GUIDE TO...FWB
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mustacheU2Lift
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So many make the most simplest mistakes. Post the how tos, dos or don'ts, and any tips to help those rookies secure their very own fwb.
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Do make the person feel like one of a kind.0
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Dont say things like will you be mine...too far...
Instead say...I really enjoy our time together...0 -
Do not have constant sleepovers.
Need some level of distance.0 -
Bring pizza and wine0
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CoffeeAndContour wrote: »I just sat here for 2 minutes trying to figure out what a fbw was. I broke all the rules and fell in love with mine. If only I had seen this 12 years ago.
I had to Google fwb. Since my wife is my best friend and the benefits are fantastic, I guess I can qualify to comment.
In my experience, FWB has a slim chance of success. Someone always cares for the other more. Someone is looking for commitment, while the other is looking for intimate relations without commitment.
When the relationship ends, and it will, one person is hurt and both parties lose a friend. But just because someone has given an acronym to this type of relationship, doesn't mean that it hasn't been going on forever.
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Some just want sex. Don't push for more and I don't mean moving the relationship from being friends. No gifts. No lovey-dovey crap.1
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Don't.8
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understand its got a limited life span. it's gonna end eventually.
don't talk about other people with them; it doesn't matter if they say they can handle it- they absolutely can not.
when you're with them, be *with* them. put phone away.
if you're a guy- don't ever let her cook for you.7 -
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Is a friend with benefits better then a friend without benefits?0
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That's why benefits without friends is the only way to go.2
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Yes, but at least when that ends, you haven't lost a friend.
I seem to be in the minority among everyone I talk to about this, but I can't even imagine "benefits" with a friend, and remaining just friends.
I agree. I really don't think that's entirely possible. Someone always gets the feels, and then the friendship is lost.
I tried that once. And we had an established 18 yrs of friendship, that is now hanging by a thread. We will stay friends because there is so much history, but it's definitely changed the dynamic... and not for the better.1 -
Dont be (or try to be) friends, strong boundaries, appropriate expectation setting and source in the right places. A circle of friends is not the right place to look for someone to use just for sex because it's too much work to find it somewhere else. Friends really shouldn't treat friends that way.2
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Yes, but at least when that ends, you haven't lost a friend.
I seem to be in the minority among everyone I talk to about this, but I can't even imagine "benefits" with a friend, and remaining just friends.
I agree. I really don't think that's entirely possible. Someone always gets the feels, and then the friendship is lost.
I tried that once. And we had an established 18 yrs of friendship, that is now hanging by a thread. We will stay friends because there is so much history, but it's definitely changed the dynamic... and not for the better.
Yes, but at least when that ends, you haven't lost a friend.
I seem to be in the minority among everyone I talk to about this, but I can't even imagine "benefits" with a friend, and remaining just friends.
Fwb is typically not with a real friend that you knew prior...in the dating world of apps and such it just means willing to hang out, watch movies, but mainly the benefits.
***disclosure no friends and no benefits0 -
We're turning into enemies with benefits...
...And so we stay in this deranged arrangement
Nailing 'tween the breaks
Of these unwavering debates
Of 'who's the crazy person'?
https://youtu.be/VsFL17DvOIA2 -
When I hear benefits. ...
I think:
matching 401k
Hook me up.9 -
FWB doesn't work in the long run so enjoy it for what it is, when it is. Better to avoid the whoel friend thing, any meaningful conversations, and focus on the benefit only, which can at least extend the time before it blows up.3
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My only advice is that you pick a person that you’re ok with losing. From what I’ve heard, there’s no going back to just being friends.
But then again, what do I know?
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For me friendships are generally far more trusting and intimate than any new person I'm dating. So, sex is just like sprinkles on the ice cream, it's great. But my last one was like 20 years ago and we ended up living together and then married, so maybe I'm just not good at FWB...to be fair, I would probably never have chosen to date him, it's only because we were friends that I was even interested in going to bed with him...he's super sweet and I am so lucky, but he's also totally not my type and not someone I would have initially considered attractive on a purely physical level.1
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