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lynn_glenmont

lucerorojo wrote: »

I think up until about 10 years ago it was fine to ask women (when are you due) and for most of my life(I'm 52) people commented on other's weight/looks and it wasn't considered rude. Things have changed and especially when it comes to making comments about pregnancy I do not because there are many women today who look like they are but who are not. I put my foot in my mouth several years ago with a colleague. I managed to realize halfway through the sentence that she wasn't pregnant but from then on I just keep quiet unless someone declares straight out they are pregnant. I wouldn't get upset about it. These things happen as some people are rude and others don't mean to be but things have changed and not every one is aware. You look good in your photo! ETA: when he realized his mistake though, he should have apologized. The remark about your tummy was definitely rude and uncalled for.

I have to disagree. There was never a time in the past 50 years ago when asking such a personal question would not have been rude, even without the rude "if you weren't so fat" follow-up. I learned not to ask people personal questions that were none of my business when I was a small child. I can't imagine this lesson was never presented to this gentleman in his lifetime, even if he's forgotten it or decided it doesn't apply to him for some reason.

jennifer_417

He probably said that because he was (VERY poorly) trying to cover his embarrassment. It says a lot more about him than it does you.