Getting bullied for being skinny

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  • Keto_Vampire
    Keto_Vampire Posts: 1,670 Member
    OP, you made great progress; don't let the negativity of others bring you down.
    I also get ridiculed for being "too skinny"; best not to give a **** what random internet trolls say/type about you.
  • MsBaz2018
    MsBaz2018 Posts: 384 Member
    edited November 2018
    preciousleks wrote: »
    Thank you. Am being bullied by the people who know me or have known me for long. Words like, you don't eat? You are too skinny, you look like a child, you are the opposite of me, you are too bony.

    Look my grandmother used to say these things to anybody that didn't have a big beer belly. She didn't mean anything by it; we never took it as bullying. She just wanted to feed us. Cultural thing. I could take that from her but from friend... lol. They wouldn't be my friends for long.

    People just don't know how to mind their own damn business. It is extremely rude to not comment on what's on someone's plate. Comments like "that's all you are going to eat?" "Are you going to eat all that?". Just ignore it.

    You do you.
  • preciousleks
    preciousleks Posts: 213 Member
    collectingblues wrote: »
    You look lovely. You're at a perfectly fine, healthy weight.

    99 was far too low for you. But 138? You're perfect.
    Thank you
  • preciousleks
    preciousleks Posts: 213 Member
    Keto_Vampire wrote: »
    OP, you made great progress; don't let the negativity of others bring you down.
    I also get ridiculed for being "too skinny"; best not to give a **** what random internet trolls say/type about you.

    You look great you are not skinny for a man. just live your life. Thank you
  • comptonelizabeth
    comptonelizabeth Posts: 1,701 Member
    edited November 2018
    As others have said, to me you look great and not at all skinny but I know it's how you feel inside that counts. I was thin for years and have had the same kind of comments you've had - I still get them even though I've gained and am now well within what's normal for my height.
    For some reason, many people think it's OK to comment on another person's weight if they're slim. And often the comments are about not being a "real" woman, looking like a child etc. It hurts and I've yet to find a way of responding that doesn't come across as defensive. I have found the best response is, thank you for your concern but you don't need to worry about me. This seems to effectively shut people up.
    I do also think that we've become so used to the majority of people being overweight that we have forgotten what "normal" looks like.
  • comptonelizabeth
    comptonelizabeth Posts: 1,701 Member
    edited November 2018
    To me she doesn't look underweight in the first pic?
    Also she's not said she wants to gain more weight. Her post is about other people's comments
  • preciousleks
    preciousleks Posts: 213 Member
    LKArgh wrote: »
    preciousleks wrote: »
    Am 23 yrs and I weight 138lbs, 5'8 tall. I have gained 2lbs this past month. I get bullied for being skinny. It hurts. As am writing this post tears are just flooding my eyes. We are leaving in a world full of hatred. I have been doing home exercises like squats, glute bridges, kickbacks and hip thrust. And I have been trying to eat 200+calories. I want a revenge body. I will not let people bring me down. Any help?
    The upper pic was in 2015 and I was 99lbs
    And the lower one is last month 136lbs

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    First photo you are very underweight, and based on the numbers you posted, you were not just skinny but dangerously so. However now you look great and your BMI is actually ideal. Why are you trying now to gain more weight? If someone was concerned based on the first pic, this is really valid as you there should have been health concerns from anyone who cared about you. But are you sure they are not just still scared for you and pushing you to gain weight out of fear you might lose again?

    It is true I want to gain weight, not just weight overall but on my booty. I want to get bigger butt. This post was about bullies not about gaining weight. Thank you for your support.
  • preciousleks
    preciousleks Posts: 213 Member
    comptonelizabeth wrote: »
    As others have said, to me you look great and not at all skinny but I know it's how you feel inside that counts. I was thin for years and have had the same kind of comments you've had - I still get them even though I've gained and am now well within what's normal for my height.
    For some reason, many people think it's OK to comment on another person's weight if they're slim. And often the comments are about not being a "real" woman, looking like a child etc. It hurts and I've yet to find a way of responding that doesn't come across as defensive. I have found the best response is, thank you for your concern but you don't need to worry about me. This seems to effectively shut people up.
    I do also think that we've become so used to the majority of people being overweight that we have forgotten what "normal" looks like.

    True.
  • Noreenmarie1234
    Noreenmarie1234 Posts: 7,492 Member
    edited November 2018
    You look beautiful and not too skinny by any means! Ignore them. They will always find something wrong with you. You look perfectly healthy and gorgeous.
  • paperpudding
    paperpudding Posts: 9,282 Member
    urloved33 wrote: »
    Lillymoo01 wrote: »
    Those bullying you are just jealous because they don't look as gorgeous as you do. They feel bad about themselves so want to bring you down to their level. Take no notice of them. Go out into the world with the confidence that you truly are beautiful.

    ^^this^^
    THE BEST REVENGE IS LIVING WELL
    urloved33 wrote: »
    Lillymoo01 wrote: »
    Those bullying you are just jealous because they don't look as gorgeous as you do. They feel bad about themselves so want to bring you down to their level. Take no notice of them. Go out into the world with the confidence that you truly are beautiful.

    ^^this^^
    THE BEST REVENGE IS LIVING WELL

    Agreed.

    Also ignoring or not reacting to them - as that is what bullies want, you to get upset and and react to their behaviour.
  • StargazerB
    StargazerB Posts: 425 Member
    You look beautiful! When I lost weight I got so many comments about being too thin and to stop losing or there would be nothing left. Really, I wasn't too thin at all. I was a healthy weight for my height. I think people are either jealous or intimidated when they make comments like that.
  • hesn92
    hesn92 Posts: 5,966 Member
    You don't look underweight in either photo. I think the people saying these things are just jealous. Don't change your body to please anyone but yourself.
  • timeforwork
    timeforwork Posts: 114 Member
    You look great and don't forget a big butt is a fashion thing! As are big boobs or on the other end of the range things like thigh gap and bikini bridge. It's fine to aim for a bigger bum if that's what you want but don't be bullied into it and please don't think it will make you more beautiful. Also in my opinion a friend who has you in tears on a regular basis is a friend you don't need x
  • WilmaValley
    WilmaValley Posts: 1,092 Member
    I think you look great!!!!!
  • brenn24179
    brenn24179 Posts: 2,144 Member
    read this because I come from the opposite, I get too heavy but the people who give me a hard time were jerks. I got to who cares, weight whatever you want and what feels good to you. I weigh 165, trying for 155, and that is fine with me. I could care less now what others want, they will find something else to pick on you about.
  • RachelElser
    RachelElser Posts: 1,049 Member
    preciousleks wrote: »
    rheddmobile wrote: »
    Goodness, I think you look beautiful in both pictures! I am also 5'8" and 137 lbs is considered ideal weight for that height. In college I used to model while weighing 112 - 120 lbs and although that was underweight by BMI (and also not ideal in terms of health - I was anemic at that weight) it was clearly fine in terms of what I looked like. Who are these mean people bullying you?

    Thank you. Am being bullied by the people who know me or have known me for long. Words like, you don't eat? You are too skinny, you look like a child, you are the opposite of me, you are too bony.

    Yeah, for some reason people who have know us for a long time, or family members, think they get a free pass to *kitten*-hattery.

    Depending on your own personality, I've found that calling them out with no frills works pretty well. "Why would you say such a cruel thing?" "How is that any of your business?" and the direct "Stop commenting on my body, you creeper" I also agree with the person who said to tell them that the next time they comment on your body, you will leave. And then leave if they do.
  • times60
    times60 Posts: 204 Member
    You look healthy and not skinny at all. You look amazing so don't let others bring you down. I would love to look like you
  • preciousleks
    preciousleks Posts: 213 Member
    RachelElser wrote: »
    preciousleks wrote: »
    rheddmobile wrote: »
    Goodness, I think you look beautiful in both pictures! I am also 5'8" and 137 lbs is considered ideal weight for that height. In college I used to model while weighing 112 - 120 lbs and although that was underweight by BMI (and also not ideal in terms of health - I was anemic at that weight) it was clearly fine in terms of what I looked like. Who are these mean people bullying you?

    Thank you. Am being bullied by the people who know me or have known me for long. Words like, you don't eat? You are too skinny, you look like a child, you are the opposite of me, you are too bony.

    Yeah, for some reason people who have know us for a long time, or family members, think they get a free pass to *kitten*-hattery.

    Depending on your own personality, I've found that calling them out with no frills works pretty well. "Why would you say such a cruel thing?" "How is that any of your business?" and the direct "Stop commenting on my body, you creeper" I also agree with the person who said to tell them that the next time they comment on your body, you will leave. And then leave if they do.

    I have gained some 2kgs this past three months. I hope they stop commenting on my body.
  • preciousleks
    preciousleks Posts: 213 Member
    times60 wrote: »
    You look healthy and not skinny at all. You look amazing so don't let others bring you down. I would love to look like you

    Thank you.
  • preciousleks
    preciousleks Posts: 213 Member
    brenn24179 wrote: »
    read this because I come from the opposite, I get too heavy but the people who give me a hard time were jerks. I got to who cares, weight whatever you want and what feels good to you. I weigh 165, trying for 155, and that is fine with me. I could care less now what others want, they will find something else to pick on you about.

    We just have to do what makes us happy. Am now at 64kgs

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