My Father Won't Stop Commenting On My Weight

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  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    mholl15 wrote: »
    Well, he's your dad, he gets the pass to say whatever, especially if he's still supporting you. Most elders mean no harm with how they deliver tough words of motivation. They know no other way and I'm sure he only wants what's best for you. It seems like it's taking a toll on your life. I wonder why you haven't uploaded a pic. Most of the users here on MFP are pretty nice and inspirational. Maybe you should upload a pic and start feeling better about a lot of things. IDK, just my 2 cents

    OP hasnt been in the forums since September
  • mholl15
    mholl15 Posts: 139 Member
    TavistockToad wrote: »
    mholl15 wrote: »
    Well, he's your dad, he gets the pass to say whatever, especially if he's still supporting you. Most elders mean no harm with how they deliver tough words of motivation. They know no other way and I'm sure he only wants what's best for you. It seems like it's taking a toll on your life. I wonder why you haven't uploaded a pic. Most of the users here on MFP are pretty nice and inspirational. Maybe you should upload a pic and start feeling better about a lot of things. IDK, just my 2 cents

    OP hasnt been in the forums since September

    OP???
  • PKM0515
    PKM0515 Posts: 3,089 Member
    mholl15 wrote: »
    TavistockToad wrote: »
    mholl15 wrote: »
    Well, he's your dad, he gets the pass to say whatever, especially if he's still supporting you. Most elders mean no harm with how they deliver tough words of motivation. They know no other way and I'm sure he only wants what's best for you. It seems like it's taking a toll on your life. I wonder why you haven't uploaded a pic. Most of the users here on MFP are pretty nice and inspirational. Maybe you should upload a pic and start feeling better about a lot of things. IDK, just my 2 cents

    OP hasnt been in the forums since September

    OP???

    OP = "Original Poster" :)
  • RachelElser
    RachelElser Posts: 1,049 Member
    Tell him one last time, "If you comment on my body/weight I'm going to leave because you are NOT HELPING me" then follow through. He starts in, get up and walk away even if it's just a walk around on the block. If you are visiting them (do you live with them?) then get in your car and leave. It will probably take a while because ME DAD=ME RIGHT, but hopefully he'll eventually shut up.
  • Numer1ca
    Numer1ca Posts: 284 Member
    So. . . I feel like my husband is kind of the same way. Which has made everything worse. And when he says things, I get the opposite results. I eat more and gain more weight.

    I have spoke till I’m blue in the face. Plus, I have depression, which he doesn’t understand.

    So, I now say. . .

    I don’t want to talk about it. Or
    You can’t talk to me that way.

    And I walk away.

    Boundaries are fine between husbands and wives and parents and children.

  • dblst10
    dblst10 Posts: 30 Member
    I feel for you and your tough situation! Don’t let it get you down. Tell him you are sad about his comments; he really does need to hear your very VALID feelings and remember: he CANT ARGUE ABOUT YOUR OWN FEELINGS: they’re yours! You own them! He’s clueless and hurting you. But remember: he never wakes up in the morning with the goal of making you sad. He’s just your clueless hurtful dad.

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