38 yr old divorced single mom- AMA
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leut_underpants wrote: »
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Avocado_AS5 wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »So, real question: if your ex has the kids for some of the time (some weekends maybe?), is it like getting a rest from the work of parenting or do you worry the whole time or what? Does it at all help make up for all the times you have to handle *kitten* on your own? Something I've wondered about.
I don't worry at all anymore, although in the beginning it was hard on everyone. He's a good dad and he's gotten better since he doesn't have me to help him with everything anymore. A lot of the hard part is learning to give up control. You cannot control how the other parent parents in their own home. Once I learned to let that go, it was so much easier.
It's nice to have a short break where I'm not responsible for another human being even for just a couple days. After about 3 days though I start going crazy with boredom and loneliness. Even if I spend that time with other people. I have my own identity without my kids, but they're my favorite people.
Great answer! and this pretty much describes me as well. . I would add that it sounds like you have taken a healthy approach to the whole thing. So many ex couples consume themselves with finding ways to troll the other parent that they just make everyone miserable (especially the kid(s)). .1 -
Cameron_1969 wrote: »Avocado_AS5 wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »So, real question: if your ex has the kids for some of the time (some weekends maybe?), is it like getting a rest from the work of parenting or do you worry the whole time or what? Does it at all help make up for all the times you have to handle *kitten* on your own? Something I've wondered about.
I don't worry at all anymore, although in the beginning it was hard on everyone. He's a good dad and he's gotten better since he doesn't have me to help him with everything anymore. A lot of the hard part is learning to give up control. You cannot control how the other parent parents in their own home. Once I learned to let that go, it was so much easier.
It's nice to have a short break where I'm not responsible for another human being even for just a couple days. After about 3 days though I start going crazy with boredom and loneliness. Even if I spend that time with other people. I have my own identity without my kids, but they're my favorite people.
Great answer! and this pretty much describes me as well. . I would add that it sounds like you have taken a healthy approach to the whole thing. So many ex couples consume themselves with finding ways to troll the other parent that they just make everyone miserable (especially the kid(s)). .
I can only control my own actions. I hate some of the things he does, but I can't bad mouth him in front of our daughters. All I can do is make them know they will always have a happy, safe and stable home with me, no matter what the situation is at his home.2 -
Avocado_AS5 wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »So, real question: if your ex has the kids for some of the time (some weekends maybe?), is it like getting a rest from the work of parenting or do you worry the whole time or what? Does it at all help make up for all the times you have to handle *kitten* on your own? Something I've wondered about.
I don't worry at all anymore, although in the beginning it was hard on everyone. He's a good dad and he's gotten better since he doesn't have me to help him with everything anymore. A lot of the hard part is learning to give up control. You cannot control how the other parent parents in their own home. Once I learned to let that go, it was so much easier.
It's nice to have a short break where I'm not responsible for another human being even for just a couple days. After about 3 days though I start going crazy with boredom and loneliness. Even if I spend that time with other people. I have my own identity without my kids, but they're my favorite people.
Whats your plan for handling empty nester syndrome one day?0 -
4legsRbetterthan2 wrote: »Avocado_AS5 wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »So, real question: if your ex has the kids for some of the time (some weekends maybe?), is it like getting a rest from the work of parenting or do you worry the whole time or what? Does it at all help make up for all the times you have to handle *kitten* on your own? Something I've wondered about.
I don't worry at all anymore, although in the beginning it was hard on everyone. He's a good dad and he's gotten better since he doesn't have me to help him with everything anymore. A lot of the hard part is learning to give up control. You cannot control how the other parent parents in their own home. Once I learned to let that go, it was so much easier.
It's nice to have a short break where I'm not responsible for another human being even for just a couple days. After about 3 days though I start going crazy with boredom and loneliness. Even if I spend that time with other people. I have my own identity without my kids, but they're my favorite people.
Whats your plan for handling empty nester syndrome one day?
Shhhhhhhhhhush your mouth. 😭
My girls are going to college near home and are going to build me a house next door to the one they are going to share together. They get the big house with the pool but I can come over and use it whenever I want. Neither are getting married because boys are icky.
This is their life plan, and I have to say it's pretty legit.6 -
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Check your messages- does it look infected?3
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What are you wearing?0
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DirkRockwell wrote: »Check your messages- does it look infected?
Lemme share it with all friends and get their opinions.2 -
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You are currently at 6 pages. Did you think you would get here, or did you think there would be more?1
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You are currently at 6 pages. Did you think you would get here, or did you think there would be more?
Fridays are slow around here. I was once told by a very wise man, if you want a lot of traffic in your threads never post on Fridays. Lots of folks leaving work early or trying to wrap up things before the weekend. Tuesdays are best because no one wants to be productive at work then.3 -
Avocado_AS5 wrote: »You are currently at 6 pages. Did you think you would get here, or did you think there would be more?
Fridays are slow around here. I was once told by a very wise man, if you want a lot of traffic in your threads never post on Fridays. Lots of folks leaving work early or trying to wrap up things before the weekend. Tuesdays are best because no one wants to be productive at work then.
Sundays're the worst, here!1 -
You are 38!?! And you don't use filters???1
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mustacheU2Lift wrote: »You are 38!?! And you don't use filters???
She is naturally beautiful. I have seen the unfiltered glory.0 -
Avocado_AS5 wrote: »
Lol. i figured that too. Thread did not deliver as much as possible. 😆0 -
Avocado_AS5 wrote: »
Lol. i figured that too. Thread did not deliver as much as possible. 😆
People be skeered.
TMI Tuesday has gotten more colorful questions than this.2 -
Avocado_AS5 wrote: »Avocado_AS5 wrote: »
Lol. i figured that too. Thread did not deliver as much as possible. 😆
People be skeered.
TMI Tuesday has gotten more colorful questions than this.
If you were a hot dog what condiments would be slathered on you?1 -
mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Avocado_AS5 wrote: »Avocado_AS5 wrote: »
Lol. i figured that too. Thread did not deliver as much as possible. 😆
People be skeered.
TMI Tuesday has gotten more colorful questions than this.
If you were a hot dog what condiments would be slathered on you?
Chilli and cheese. Drown me in it.1 -
Three questions:
When was the last time you got laid and was it good?
Do you enjoy your freedom?
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Avocado_AS5 wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »What are 3 things you love about yourself?
My teeth aren't awful.
I'm a kickasss mom.
I'm genuine. 😊
And you have a great haircut.1 -
You still going out with guys whom sent you D pics?0
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leut_underpants wrote: »
Shouldn’t there be a question mark in there somewhere?0 -
Avocado_AS5 wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Avocado_AS5 wrote: »Avocado_AS5 wrote: »
Lol. i figured that too. Thread did not deliver as much as possible. 😆
People be skeered.
TMI Tuesday has gotten more colorful questions than this.
If you were a hot dog what condiments would be slathered on you?
Chilli and cheese. Drown me in it.
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leut_underpants wrote: »competeagain wrote: »leut_underpants wrote: »
Shouldn’t there be a question mark in there somewhere?
In fairness, we all have questions. :ohwell:
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