It’s easy for you (rant)

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  • ShayCarver89
    ShayCarver89 Posts: 239 Member
    bobsanders1 wrote: »
    Losing weight is VERY easy, its maintaining that's hard.

    Lmfao k.
  • ereck44
    ereck44 Posts: 1,170 Member
    ahoy_m8 wrote: »
    Full disclosure: my antenna are up for people who discount the hard work of others by dismissing any success as “easy for you.” Straight As, professional recognition, weight loss (or maintenance).... it must have been easy or there’s no way you could have achieved it. Hard work, persistence, patience... I’m not giving you credit for that. You can only do easy things.

    It’s annoyingly but not uncommon. I expect it from my mother. But my husband? Jeez. Tonight he actually said, “It’s easy for you because you’re disciplined.” To my ears, that’s an oxymoron. Discipline isn’t easy. Discipline is synonymous with effort. Consistent effort. Example: Yesterday I did my 4mi run in a cold rain. Not fun. As he laid on a chaise lounge indoors, he saw me gird up to face the elements. Easy? Where is he coming from?

    Crazy thing is I’ve been sympathetic with his efforts to lose weight. No reciprocation, evidently. I guess that’s what hurts. I encourage and he dismisses. To all of you MFP-ers out there, I appreciate the effort it takes. It’s not easy.

    Hey, I am impressed that you ran in "cold" rain or any rain. I look for advice/kudos from my mfp friends. My husband can be kind of clueless. I think you are great!
  • jjpptt2
    jjpptt2 Posts: 5,650 Member
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  • lorrpb
    lorrpb Posts: 11,463 Member
    Life is not easy.
  • elisa123gal
    elisa123gal Posts: 4,333 Member
    losing weight is hard work. We all try to make it sound easy on here..but it just isn't. You have to change most every single thing about your life. It takes consistency until real change happens.

    It would be nice if your husband recognized that, and even reached out to you for advice on how to succeed himself. It would make his life easier.

    He is just speaking out of his own frustration and failure when he marginalizes your success.


  • callsitlikeiseeit
    callsitlikeiseeit Posts: 8,626 Member
    losing weight is easy. it is simple science, not rocket science.

    having the discipline and self control and motivation to keep it UP, and to push through lifes obstacles and excuses, is whats hard.

    some of us are more stubborn than others when it comes to following through with it.

    For the past 2 years ive basically been maintaining after losing 100 pounds. i have found that to be ridiculously easy, even without weighing or logging my food. getting back INTO the habits i USED to have, that got me where I am now, so that I can lose the weight left I want to lose .... its hard af. but its cause i havent redeveloped those habits yet, so.... it seems hard. Logically, i know its not. doesnt make it any easier ;)

    time for the stubbornness to kick in ;) LOL
  • garystrickland357
    garystrickland357 Posts: 598 Member
    edited December 2018
    crazyravr wrote: »
    I hear this every day at work. How its easy for me to stay thin and fit. Who tells me this? The same people that tell me I am insane for going to the gym lifting at 6am before work. Or call me crazy for cycling to work when the weather in not ideal, be it rain or today snow, and for taking a scenic route. Or for walking into work once a week.
    I said this once and I will say it again. Losing weight IS EASY. It really really is. Now, keeping that weight off, thats something else.

    Yep. I get this too.
  • amberellen12
    amberellen12 Posts: 248 Member
    If it was so easy to lose weight then there wouldn’t be a weight lost industry making millions of dollars each year. We wouldn’t need this site either.

    For YOU it might of been easy but for a whole lot of people it isn’t.
  • Ed_Zilla
    Ed_Zilla Posts: 207 Member
    Great post OP...must've been hard to write about something so easy to do ;-)
  • mph323
    mph323 Posts: 3,563 Member
    bobsanders1 wrote: »
    mph323 wrote: »
    amberellen12 wrote: »
    If it was so easy to lose weight then there wouldn’t be a weight lost industry making millions of dollars each year. We wouldn’t need this site either.

    For YOU it might of been easy but for a whole lot of people it isn’t.

    I think sometimes there's an issue with people communicating exactly what they mean when they say "easy" (because no, I don't think weight loss is easy for the vast majority of us). I often interpret it to mean that they are trying to say it's "simple", meaning "eat fewer calories than you expend, you don't need an elaborate food plan or special diet", and I agree with that. It's the implementation that's hard, and it's important to stress the difference.

    This guy gets it.

    Um, woman but thanks! :)
  • mph323
    mph323 Posts: 3,563 Member
    bobsanders1 wrote: »
    mph323 wrote: »
    amberellen12 wrote: »
    If it was so easy to lose weight then there wouldn’t be a weight lost industry making millions of dollars each year. We wouldn’t need this site either.

    For YOU it might of been easy but for a whole lot of people it isn’t.

    I think sometimes there's an issue with people communicating exactly what they mean when they say "easy" (because no, I don't think weight loss is easy for the vast majority of us). I often interpret it to mean that they are trying to say it's "simple", meaning "eat fewer calories than you expend, you don't need an elaborate food plan or special diet", and I agree with that. It's the implementation that's hard, and it's important to stress the difference.

    This guy lady gets it.

    <3
  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,052 Member
    SMKing75 wrote: »
    I hear this ALL.THE.TIME about parenting. My kids are very smart and in special classes because of it. I get to hear it must be easy raising such smart kids. Um, its just like raising um, kids. Them being smart doesn't help me raise them. My oldest has high functioning autism. There is NOTHING easy about that. But, because she's smart, I'm lucky! Just ignore it and move on. All people have their own perceptions about what is easy and what is not. What looks easy on the outside to someone looking in, is usually not what is actually happening. OP, I guess you make it look easy! ;-)

    I was a smart kid in a special class, but after a certain age in no way was I easy for my poor mom :lol:
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    kshama2001 wrote: »
    SMKing75 wrote: »
    I hear this ALL.THE.TIME about parenting. My kids are very smart and in special classes because of it. I get to hear it must be easy raising such smart kids. Um, its just like raising um, kids. Them being smart doesn't help me raise them. My oldest has high functioning autism. There is NOTHING easy about that. But, because she's smart, I'm lucky! Just ignore it and move on. All people have their own perceptions about what is easy and what is not. What looks easy on the outside to someone looking in, is usually not what is actually happening. OP, I guess you make it look easy! ;-)

    I was a smart kid in a special class, but after a certain age in no way was I easy for my poor mom :lol:

    I think in a lot of ways it was harder for my parents that I was singled out and put in special classes and so forth. I was that kid who absorbed all the adult conversations and had a whole set of "adult" worries from around age six. They had to assuage my fears about all sorts of things in politics, religious teachings, etc. My older cousins were average kids with normal concerns, so my aunt was like "WTF!?" every time my mom asked her for parenting advice.
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