Girls saying they have a 'type'

taunto

If all men are created equal...why are women so picky.

men are created equal, their wallets aren't

theoriginaljayne

If you make a lot of money, you become a lot of girls 'type'.

My goal in life is to seduce some single, childless, billionaire octogenarian and wind up inheriting his entire fortune.

forgtmenot

I don't have a body "type" that I stick to. Sure I have a preference. I like tall, lean but muscular types with dark hair and light eyes. I'd say probably only 10% of all the people I've dated actually fell into that type.

I do however have a personality type I go for. I like smart guys with a sense of humor. Those are two things I need out of a significant other and I won't settle for someone who doesn't have those two things.

My boyfriend of 4 years is tall, lean and muscular but he's blond with light eyes. I actually love his blond hair because it keeps some mystery as far as what our kids will look like. I have dark hair/eyes so it's a toss up what our kids will look like which I like. He is definitely smart and has a good sense of humor though and that's what matters.

lq022

Personally, I think it depends on what you want from that person; i.e: sex or relationship. Purely on a sexual level ,I would want someone with big muscles, relatively tall (or taller than me), and an attractive face with good teeth lol . When it comes to relationships, however, I find myself looking for stability and maturity, something that alot of men that I have met,who have better physical attributes didnt have. Clearly everything is a personal preference, but for the fact that people sometimes end up with individuals that are the opposites of what they say their "type" is, there is usually another aspect of that person that you found attractive -- it could be a physical attribute, or their personality, or their presence, or their overall nice-ness or mean-ness to the general population.

In my experience, the men that I've wanted relationships with are a blend of sense of humor similar to mine, overall nice person to everyone, and is handsome or cute to my own standards. Some of them have been taller than me, shorter than me, and my height. Some were skinny, overweight and everything in between! lol .

When it comes down to something serious, it just depends on the whole package and certain "flaws" are overlooked ... when it comes to just sex or something physical, thats when people tend to go with their "types"

Amor

My 'type' doesn't involve a Y chromosome, other than that I'm not too picky.

Cp731

If you make a lot of money, you become a lot of girls 'type'.

My goal in life is to seduce some single, childless, billionaire octogenarian and wind up inheriting his entire fortune.

omg hahaha I don't know how I feel about this

when you find him, call me when he dies we can run away together.

whierd

Smart, pretty, funny, and willing.



Or just willing.

babyj0

I like very strong hands on type of guys. Having tattoos is a plus.

But honestly, I don't we ever end up with our "type" of person.

violetlattice

Gotta say, I like my men tall, skinny and sarcastic. Dark hair will always be hot, and I like someone who I can have a decent debate with. I don't really care for overly sincere guys (you know the type) who take themselves too seriously - and someone who doesn't mind me laughing at/with them. Anyone who patronizes me can take a long walk off a short pier, as far as I'm concerned.

honkytonks85

Chubby nerds for me.

theoriginaljayne

If you make a lot of money, you become a lot of girls 'type'.

My goal in life is to seduce some single, childless, billionaire octogenarian and wind up inheriting his entire fortune.

omg hahaha I don't know how I feel about this

when you find him, call me when he dies we can run away together.

Deal.

RhonndaJ

When it comes to dating/marriage, nope. Never had a type, unless you count intelligent, funny, and self confident. Physically speaking, I've dated tall, short, fit, not fit, skinny, fat, clean cut, scruffy, different racial backgrounds and ethnicities.

For some reason, I did expect to marry a brunette, and ended up marrying a blond.

Eyecandy, now, that's a whole other ball game.

Morninglory81

My physical type is nothing more than fantasies dancing in my head. :blushing:

When I am looking for a relationship it is more about the intellectual connection and his confidence. I have dated tall, short, fat, skinny, fit, and buff. I have no real physical type.

theatregirl4416

I have always been attracted to men with dark hair and at least some "scruff" in the facial hair department

YES! Another one just like me.

Unlike you though, I have yet to find my Mr Tall Dark and Scruffy. lol.

MattTheWaterRat

They claim to have a preference for certain body types, and then end up in relationships or even hooking up with the exact opposite of what they've described.

Consider that they might be lying to you.

ckmama

all of your teeth (well the appearence of teeth), a JOB, a good work ethic, not a pervert, no racists, or hate mongers.

Boy has my type changed since I've aged. It used to be tall, cute, and funny. :laugh:

RJ0524583

I feel like some of you are reading each other's posts and posting the same thing worded differently just to be funny...

But anyways, yes. Personality tends to trump looks, but the majority of my female friends still tend to go out with someone who has both looks and personality as opposed to just a nice personality. You can try to 'have your cake and eat it too' whenever possible, right?

I can't but look from it as an anthropologic thing, nature vs. nurture. Which type is instinctively more attractive?

whierd

all of your teeth (well the appearence of teeth), a JOB, a good work ethic, not a pervert, no racists, or hate mongers.

Boy has my type changed since I've aged. It used to be tall, cute, and funny. :laugh:

smantha32

I usually end up asking most women whom I come into regular contact what their 'type' is. I get a wide variety of answers, and get excited when they basically describe me from a physical stand point. Not even because i'm interested in them, but just the fact that I am a generally acceptable type. I am currently overweight as one could guess from my profile. The three serious relationships I have been in have been with girls who prefer overweight men, but they have all moved on to either fit or skinny men, and only went out with fit or skinny men before me. The same can be said about some of the girls I've been interested in but never pursued anything with formally. They claim to have a preference for certain body types, and then end up in relationships or even hooking up with the exact opposite of what they've described.

Are types generally arbitrary? I refuse to give credit to an entire gender and assume that women are less shallow from a physical stand point, because gender stereotypes of any kind are detrimental to the women's equality movement, and I know better than that.

I also can't speak for my entire gender as I think of myself as exceptional (Unusual; not typical), but I've never had a body type preference.

Anyways, I was wondering if anyone else noticed this in the gender they happen to be attracted to, or if you've generally gone out with the same 'type' of person over and over again.

I'm speaking from the stand point of physical attractiveness and not personality traits, but any sort of opinion or discussion is welcome.

I have a physical type. Tall, average build, not too much body hair. Everything else optional. But I've dated outside that type when the guy happened to have a really great personality.

RJ0524583

They claim to have a preference for certain body types, and then end up in relationships or even hooking up with the exact opposite of what they've described.

Consider that they might be lying to you.

The bitterness inside me makes me think this but I didn't want to rule out the other possibilities, or not give women a chance to defend themselves on this topic before prejudging them all in my head, haha.

Pixi_Rex

As long as they are breathing, conscious and have a pulse that is my type... seriously... well they have to have a personality and not be a douche but looks wise it varies.

lq022

As long as they are breathing, conscious and have a pulse that is my type... seriously... well they have to have a personality and not be a douche but looks wise it varies.

hahaha having a pulse is a plus love the honesty!

smantha32

Sounds like you've been dealing with amateurs. Real pros like me do it like this

This made me laugh. I don't usually go for a guy because of money.. but where are these guys when I'm around? lol

smantha32

If all men are created equal...why are women so picky.

Men are just as picky if not moreso.

MercuryBlue

I feel like some of you are reading each other's posts and posting the same thing worded differently just to be funny...

But anyways, yes. Personality tends to trump looks, but the majority of my female friends still tend to go out with someone who has both looks and personality as opposed to just a nice personality. You can try to 'have your cake and eat it too' whenever possible, right?

I can't but look from it as an anthropologic thing, nature vs. nurture. Which type is instinctively more attractive?

Well, that depends. There's a difference between someone being objectively attractive, and finding someone attractive. I've dated a variety of conventionally hot, muscular, hubba-hubba type guys and thought, meh. Then I've fallen head over heels for men that weren't considered overly attractive (maybe sixes or sevens) by other people, but who I thought were sexy as all hell. I could never have dated someone I just thought had a good personality- there also had to be an attraction there. Sometimes the attraction was there from the beginning, sometimes it developed over time. Then there were guys I hung out with who had AMAZING personalities- but I was about as sexually attracted to them as a throw pillow. There are a lot of men and women out there who are not necessarily good looking, but who are attractive because of some unexplainable "x-factor". Confidence and good hygiene are a big part of that, too. I've known extremely average-looking people who were UNBELIEVABLY HOT because of factors such as the way they carried themselves. I've also known really physically attractive, nice people who I had zero attraction for because they had no self confidence. I had guy friends (some of whom were very good-looking and fit) who'd sit at a table during a party and cry into their beer because nobody wanted to date them. And, honestly, that was probably 99% of the reason why nobody wanted to date them.

Pixi_Rex

As long as they are breathing, conscious and have a pulse that is my type... seriously... well they have to have a personality and not be a douche but looks wise it varies.

hahaha having a pulse is a plus love the honesty!

It is true, a pulse is always helpful lol. I base who I date on a lot of things other than looks, when I was younger it was looks, now... not so much.

BrookieTrout626

I think ultimately it comes down to chemistry. Your body picks up the other persons pheromones and if that person is fertile and would basically be a good mate based on health and fertility you will naturally be attracted to that person in some way or another most times. And certain things we don't even think about or know consciously play a part in if we decide we want to pursue a certain person or not. So people can have a certain type but ultimately when the right person comes along for you it wont matter what your type is because you body will have decided. My husband was not my type at all but after spending time near him I went from eww to hubba hubba and now we've been together for 10 years and have 2 kids. And the fire is still alive. And I'm not talking out of my butt about this either. I have read lots of research that has confirmed these findings.

RJ0524583

I feel like some of you are reading each other's posts and posting the same thing worded differently just to be funny...

But anyways, yes. Personality tends to trump looks, but the majority of my female friends still tend to go out with someone who has both looks and personality as opposed to just a nice personality. You can try to 'have your cake and eat it too' whenever possible, right?

I can't but look from it as an anthropologic thing, nature vs. nurture. Which type is instinctively more attractive?

Well, that depends. There's a difference between someone being objectively attractive, and finding someone attractive. I've dated a variety of conventionally hot, muscular, hubba-hubba type guys and thought, meh. Then I've fallen head over heels for men that weren't considered overly attractive (maybe sixes or sevens) by other people, but who I thought were sexy as all hell. I could never have dated someone I just thought had a good personality- there also had to be an attraction there. Sometimes the attraction was there from the beginning, sometimes it developed over time. Then there were guys I hung out with who had AMAZING personalities- but I was about as sexually attracted to them as a throw pillow. There are a lot of men and women out there who are not necessarily good looking, but who are attractive because of some unexplainable "x-factor". Confidence and good hygiene are a big part of that, too. I've known extremely average-looking people who were UNBELIEVABLY HOT because of factors such as the way they carried themselves. I've also known really physically attractive, nice people who I had zero attraction for because they had no self confidence. I had guy friends (some of whom were very good-looking and fit) who'd sit at a table during a party and cry into their beer because nobody wanted to date them. And, honestly, that was probably 99% of the reason why nobody wanted to date them.

Is this 'confidence' you speak of possibly represent demonstration of value?

Some rock stars, for example, are sickly, old, pale, and otherwise not the model of physical attractiveness, but because they command a certain level of leverage and power in our world, their ability to get things for their creative ability makes them more attractive. So, that's what I sort of mean by demonstration of value.

vtmoon

If you make a lot of money, you become a lot of girls 'type'.

That's not true. If a guy so much as hints at how much he makes, I become leery of dating him.... :yawn:

Sounds like you've been dealing with amateurs. Real pros like me do it like this

Now this is my idea of being showered with love.

BinaryPulsar

I personally am not attracted to any specific body type. Attractiveness matters. But, for me if I have a "type" it is based on the personality and intelligence (my husband has set that bar very high for me). As far as physicality goes, I like variety, so no specific type. I am happily married and very happy with my husband. I am physically attracted to him and was right from the start. It was his intelligence and personality that attracted me most and that I fell in love with. But, I guess in terms of physicality it tends to be more the face that I first notice I am attracted to.

I am aware that while my husband is also most interested in the person's personality and intelligence, that he does have a body type and look that he prefers. I have that body type that he likes. I was aware of that before we started dating (we were friends for 2 years before I dated him).

And no, as others have mentioned, money is never a factor. I'd rather be happy and poor, than rich and miserable. Both my husband and I were struggling college students. And I paid my own way on our dates.