Why can’t I change my habits?

kshama2001

_aenyeweddien_ wrote: »

I was exactly like you before, and you know what works best for me? Nice cheat day once a month:) It keeps me going and motivates me to stick to my diet and workout routine through the whole month if I know there's Haagen Dazs and pizza waiting for me at the end of it

Alos, take pics of your progress and measurements. I learnt the hard way that sometimes the weight goes down only slightly, but you will see a massive difference in pictures/measurements and that's a massive motivation to keep going

Along those lines, I eat at maintenance a few days per month - the two heavy days of my period and the two days proceeding. I like having that to look forward too.

Lounmoun

trynashrink wrote: »

Hello, this whole year I’ve tried to lose weight so bad, I started off January real good but then I left it and I’ve gained weight like crazy, I feel disgusting, I hate everything about me especially my big arms. I used to love going out and now I hate it because I feel grossed out with my body

I tried to eat healthy the whole month and I just can’t, I always eat and eat junk food because I get anxious and sad and I’m sad because I’m fat so it’s a neverending cycle. Does anyone know how Can I start making a change? I’m honestly so done with being so fat and disgusting, and eating out of pure anxiety

Are you being treated for your anxiety? That could make a big difference. Therapy and possibly medication might help you work out your emotional eating problem and help you not hate yourself. Work on developing new coping stategies to deal with your emotions.

As far as weight loss goes you need to have a calorie deficit. You do not have to eat a particular list of foods to do that.
Set an acheivable weight loss goal. If you are less than 20 lbs overweight .5 lb-1 lb a week is reasonable. Even if you have quite a bit more weight to lose 1 lb a week might be a better goal if you can stick to it more consistantly.
Making changes is something you do in steps. You should start with just logging what you normally eat and sticking to your calorie goal as a first step. You want to eat in a way you can sustain so eat food you like and learn portion sizes appropriate for you. You can later start to alter your diet in other small steps like getting more protein or having more vegetables on your plate.

It takes time to change habits, treat your mental health and change your body. You do not have to be perfect to be making progress in these areas.

kshama2001

trynashrink wrote: »

Hello, this whole year I’ve tried to lose weight so bad, I started off January real good but then I left it and I’ve gained weight like crazy, I feel disgusting, I hate everything about me especially my big arms. I used to love going out and now I hate it because I feel grossed out with my body

I tried to eat healthy the whole month and I just can’t, I always eat and eat junk food because I get anxious and sad and I’m sad because I’m fat so it’s a neverending cycle. Does anyone know how Can I start making a change? I’m honestly so done with being so fat and disgusting, and eating out of pure anxiety

Hearing things like "healthy" and "real good" always makes me worry that people have created too large a calorie deficit, which is leading to over eating. How many pounds do you need to lose to reach your goal weight and what weekly weight loss goal did you choose?

https://www.aworkoutroutine.com/1200-calorie-diet/

kshama2001

Re anxiety - I used to be an emotional eater, but now I manage stress with regular exercise, and more intense or longer exercise during periods of increased stress.

I was planning on doing errands during my lunch break yesterday, but work was really stressful, so I blew the errands off and spent time in nature instead, which I really needed. I could not have gotten through this past week without either lots of Ben & Jerry's or lots of exercise, and am glad I choose the exercise.

When I'm depressed, I have to force myself to start exercising, and give myself permission to stop in 10 minutes if I need to, but I never do, and am always glad that I made the effort.

Psychgrrl

Orphia wrote: »

Be kind to yourself. Don't punish yourself on salads and green smoothies. Let yourself eat things you like - just eat less of them.

^^^THIS.

The negative self-image could lead you to sabotage your efforts without you being aware of it. Some part of you may feel you’re not worthy of being the happy, healthy version of yourself you are trying to be.

Please consider seeking some professional help to see you deserve the things you are doing to improve your health and your life.

JeromeBarry1

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