Getting bullied for being skinny
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You are beautiful and have a perfectly normal body. It sounds like it might be cultural. Are the women where you live and your family in general larger women?2
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mom23mangos wrote: »You are beautiful and have a perfectly normal body. It sounds like it might be cultural. Are the women where you live and your family in general larger women?
They are not large. My family don't have a problem with me. It is friends and people who know me.1 -
You look lovely. You're at a perfectly fine, healthy weight.
99 was far too low for you. But 138? You're perfect.1 -
preciousleks wrote: »mom23mangos wrote: »You are beautiful and have a perfectly normal body. It sounds like it might be cultural. Are the women where you live and your family in general larger women?
They are not large. My family don't have a problem with me. It is friends and people who know me.
Some friends...3 -
You are gorgeous and you look like you are at a healthy weight. If you are feeling bullied then these people really aren't your friends.1
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You are beautiful just the way you are. Some people are naturally slim and there is nothing wrong with that. You are eating well for health, exercising for fitness. You are doing everything right. Nothing they say can make you anything other than gorgeous. Please don't let these people make you feel bad about yourself. You are a stunning looking woman.
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I'm with everyone else.
You look stunning!
Don't let them get you down.0 -
Op please know that everyone here thinks you look very good and don't need to change anything for anyone. Do what makes you happy. You are beautiful.3
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geez. so many people on this site (not on the gaining weight thread perhaps) would almost kill to look like you do! You look great!
Bullies suck. Fark them. They are most definitely jealous of how you look, I wouldn't be worried about anything!
A loooong looooong time ago when I was naturally on the thinner side a lot of my friends at school would do the whole "you're such a *kitten*, you're skinny!" and stuff like that.
Just ignore it and let it slide - it is THEIR insecurities, not you being "skinny". You look healthy and fine. If you were a bag of bones then maybe, but you're not.2 -
next time they say something horrid to you, own it. Like "You're too bony" - you can say "yep, sure am" and just move on - like change topic. "You're the opposite of me" - "good".
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OP, you made great progress; don't let the negativity of others bring you down.
I also get ridiculed for being "too skinny"; best not to give a **** what random internet trolls say/type about you.0 -
preciousleks wrote: »Thank you. Am being bullied by the people who know me or have known me for long. Words like, you don't eat? You are too skinny, you look like a child, you are the opposite of me, you are too bony.
Look my grandmother used to say these things to anybody that didn't have a big beer belly. She didn't mean anything by it; we never took it as bullying. She just wanted to feed us. Cultural thing. I could take that from her but from friend... lol. They wouldn't be my friends for long.
People just don't know how to mind their own damn business. It is extremely rude to not comment on what's on someone's plate. Comments like "that's all you are going to eat?" "Are you going to eat all that?". Just ignore it.
You do you.0 -
collectingblues wrote: »You look lovely. You're at a perfectly fine, healthy weight.
99 was far too low for you. But 138? You're perfect.
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Keto_Vampire wrote: »OP, you made great progress; don't let the negativity of others bring you down.
I also get ridiculed for being "too skinny"; best not to give a **** what random internet trolls say/type about you.
You look great you are not skinny for a man. just live your life. Thank you0 -
As others have said, to me you look great and not at all skinny but I know it's how you feel inside that counts. I was thin for years and have had the same kind of comments you've had - I still get them even though I've gained and am now well within what's normal for my height.
For some reason, many people think it's OK to comment on another person's weight if they're slim. And often the comments are about not being a "real" woman, looking like a child etc. It hurts and I've yet to find a way of responding that doesn't come across as defensive. I have found the best response is, thank you for your concern but you don't need to worry about me. This seems to effectively shut people up.
I do also think that we've become so used to the majority of people being overweight that we have forgotten what "normal" looks like.3 -
preciousleks wrote: »Am 23 yrs and I weight 138lbs, 5'8 tall. I have gained 2lbs this past month. I get bullied for being skinny. It hurts. As am writing this post tears are just flooding my eyes. We are leaving in a world full of hatred. I have been doing home exercises like squats, glute bridges, kickbacks and hip thrust. And I have been trying to eat 200+calories. I want a revenge body. I will not let people bring me down. Any help?
The upper pic was in 2015 and I was 99lbs
And the lower one is last month 136lbs
First photo you are very underweight, and based on the numbers you posted, you were not just skinny but dangerously so. However now you look great and your BMI is actually ideal. Why are you trying now to gain more weight? If someone was concerned based on the first pic, this is really valid as you there should have been health concerns from anyone who cared about you. But are you sure they are not just still scared for you and pushing you to gain weight out of fear you might lose again?7 -
To me she doesn't look underweight in the first pic?
Also she's not said she wants to gain more weight. Her post is about other people's comments2 -
preciousleks wrote: »Am 23 yrs and I weight 138lbs, 5'8 tall. I have gained 2lbs this past month. I get bullied for being skinny. It hurts. As am writing this post tears are just flooding my eyes. We are leaving in a world full of hatred. I have been doing home exercises like squats, glute bridges, kickbacks and hip thrust. And I have been trying to eat 200+calories. I want a revenge body. I will not let people bring me down. Any help?
The upper pic was in 2015 and I was 99lbs
And the lower one is last month 136lbs
First photo you are very underweight, and based on the numbers you posted, you were not just skinny but dangerously so. However now you look great and your BMI is actually ideal. Why are you trying now to gain more weight? If someone was concerned based on the first pic, this is really valid as you there should have been health concerns from anyone who cared about you. But are you sure they are not just still scared for you and pushing you to gain weight out of fear you might lose again?
It is true I want to gain weight, not just weight overall but on my booty. I want to get bigger butt. This post was about bullies not about gaining weight. Thank you for your support.1 -
comptonelizabeth wrote: »As others have said, to me you look great and not at all skinny but I know it's how you feel inside that counts. I was thin for years and have had the same kind of comments you've had - I still get them even though I've gained and am now well within what's normal for my height.
For some reason, many people think it's OK to comment on another person's weight if they're slim. And often the comments are about not being a "real" woman, looking like a child etc. It hurts and I've yet to find a way of responding that doesn't come across as defensive. I have found the best response is, thank you for your concern but you don't need to worry about me. This seems to effectively shut people up.
I do also think that we've become so used to the majority of people being overweight that we have forgotten what "normal" looks like.
True.0 -
You look beautiful and not too skinny by any means! Ignore them. They will always find something wrong with you. You look perfectly healthy and gorgeous.0
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