Mean girls

sarahlucindac

I wore “business casual” clothes to work today instead of my hospital scrubs which are waaaaaay too big for me now.
I got a lot of mixed reactions. Some people were normal about it like “oh hey, you look great!” but there were a few girls that treated me differently. I couldn’t figure out why it seemed like they were upset with me until I saw one of them looking me up and down.
Looks like I’ll be going back to being the bag lady in my over-sized scrubs. I can’t deal with people treating me so weird. Ugh. I’m still me, dammit
Have others experienced similar things? I really didn’t anticipate the girls at work to go sideways on me.

Asher_Ethan

It's all jealousy. They like the way you look and hate it because you're showing them up.

RealWorldStrengthLLC

Wear what you want, what makes you look and feel good, and if people are wierdor jealous or whatever, *kitten* 'em.

hikinggal11

mean people suck...just ignore them.

DoubleUbea

sarahlucindac wrote: »

I can’t deal with people treating me so weird. Ugh. I’m still me, dammit

mk2fit

It can be difficult dealing with the naysayers. Ignore them. You are doing what is best for you, not them. Chin up and be proud of your accomplishment!

emmamcgarity

If business casual is appropriate for your workplace wear what fits you best and is most comfortable. I personally would give the girls the benefit of doubt unless they actually said something inappropriate to you.

From a social standpoint it sounds like most people wear scrubs. You might look into picking up a couple pairs that fit you better.

I’ve struggled with holding onto pants that are too baggy because I didn’t want to invest in smaller clothes until I am closer to goal. But it’s not realistic for me to do so and still look professional at work. I found picking up a couple of neutral items to mix and match and laundering frequently is helping me reduce the amount I buy.

lynn_glenmont

Maybe they were just trying to figure out why you were wearing something different, wondering if you were dressed for a job interview or going somewhere after work. Why make yourself miserable imagining that people who didn't actually say anything to you (based on what you wrote in your OP) are thinking mean things about you?

lorrpb

Don't hide your success because of other people's ignorance.

PS I see lots of scrubs at Goodwill.

Fflpnari

Every time I lose weight people say so many things that it is enough to fall off the wagon and have it run me over. don't listen. to them. Honestly most are jealous. I 2nd the goodwill for scrubs. I have found name brand tops with tags for 3.99 and pants (no tags but looked like they were never worn) FOR 5.99. I tend to go clearance at scrub shops but that is still pretty expensive.

elisa123gal

I don't understand if not wearing scrubs was odd for your job description. If so, the weird reaction could be just that.
Dress for your job, purchase scrubs that fit if that is what you should be wearing. If wearing business casual clothes is part of your job description..who cares what those girls think? Live your life.

fatmonsters

I have received the same exact response (treating odd, looking me up and down) in response to them noticing recent weight loss- not by men but just women (and ones I am related to no less!). Anyway, it is what it is and I believe you. People who are healthy will be proud of you; those who feel insecure about themselves may react negatively but it is an obvious tell as to how they feel about themselves. At the end of the day hopefully seeing your transformation will encourage them to make changes. I had the same reaction you did when i encountered it and it made me feel very insecure. But I thought about it, kept working to my goals, and I am feeling really confident about my achievements now. Don’t let anyone put you in a negative headspace. Feel good about yourself.

Noreenmarie1234

If you always have worn scrubs it just might be they were like woah what the heck and thought it was weird and wondered why. I know I would be wondering what’s going on if someone at work who always wore scrubs for years showed up one day in nice clothes looking hot lol.

Or if everyone always wears scrubs it just might be they think it’s weird you didn’t since it’s the norm. But again I could be completely wrong because I don’t know your work situation.

777Gemma888

Don't validate them.

Danp

Ha! Guess it says something about the sort of person I am but in that situation I'd go out of my way to rub it in their faces LOL!

Whitezombiegirl

Honestly, if a colleague turned up one day looking thinner all of a sudden, it would catch my attention. Its new and different.

When people change, it's noteworthy. If you had been hidden in oversize scrubs and then turn up looking thinner in regular clothes, it's going to attract attention. It's not always a bad thing, it just takes people a few minutes to get used to it. - maybe even to work out what's different about you.

I'm all for giving people the benefit of the doubt, before asigning a malicious intent. I'm sure there were tonnes of people who were envious as hell, and who really wanted to ask you how you did it.

I know I always want to comment on people's apearance.. but I don't, its not polite and the weight loss might be due to sickness or depression etc. But I notice.

_aenyeweddien_

I work in the hospital myself and unfortunately, it's full of mean girls:( I don't know if it's the case of too many women in one place getting all ''cliquey'', but every single hospital I worked at was the same.

Personally I used to love wearing scrubs, they're so comfy!:D What matters is that you feel good in what you wear, don't pay any attention to silly jealous people, you can't keep everyone else happy. It's important that you feel good and comfortable.

BTW, as for the scrubs, If they are too big, isn't the hospital supposed to supply the size that fits you? In UK you can have whatever size you want/whenever you want

snowflake954

People generally like a "status quo". When something changes they check it out--that's just human. You decide what you want to wear. They'll get used to it pretty fast.

funjen1972

Unfortunately, the better you look, the more mean girls there are. It's just jealousy.

We are supposed to build each other up and celebrate successes, not drag each other down!

This weekend I had a mean girl tell my date she wanted to be with him and treated me absolutely nasty. Jealous *itch. She is a model and thought she could win him over with pure sex and slut. Lol I have brains and a personality and my own...everything. Her only recourse was to drag me down to look better to him. Those mean girls are trying to supress the wonderful that you are so they can feel better. Take it as a compliment.

TavistockToad

sarahlucindac wrote: »

I wore “business casual” clothes to work today instead of my hospital scrubs which are waaaaaay too big for me now.
I got a lot of mixed reactions. Some people were normal about it like “oh hey, you look great!” but there were a few girls that treated me differently. I couldn’t figure out why it seemed like they were upset with me until I saw one of them looking me up and down.
Looks like I’ll be going back to being the bag lady in my over-sized scrubs. I can’t deal with people treating me so weird. Ugh. I’m still me, dammit
Have others experienced similar things? I really didn’t anticipate the girls at work to go sideways on me.

why let other people dictate what you do or what you wear?

i think you're assuming a little what the 'mean girls' were thinking... if what you wore was appropriate for work then keep wearing it. or get some scrubs that actually fit.

Evelyn_Gorfram

Hospitals are required to provide properly standardized scrubs for operating room personnel. For non-operating room positions that call for scrubs, it varies. I think a lot of US hospitals provide a "scrub allowance" - extra money you can put in for that covers the cost of new scrubs (often around 4 or 5 sets/year).

If OP is changing sizes fast enough that she already bought smaller scrubs earlier this year, she may have been trying to make do with those now-oversized scrubs until January 1. (But I am not OP, so I could be way off base. )

OP, are the Mean Girls at your work overweight themselves?

Before I started losing weight, I often felt everything having to do with weight loss and skinny people as a personal reproach. For example, if my skinny sister got a no-whip iced coffee with skim milk at Starbucks and I ordered the Death-By-Caramel-Heart-Attack Frappuccino, I felt like everyone in the place was staring at our orders and thinking "No wonder she's so fat." (In reality, they probably weren't looking at us at all, and were most likely too busy thinking about their own lives and concerns to worry about some stranger's coffee order.) It could be that your coworkers were feeling something like that.

BTW, although I have never worked in the medical profession, I love scrubs for comfy working-around-the-house-wear. I get them cheap from thrift stores and on Poshmark.