Rant alert, I really need to vent!

Jackie9003
Jackie9003 Posts: 1,116 Member
in Motivation and Support
I've been steadily loosing weight over the last 2 years and am currently at 53lb down, my husband and I are taking a trip of a lifetime in 4 weeks and my current goal is to hit 56lb down at that point. I have new dresses in smaller sizes and some are still just a tad tight. So the pressure is on a little.
My husband knows this.

My exercise is walking to walk 2-3 times a week but I have been unable to do that this week, and probably next week too as my idiot son wrote his car off and I need to give him lifts to work (a 36m round trip). Also we have had some house guests this week, my daughter went on a school trip and at least 3 nights I got to bed at 1.30am for a 6.30 alarm.
So, no exercise, little sleep and 2 nights of entertaining have resulted in no movement on the scales and I'm feeling quite frustrated.

This morning my husband and I had a small row, just a few words nothing major.
Later he wanted to take his daughter out to the shops and asked if I wanted to go and we'd go for some lunch (McDonalds no doubt) I said no thanks as I didn't want to eat out as it was difficult to fit into my eating plan with only 4 weeks to go. So off they went.

A few hours later they came home and he said oh I've got you a little present - awww, sweet I thought.

It was a twelve box of KrispyKreme donuts. For. F*#*s. Sake!

I didn't know whether to laugh or cry! I had to look pleased otherwise it looks like I'm ungrateful.
I don't want to eat them, I really don't want the calories, but if I leave them he'll be upset. (They're not all for me btw).
I took one and had a small bite and when he wasn't looking I threw it away.
What a waste of food and money, and how flipping inconsiderate knowing how hard I've worked for the last 2 years.

Rant over, thanks.
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  • kami3006
    kami3006 Posts: 4,979 Member
    I wish I could give you a hug.
  • Jackie9003
    Jackie9003 Posts: 1,116 Member
    Thank you, getting it out has helped.
  • Jackie9003
    Jackie9003 Posts: 1,116 Member
    I have to agree on both points!
  • kami3006
    kami3006 Posts: 4,979 Member
    zyxst wrote: »
    I will eat the leftovers.

    The line starts here!
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  • Jackie9003
    Jackie9003 Posts: 1,116 Member
    kami3006 wrote: »
    But, now you've vented and have a fantastic once-in-a-lifetime trip to look forward to!!!

    I am beyond excited!
  • Jackie9003
    Jackie9003 Posts: 1,116 Member
    kami3006 wrote: »
    zyxst wrote: »
    I will eat the leftovers.

    The line starts here!

    You are most welcome to them....
    2 years ago they would have been eaten in the evening, now I can walk past the shop without going in lol
  • Jackie9003
    Jackie9003 Posts: 1,116 Member
    funjen1972 wrote: »
    I have been known to 'accidently' ruin tempting food gifts: spill water on it, drop it in the trash, leave it accessible for the dog, add salt instead of sugar, sit on it, forget to refrigerate, etc...

    Ooooh some good ideas there!
  • kami3006
    kami3006 Posts: 4,979 Member
    We get them occasionally but not a dozen. Just enough to fit into whatever we’ve planned for.
    I do eye them all the time though. 🙂
  • nutmegoreo
    nutmegoreo Posts: 15,532 Member
    pinuplove wrote: »
    nutmegoreo wrote: »
    Throw them in the freezer and take them out one at a time. Maybe one per week. He was trying to be thoughtful, but obviously missed the mark (I was going to say target, but I'm not convinced that even landed on the same page as the target).

    See, I think doughnuts are a complete waste of calories so I'd take them to work.

    But my husband knows that. He'd show up with chocolate.

    I'm not big on donuts either. They are good once in a while, but not on the list of things I crave.
  • Jackie9003
    Jackie9003 Posts: 1,116 Member
    nutmegoreo wrote: »
    Throw them in the freezer and take them out one at a time. Maybe one per week. He was trying to be thoughtful, but obviously missed the mark (I was going to say target, but I'm not convinced that even landed on the same page as the target).

    I'm not sure if they freeze, it's the filled ones not the ring ones, which seem to be about 400 cals.
    He does mean well and it was quite sweet but what's wrong with flowers lol
  • kami3006
    kami3006 Posts: 4,979 Member
    Jackie9003 wrote: »
    nutmegoreo wrote: »
    Throw them in the freezer and take them out one at a time. Maybe one per week. He was trying to be thoughtful, but obviously missed the mark (I was going to say target, but I'm not convinced that even landed on the same page as the target).

    I'm not sure if they freeze, it's the filled ones not the ring ones, which seem to be about 400 cals.
    He does mean well and it was quite sweet but what's wrong with flowers lol

    yeah, the kreme filled ones are 340. I ate two yesterday for lunch. Won't have them again for a long time.

    This thread is on the cusp of becoming a new food porn thread.

    So where are you heading for your trip?
  • nutmegoreo
    nutmegoreo Posts: 15,532 Member
    Jackie9003 wrote: »
    nutmegoreo wrote: »
    Throw them in the freezer and take them out one at a time. Maybe one per week. He was trying to be thoughtful, but obviously missed the mark (I was going to say target, but I'm not convinced that even landed on the same page as the target).

    I'm not sure if they freeze, it's the filled ones not the ring ones, which seem to be about 400 cals.
    He does mean well and it was quite sweet but what's wrong with flowers lol

    I'm sure they'd freeze fine, not sure how well they would thaw though. I'll change my opinion to "take to work."
  • RaeBeeBaby
    RaeBeeBaby Posts: 4,246 Member
    edited October 2018
    My hubby has been known to do similar. I know he's not trying to sabotage, just a tad clueless and forgetful. I'd definitely take them to work and get them out of temptation's path.

    Here's the easy "out" if you don't want to eat them. "Thank you so much honey, but my tummy's a bit off right now. Maybe I'll have one later, but you go ahead."

    I had a friend who was very fit but loved sweets. She was known to jog in place while eating a cookie. LOL :cookie: Not my kind of strategy. :wink:

    Enjoy your vacation even if those smaller clothes don't make it into the suitcase this time.
  • kami3006
    kami3006 Posts: 4,979 Member
    edited October 2018
    Jackie9003 wrote: »
    kami3006 wrote: »
    Jackie9003 wrote: »
    nutmegoreo wrote: »
    Throw them in the freezer and take them out one at a time. Maybe one per week. He was trying to be thoughtful, but obviously missed the mark (I was going to say target, but I'm not convinced that even landed on the same page as the target).

    I'm not sure if they freeze, it's the filled ones not the ring ones, which seem to be about 400 cals.
    He does mean well and it was quite sweet but what's wrong with flowers lol

    yeah, the kreme filled ones are 340. I ate two yesterday for lunch. Won't have them again for a long time.

    This thread is on the cusp of becoming a new food porn thread.

    So where are you heading for your trip?

    As long as no pics are posted we'll be fine.....😅

    It's my 50th so flying from London to Miami, 2 nights there then onto Tulum in Mexico for 7 nights all inclusive 5* adult only, then a 1 night stop over in New York.
    I booked it in January so it's been a long time coming and now it's almost here.

    Sounds wonderful! Hope you have a fantastic time :)

    And happy 50th!
  • Jackie9003
    Jackie9003 Posts: 1,116 Member
    Thank you 😊
  • countcurt
    countcurt Posts: 593 Member
    TavistockToad wrote: »
    My husband quite often buys/offers to buy me food that doesn't fit my calories. He isn't being passive aggressive, he literally has no concept of calories or what's likely to fit my macros or anything else... there isn't always a sinister reason for someone buying their spouse food that they used to eat frequently.


    I said it was a possibility. OTOH, I'd wager that your husband doesn't get upset if you choose not to eat the food he brings you that doesn't fit in your calories. That, I think, is what prompted me to wonder if this was about something other than hubby was just being nice.

    My wife also brings food without always thinking about how it will 'fit' into my calories. But she doesn't usually care if I pass on it. She will only care if I ask her to pick something up at at the store and then I decide not to eat it because of the calories.
  • pinuplove
    pinuplove Posts: 12,871 Member
    countcurt wrote: »
    TavistockToad wrote: »
    Boys are stupid... :laugh:
    pinuplove wrote: »

    And clueless. I'd say mainly clueless :lol:


    Actually, I think it's quite possible the boy isn't stupid but, rather, extremely passive aggressive. If he knows you're so focused on your weight and that doughnuts would present a significant challenge and he's going to pout if you don't eat your fair share, why is he doing this?

    Of course, I'm sure there are couples where that is true. I'm assuming a mainly functional relationship here. My own husband is very thoughtful, but even he misses the mark sometimes. It doesn't mean he has ulterior motives.

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