What we are thinking when exercising

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  • AnnPT77
    AnnPT77 Posts: 34,620 Member
    AnnPT77 wrote: »
    Yes, it's a "joke".

    It's exactly the type of *baby-feline* "jokes" I see my real life friends post on Facebook to justify their current unhealthy behaviors, and to make common cause with others who feel the same way. Ha ha, ain't we cute.

    Mostly, on MFP, I try to write as politely as I would speak to a friend face to face in real life. This time, I. Just. Can't.

    In real life, I just gently try to encourage friends just to move a little more, and eat a little better.

    We're all aging (I'm 62, most of my friends are +/- 10 years). I try subtly and diplomatically to help them see the connections between their habits and the

    * Many pills they need to take (for high blood pressure, high cholesterol, frequent infections, and more) that have side effects they complain about;

    * Long recovery time and difficult rehab they experience after their more-frequent surgeries that cause them pain, complications, and expense;

    * Frequency of needing to solicit their families or pay workers to do chores that would be easy for them if they were more mobile - chores they say they wish they could do;

    * Inability to do things they say they'd enjoy but can't because of limited health/mobility, like walking around at an art fair, or going to a concert or sports event where there's need to walk a quarter mile, or visit places where you have to climb stairs or hills; and

    * More and other consequences of poor choices that they're just seeing as "just aging", or unfair random accidents, or inevitable.

    None of those consequences are hilarious.

    In real life, if I'm not subtle and diplomatic and polite, my friends will just tune me out or cut me off, and I like and care about them as humans, so I don't want them to do that.

    But this *baby feline* just isn't funny, ever. I don't expect to see it here. This is a public forum. I'm going to snarl a little.

    ETA: Maybe I would've been less likely to snarl if the title had been "What I am thinking when exercising". But maybe not.

    You’re phenomenal! I wish my mom could be brought around to your sort of thinking. Unfortunately after struggling with her weight all her life, she has now completely given up and I fear for her. Do you think there is any hope for me to help bring her thinking back to your sort of logic?

    Nope; just muddling along.

    Realistically, as her kid, probably not. Be an amazing example: Blow out the norms for your age. Try to meet and befriend approachable, down-to-earth people her age who are excellent examples, and arrange for her to meet them and interact with them on a recurring basis (humans respond to perceived social norms). Think of things she would *totally enjoy doing" that involve movement or healthy eating, and engage her in them. Give her many strokes emotionally when she does those things with you. If you have children (or your siblings do), subtly and diplomatically convey (without express or implied criticism, which is demonically hard) what it would mean for the littles to have fabulous examples of healthy aging - how much better their future would be with that example. That's all I've got. Good luck!
  • MelanieCN77
    MelanieCN77 Posts: 4,047 Member
    Anyone else? Haha

    Haha I do play this game on days I'm dragging.
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