because it's lunch time/break? If you don't feel like a meal and skipping it doesn't cause you to overindulge later then go for it and only eat when you feel hungry.
- Change when you're eating. Related to why your eating try seeing if an eating pattern outside of the '3 squares a day' suits you better. Try One big meal a day, try 15 little meals a day, try a few IF patterns, try tracking your calories weekly so you can have 'good days' and 'bad days' that all even out to give you a deficit.
The point being there are loads of techniques and methods that you can use. Try them, use what works. If you get sick of or bored with one method the do something different. Take the path of least resistance!
G'luck6 -
Weightloss takes a long time, but weight maintenance takes forever. You will have to eat and move every day for the rest of your life anyway, so why not do it in a way that is conductive to health? To lose weight, you just have to eat a little less and maybe move a little more, but consistently. So it's simple, but not necessarily easy. To figure out how much to eat, and how much to move, is simple, a stupid calculator can do that. To actually not eat too much, and move more, can be a little more challenging, because you have to do it consistently and forever, so this is where you have to put in your effort. Your job is to eat less and move more AND find ways to make it as easy/fun as possible, because it is of no use if you just do it for a short while, and you can't do it forever if you feel like you're suffering. And finally, even the most optimally personalized regimen will still require some occasional use of discipline. But no suffering.
So whenever people talk about how hard it is to lose weight, I ask myself if they're doing unnecessary things, or have unrealistic expectations. So I'm going to ask you too: are you doing unnecessary things? How do you expect losing weight to be?4 -
I saw a poster one time that says
Being overweight is hard
Exercise is hard
Pick your hard.
For me no brainer. If you are tired of quitting, stop giving up.8 -
Losing weight is really a lifelong commitment. Approaching it from that angle, and remembering why you're doing this in the 1st place, should help.
Think of it as a trade-off. Ok, you don't have enough calories in your day for that brownie, so not eating it contributes to your health, weight loss, and overall wellbeing.4 -
Don't put all of your eggs in the weight loss basket. There are other things that are just as, if not more important.
It's taken me about 5 months to lose 6 of my 8 Lbs of winter weight...so a long slow grind. Meanwhile I've gotten back into my cycling groove and my lifting groove and have regained the fitness I lost over a busy winter of buying a house, selling a house, moving into a house, and making that house a home.5 -
Think of the long term...10, 20, 30 years down the road. Just take of your body- eat well and keeping moving and you'll prevent a lot of health complications down the road. The scale can be misleading and discouraging sometimes, that's when you'll have trust the process.0
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evangarciakarlo wrote: »PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »If you think it's taking a long time now, imagine how long it'll take if you quit.
Take your time, for however much time it takes.
Thank you. I have been logging accurately just the scale does not show justice.
Your profile shows that you joined a week ago - perhaps it's your expectations that need to be adjusted.
Take some Before pictures and measurements now and revisit them 6 months from now.11 -
Typical healthy weight loss means 0-2 pounds a week. I currently have 160-ish i want to lose. That’ll take me at least a year, 5-6 months. If I dwell on that, I’ll likely give up. If I focus on 8-10 ish pounds a month, then it’s not as scary. I lost 120 before in about a year, then another 20 of skin removal. Then life happened and I gained it back over the last few years. It’s all about what you focus on.2
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evangarciakarlo wrote: »I’m slowly losing commitment, I have two choices 1) put the hard work in & believe it’s going to pay off 2) just give up pretty much. Any encouragement will help. It’s taking longer than expected!
Don't do the whole weight loss. Don't do it. Maybe do a few pounds. Next month, maybe do a few more.4 -
You gotta stay in the day and don't forget about the motivating losses (big or small) that will occur motivating you along the way.2
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