My worst nightmare

stewarm01

@torrabell79, he's still "whining" by dictating your life.

Take back your power!

Lounmoun

Thinking about another angle-
You have kids watching how you and other adults dress and act. Do you want your sons or young girls to think a woman has to cover up or stress about how others view their bodies? Do you want to model that a woman can and should wear whatever they want or that only those with "perfect" bodies should show them?
What would you tell an 8 year old if they told you someone said something mean about their body and now they did not want to wear shorts or a normal swim suit in public? Would you be sad if a child covered up and was anxious instead of swimming happily because of a dumb bully? How would you help them?
Your ex was hurtful and mean to you. You posted your photo on the internet on a public forum for an app that has millions of users though. Your ex seeing you in a swimsuit is nothing compared to that. Take that to heart and show those kids that you are real and happy with yourself and they can be too.
Buy a cute suit and look your best because you deserve to enjoy/pamper yourself not because this person matters.

yweight2020

You look great, hold your head high, wear whats appropriate for you and the occasion be cordial to the ex and concentrate on your son. He's and ex for a reason, don't give him that power.

hoppgeorge

If I may be so bold as to assume that is you in your profile pic then he is CLEARLY and idiot 😉

You have nothing to be ashamed of regardless. Keep working on you! You look awesome!! Enjoy the party!!

icemom011

You do look fantastic, it's his loss for leaving you. Try to ignore whatever influence he still has on you, it will not do you any good and will give all the power back to him. It's your party for your son, enjoy, have fun. I second that it's probably inappropriate for him to bring his new gf to his son's birthday party, but it's between you, guys. Be as confident as you can possibly be, and that will enhance your beauty even more. Fwiw, you look hot. Show it, be proud of who you are and how you look now.

nicholeunt

You look amazing! Rock that new bod with grace and confidence. As others have said being a happy kind hostess will show him that you have decided that HE doesn't have power over you and your feelings anymore. Sometimes when we want to be a particular way, like brave or confident, and we're not feeling that way we just have to pretend. Do all you can to make yourself feel good and then stand tall and proud in who you are and how far you've come. Also, I love cute coverups and would be far more comfortable running around in that then just a bathing suit. You got this 😁

Wendyanneroberts

As others have said I think you look great as you are. Enjoy shopping to find the swimwear that looks great and you feel comfortable in. Don't let their presence spoil your celebration.

The one thing that jumped out to me, when I first read your post (as a mum myself). That you have the one very special "thing" that the new girlfriend doesn't and that's "Your SON". Rejoice in this special relationship as you celebrate his birthday.

Evelyn_Gorfram

Wendyanneroberts wrote: »

As others have said I think you look great as you are. Enjoy shopping to find the swimwear that looks great and you feel comfortable in. Don't let their presence spoil your celebration.

The one thing that jumped out to me, when I first read your post (as a mum myself). That you have the one very special "thing" that the new girlfriend doesn't and that's "Your SON". Rejoice in this special relationship as you celebrate his birthday.

^ This. Absolutely this.

solieco1

You look fantastic - no kidding and no false building you up. Take back your power. This is your life. Live it to the fullest. Do NOT let him own the space in your head! You are beautiful and strong and he has no power over you. Revel in that!

Psychgrrl

Stockholm_Andy wrote: »

torabelle79 wrote: »

This is me today. Getting there but have belly that clearly isn't toned.....
My body image is always dreadful. I cant bear to be seen by him in a swim suit.....

You look amazing. *kitten* him

Losing 36lbs is an amazing achievement and you should be proud of the new you. Besides who cares what he thinks you've moved on right. Show him you don't care and aren't phased.

Also you might want to bribe some of the kids with candy to push him and his girlfriend into the pool.

Now go and tidy up your bedroom

OMG! GREAT idea! I'm picturing something involving a wayward inflatable pool toy ...

keodell1966

You look great. Obviously he's no gentleman, speaking about his son's mother like that. Pay him no mind, obviously divorced for a reason. Don't let him control your thoughts about your weight. Have fun at your son's party!

mortuseon_

If he is going to play on your insecurities, he's going to do that regardless of how you look. Be confident in the fact you look great and please don't take any of his comments to heart - they're reflective of his bitter feelings, not reality. Have a fun party and try not to dwell on it too much!