People Bashing MFP, How do I react to them

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  • pinuplove
    pinuplove Posts: 12,871 Member
    Tacklewasher wrote: »
    pinuplove wrote: »
    Tacklewasher wrote: »
    I've come to realize that diet/weight issues are right up there with religion and politics as topics I just don't need to discuss with people. Just not worth the frustration.

    I mean I had someone tell me yesterday that salt will kill me when I put a little on my lunch.

    Something's got to, right? Might as well enjoy the food that's going to kill you :tongue:

    If I want food to kill me, it won't be a sprinkle of salt. It'll be something smothered in cheese LOL

    You want to be smothered in cheese, you say? Not how I'd choose to go, but ok... :tongue:
  • motivatedmartha
    motivatedmartha Posts: 1,108 Member
    In real life I don't share my methods, not because I want to keep it secret but because I live in a rural community who would think any form of diet management a bit suspect. Hence I don't get flak about exercising routines or calorie counting. Any nice comments about looking slimmer or similar I just say 'thank you' and change the subject - I don't get involved in any debate about the how. Any comments about getting skinny or too thin now ' I just say 'Oh do you think so?' I am looking forward to the day when my being overweight is only remembered by me! Don't let others rain on your parade and derail your losses - similarly don't expect them to applaud th em either (other than SO - they should appreciate your efforts). Your journey is your business and chances are your methods won't suit those asking you.
  • bigbandjohn
    bigbandjohn Posts: 769 Member
    lizalmp1234 wrote: »
    What do you guys say to people who bash you for using myfitnesspal and counting calories. I’ve had people tell me “you cant count calories forever” you should do keto or do this or that ect ect. I’m upset and I know I shouldnt but I am because this site has helped me so much and those people have no idea how supportive we are here.

    lizalmp1234, if it works for you, what they say doesn't matter. People look at me strangely, but those who have known me actually encourage me since they see the results of the work. There are many approaches to a solution, but only one that works best for you. If they have something that works best for them in another area, compare and contrast.... but don't criticize. Be informed. Keto is good if you are diabetic or have certain other medical conditions (epilepsy if memory serves). Maybe you like pasta, and Keto would deny you that. Balanced diet and calorie counting works... PERIOD. Maybe some people need less than average. Others more. Either way, you can always say "I may not do it forever, but it works for me when I need to do this. Does it really matter?"

    I am not a fan of "fad diets", yet some people swear by them and it shows results for them (which I consider Keto a fad outside of medical necessity). Likewise, if you aren't nutritionally balanced or need to take suppliments to follow a diet, then it really isn't that healthy. I would rather eat a balanced nutritional diet than need to take suppliments. It doesn't mean I won't, just that I don't want it to be a requirement.

    Don't let them upset you. Laugh them off. Be happy in yourself. You can succeed.

  • sgt1372
    sgt1372 Posts: 3,997 Member
    Ignore them.
  • pinuplove
    pinuplove Posts: 12,871 Member
    Evelyn_Gorfram wrote: »
    pinuplove wrote: »
    Evelyn_Gorfram wrote: »
    lizalmp1234 wrote: »
    What do you guys say to people who bash you for using myfitnesspal and counting calories. I’ve had people tell me “you cant count calories forever” you should do keto or do this or that ect ect. I’m upset and I know I shouldnt but I am because this site has helped me so much and those people have no idea how supportive we are here.
    I thought this too, when I was starting with MFP, but now I'm wondering, "Why the *kitten* not?"

    I count quarters when I use the machines in the laundry room, and I count dollars when I'm balancing my checking account. I count cups & tablespoons when I'm making a recipe, and I count plates and silverware when I'm setting the table to serve that recipe. I count minutes when I check the time, and I count miles when I'm driving somewhere.

    Counting's a handy skill. Why wouldn't I apply it to calories, if that's what I choose to do, for at least as long as I'm still alive and still counting all the other things I mentioned?

    My job literally includes 'counting' in the name :laugh: I chose to spend 30-40 years in a profession of counting things. Why not count calories in my spare time?
    Aha! I knew it! I always suspected you were a countess.
    ;)

    Ya figured me out! 👸
  • elisa123gal
    elisa123gal Posts: 4,324 Member
    Well, I don't count calories..but I love this website and I understand counting calories works for A LOT of people. Different people = different solutions; plain and simple. Coming here and reading the forums is motivational, educational, and supportive. I'd ignore the knowitall "friend." .
  • rheddmobile
    rheddmobile Posts: 6,840 Member
    When I'm in a pleasant mood my response to this sort of comment is to smile and say, "I'm sure you're right and that's very good advice but I'm not going to take it." That usually makes the nosy Parker laugh and stop bothering me.
  • andreascjonsson
    andreascjonsson Posts: 433 Member
    I just tell them i lost 21 kg and gained a much fitter body and then ask them how much they have lost. Its hard for them to counter with anything.
  • RredSonja
    RredSonja Posts: 307 Member
    lizalmp1234 wrote: »
    I’ve had people tell me ‘you cant count calories forever’...

    Oh, I’ve had people lay that one on me. I generally ignore passive aggressive and jealous comments, and just change the subject. But one person who I have to see daily kept it up, and I kind of lost it. I told her ‘You can’t be a pain in the *kitten* every day either...or can you?’
  • AnvilHead
    AnvilHead Posts: 18,343 Member
    Pat them on the head, chuckle and say "That's nice, dear". :D
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  • gojolida
    gojolida Posts: 53 Member
    everybody's different! do what works for you, and don't pay attention to haters. people always want to feel like they're right!!
  • bruinsgirl3319
    bruinsgirl3319 Posts: 32 Member
    People who criticize others' choices publicly clearly have problems themselves. I interact with the public on a near daily basis with my job (cashier), and I always have the weird ones who come through my line. I don't say a word to them aloud, and if I ever have the urge to say something I have to remind myself EVERYONE'S SITUATION IS DIFFERENT. Same thing applies here. If it's "weird" to one person, it's normal for another.

    As the old saying goes, if you can't find something nice to say say nothing at all. Now if only my 2 former coworkers who had asked me at work if I was pregnant TWICE at work earlier this year, since I've been struggling with my weight and they knew it, had followed this principle... (I reported it to management the second time it happened since I didn't make the connection the first go around, and they were fired because of it.)

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