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that is just so sad- however do NOT let it get you down or stop you. Keep going- How would you have reacted if it had been a younger person to say something rude- then just do that and move on..0
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I'm sorry. While I might also attribute that to an elderly loss of filter, It doesn't really matter whether a comment is knowingly hurtful or not - it still hurts. You know how much you have accomplished and you should be proud of yourself! Do your best to forget about this guy.0
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i just don't understand why people think that other people want their unsolicited comments about their appearance, life, eating habits etc.1
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Are you sure he wasn’t at all demented? I work with people who have dementia and they say things like this all the time0
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Yes, older folks, especially those with early (or late dementia) can say things like that - and probably don't even remember it. It doesn't lessen the hurt, but I wouldn't immediately jump to the conclusion that he was being mean or was a jerk. He may not even know. Maybe he does and maybe he is a jerk...
We have no way of knowing what's going on inside of someone we don't know. Maybe it's just an opportunity to grow and show some grace - despite our emotional (and valid) reaction to hurtful words.0 -
How rude !!!1
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This person has something wrong with them. They are either a miserable mean person or they have some other issue. You are just someone who got in their path.
You have been doing great. You know that. Don't let one comment from some random guy destroy your good feelings.
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I think up until about 10 years ago it was fine to ask women (when are you due) and for most of my life(I'm 52) people commented on other's weight/looks and it wasn't considered rude. Things have changed and especially when it comes to making comments about pregnancy I do not because there are many women today who look like they are but who are not. I put my foot in my mouth several years ago with a colleague. I managed to realize halfway through the sentence that she wasn't pregnant but from then on I just keep quiet unless someone declares straight out they are pregnant. I wouldn't get upset about it. These things happen as some people are rude and others don't mean to be but things have changed and not every one is aware. You look good in your photo! ETA: when he realized his mistake though, he should have apologized. The remark about your tummy was definitely rude and uncalled for.3
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i don't think he made an innocent mistake. to me, i sounded like he did that on purpose. he's a POS and prolly picks out people's flaws and preys on them. i would have stabbed him in the hand with the pen he was using to sign the lease.
I agree except for the stabbing part.
The "man" should have apologized. Instead he added an insult to the first insult.0 -
A few years back, I was in a parking lot and saw a woman with a car that had stalled in the row. I asked her if she wanted me to help her push it into a spot. She said, "But you're pregnant!" I said, "No, just fat." I tossed that shirt after getting home and looking at myself in the mirror.
I could understand her confusion and don't blame her at all. (She didn't make a rude follow up comment like in the OP.)0 -
lucerorojo wrote: »I think up until about 10 years ago it was fine to ask women (when are you due) and for most of my life(I'm 52) people commented on other's weight/looks and it wasn't considered rude. Things have changed and especially when it comes to making comments about pregnancy I do not because there are many women today who look like they are but who are not. I put my foot in my mouth several years ago with a colleague. I managed to realize halfway through the sentence that she wasn't pregnant but from then on I just keep quiet unless someone declares straight out they are pregnant. I wouldn't get upset about it. These things happen as some people are rude and others don't mean to be but things have changed and not every one is aware. You look good in your photo! ETA: when he realized his mistake though, he should have apologized. The remark about your tummy was definitely rude and uncalled for.
I have to disagree. There was never a time in the past 50 years ago when asking such a personal question would not have been rude, even without the rude "if you weren't so fat" follow-up. I learned not to ask people personal questions that were none of my business when I was a small child. I can't imagine this lesson was never presented to this gentleman in his lifetime, even if he's forgotten it or decided it doesn't apply to him for some reason.1 -
He probably said that because he was (VERY poorly) trying to cover his embarrassment. It says a lot more about him than it does you.0
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