The holiday depression and or anxiety support group
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Avocado_AS5 wrote: »Like the neighbor's car alarm just went off and dogs barking like cray, so now I'm on edge and can't fall asleep.
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Get a dog... I could loan you one of mine, maybe?
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JustSomeEm wrote: »Avocado_AS5 wrote: »Like the neighbor's car alarm just went off and dogs barking like cray, so now I'm on edge and can't fall asleep.
:flowerforyou:
Get a dog... I could loan you one of mine, maybe?
I want a doggo soooo bad! My rental doesn't allow pets and no fenced yard. But I'm moving come summer so hopefully I'll be able to get a fur baby.1 -
Y'all....I HAD to go to the WalMarts today and it was a complete madhouse! But I had my earbuds in listening to music which helped so much. There was a kid with a bloody nose and his a-hole dad was screaming at him and I barely even noticed. Winning!2
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Yeah... tell me about it. I'm sitting here all alone after my friend asked me 4 hours ago if I wanted to go run errands with her... but I guess family showed up unexpectedly so I'm alone while my husband is playing D&D with our other friends, and I made him take the kids too because my friend was supposed to be picking me up, and my daughter did NOT want to go, so now I feel like a *kitten* parent again too!
Of course that got me thinking that I have no family around and really not many friends either, and that I'll always be pretty much second best to everyone's family (I know it's normal... I just feel like nobody cares about me sometimes). And I always seem to be the one trying to get together with my friends, and it's just exhausting sometimes...
Also, my son was finally diagnosed with ADHD after failing at school for 3 years (he's in 5th grade), I still haven't managed to get him on medication because the two doctors can't seem to get their *kitten* together, I'm getting judged by some people for putting him on medication (he has no impulse control, still pees his bed, and can't write to save his life - theres probably more to that than ADHD too but we can't do any further testing until he's on meds). Daughter still has tantrums over anything and they are both completely obsessed with electronics and like NOTHING else. So we can never do anything together as a family without one of them complaining about it. Hubby is obsessed with his video games (online, that he can't pause when I need him), and is playing D&D every week end, seems too lost in his world to follow what's going on with the kids sometimes, and I just feel like a single mom way too often (really... he should help with homework and I shouldn't be the one telling them to take showers and go to bed EVERY single night).
Then my 1yo female dog has started attacking our 14yo dog for no reason, so we've had to separate them constantly for 3 weeks now. So there's always a dog crying because he/she's not with us (the 3rd dog is a doll and is good either way, but he will join her in attacking the old dog if she starts, and he's 90 lbs, so it's not fun) and I'm stressing out all day making sure that they all get time with me/time outside/access to water. Poor 14yo dog has arthritis and is always limping everywhere, and the young dogs keep pestering my 17yo cat, and now that the dogs have to be separated, she hasn't been able to spend much time with me at all.
I'm also constantly exhausted, still have anemia, the new dog wakes me up at 5am and I have to get up every morning with him, hubby goes to bed way too late because of his game to be of any help, and I've had a chest cold for weeks and have probably gained 10 lbs back again because I just end up in coughing fits after 5 minutes on the treadmill.
So... kids are excited about Christmas. I kinda was too, but after asking my friends 3x what we are doing for dinner and them not having any idea, I just told my husband that I'm not making anything and I'm NOT going to the store at the last minute because people can't make up their mind (to be fair, he did go today, but he bought turkey breast, which really isn't my thing, but at least I won't have to cook). The only close family we have are away and I don't really get along that well with them anyway... so my friends have pretty much been my family in the last couple years. We usually see some of my husband old friends on Christmas' Eve but it's 90 minutes away and we always end up getting home late, and still have to put the presents once the kids are (finally) asleep, and I'm just too tired to want to go this year (plus, I just end up eating too much anyway because I don't really know anyone).
And the house is a mess because hubby put the decorations up but didn't put any of the boxes away (but when does he?).
Also I don't think that the anxiety meds I've been on for 2 months are really helpful.
Anyway... I'm sorry this turned into a rant. Just feeling sad and lonely right now.
And I'm so sorry @feelinfoofoo for your loss. It's always so hard to lose pets.7 -
A pearl is a beautiful thing that is produced by an injured life. It is the tear [that results] from the injury of the oyster. The treasure of our being in this world is also produced by an injured life. If we had not been wounded, if we had not been injured, then we will not produce the pearl."
Stephan Hoeller
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A pearl is a beautiful thing that is produced by an injured life. It is the tear [that results] from the injury of the oyster. The treasure of our being in this world is also produced by an injured life. If we had not been wounded, if we had not been injured, then we will not produce the pearl."
Stephan Hoeller
Stupid ol' Stephan can keep his pearls.
I'd rather just kick back in the Sun, maybe put my feet in the surf; he can have the injured life. I'm good without it.
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Yeah... tell me about it. I'm sitting here all alone after my friend asked me 4 hours ago if I wanted to go run errands with her... but I guess family showed up unexpectedly so I'm alone while my husband is playing D&D with our other friends, and I made him take the kids too because my friend was supposed to be picking me up, and my daughter did NOT want to go, so now I feel like a *kitten* parent again too!
Of course that got me thinking that I have no family around and really not many friends either, and that I'll always be pretty much second best to everyone's family (I know it's normal... I just feel like nobody cares about me sometimes). And I always seem to be the one trying to get together with my friends, and it's just exhausting sometimes...
Also, my son was finally diagnosed with ADHD after failing at school for 3 years (he's in 5th grade), I still haven't managed to get him on medication because the two doctors can't seem to get their *kitten* together, I'm getting judged by some people for putting him on medication (he has no impulse control, still pees his bed, and can't write to save his life - theres probably more to that than ADHD too but we can't do any further testing until he's on meds). Daughter still has tantrums over anything and they are both completely obsessed with electronics and like NOTHING else. So we can never do anything together as a family without one of them complaining about it. Hubby is obsessed with his video games (online, that he can't pause when I need him), and is playing D&D every week end, seems too lost in his world to follow what's going on with the kids sometimes, and I just feel like a single mom way too often (really... he should help with homework and I shouldn't be the one telling them to take showers and go to bed EVERY single night).
Then my 1yo female dog has started attacking our 14yo dog for no reason, so we've had to separate them constantly for 3 weeks now. So there's always a dog crying because he/she's not with us (the 3rd dog is a doll and is good either way, but he will join her in attacking the old dog if she starts, and he's 90 lbs, so it's not fun) and I'm stressing out all day making sure that they all get time with me/time outside/access to water. Poor 14yo dog has arthritis and is always limping everywhere, and the young dogs keep pestering my 17yo cat, and now that the dogs have to be separated, she hasn't been able to spend much time with me at all.
I'm also constantly exhausted, still have anemia, the new dog wakes me up at 5am and I have to get up every morning with him, hubby goes to bed way too late because of his game to be of any help, and I've had a chest cold for weeks and have probably gained 10 lbs back again because I just end up in coughing fits after 5 minutes on the treadmill.
So... kids are excited about Christmas. I kinda was too, but after asking my friends 3x what we are doing for dinner and them not having any idea, I just told my husband that I'm not making anything and I'm NOT going to the store at the last minute because people can't make up their mind (to be fair, he did go today, but he bought turkey breast, which really isn't my thing, but at least I won't have to cook). The only close family we have are away and I don't really get along that well with them anyway... so my friends have pretty much been my family in the last couple years. We usually see some of my husband old friends on Christmas' Eve but it's 90 minutes away and we always end up getting home late, and still have to put the presents once the kids are (finally) asleep, and I'm just too tired to want to go this year (plus, I just end up eating too much anyway because I don't really know anyone).
And the house is a mess because hubby put the decorations up but didn't put any of the boxes away (but when does he?).
Also I don't think that the anxiety meds I've been on for 2 months are really helpful.
Anyway... I'm sorry this turned into a rant. Just feeling sad and lonely right now.
And I'm so sorry @feelinfoofoo for your loss. It's always so hard to lose pets.
I’m sorry. It does sound like you’ve got a lot on your plate and not a lot of support to handle it all.
I’ve been dealing with a similar issue with two of my dogs for several weeks now. If you haven’t taken the older dog in for a full checkup really recently, I’d be sure to do so. As I’ve been working with our vet, a couple trainers, and some rescue groups trying to figure out why one of mine has decided to attack the other and find a solution, the consistent question from every professional we encounter has been whether or not there could be a health issue in the dog who’s being attacked, because if there is, the aggressor could be picking up on that and stressed by it.0 -
Motorsheen wrote: »A pearl is a beautiful thing that is produced by an injured life. It is the tear [that results] from the injury of the oyster. The treasure of our being in this world is also produced by an injured life. If we had not been wounded, if we had not been injured, then we will not produce the pearl."
Stephan Hoeller
Stupid ol' Stephan can keep his pearls.
I'd rather just kick back in the Sun, maybe put my feet in the surf; he can have the injured life. I'm good without it.
Wouldnt we all rather live the the uninjured life, although not sure ive ever met someone that hasnt felt pain......7 -
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Motorsheen wrote: »A pearl is a beautiful thing that is produced by an injured life. It is the tear [that results] from the injury of the oyster. The treasure of our being in this world is also produced by an injured life. If we had not been wounded, if we had not been injured, then we will not produce the pearl."
Stephan Hoeller
Stupid ol' Stephan can keep his pearls.
I'd rather just kick back in the Sun, maybe put my feet in the surf; he can have the injured life. I'm good without it.
Wouldnt we all rather live the the uninjured life, although not sure ive ever met someone that hasnt felt pain......
True.
That being said, some folks live a charmed life compared to others (obviously).
Life is difficult for most everybody at some point in time.
It's the issues beyond one's control that are the most troubling.3 -
skctilidie wrote: »Yeah... tell me about it. I'm sitting here all alone after my friend asked me 4 hours ago if I wanted to go run errands with her... but I guess family showed up unexpectedly so I'm alone while my husband is playing D&D with our other friends, and I made him take the kids too because my friend was supposed to be picking me up, and my daughter did NOT want to go, so now I feel like a *kitten* parent again too!
Of course that got me thinking that I have no family around and really not many friends either, and that I'll always be pretty much second best to everyone's family (I know it's normal... I just feel like nobody cares about me sometimes). And I always seem to be the one trying to get together with my friends, and it's just exhausting sometimes...
Also, my son was finally diagnosed with ADHD after failing at school for 3 years (he's in 5th grade), I still haven't managed to get him on medication because the two doctors can't seem to get their *kitten* together, I'm getting judged by some people for putting him on medication (he has no impulse control, still pees his bed, and can't write to save his life - theres probably more to that than ADHD too but we can't do any further testing until he's on meds). Daughter still has tantrums over anything and they are both completely obsessed with electronics and like NOTHING else. So we can never do anything together as a family without one of them complaining about it. Hubby is obsessed with his video games (online, that he can't pause when I need him), and is playing D&D every week end, seems too lost in his world to follow what's going on with the kids sometimes, and I just feel like a single mom way too often (really... he should help with homework and I shouldn't be the one telling them to take showers and go to bed EVERY single night).
Then my 1yo female dog has started attacking our 14yo dog for no reason, so we've had to separate them constantly for 3 weeks now. So there's always a dog crying because he/she's not with us (the 3rd dog is a doll and is good either way, but he will join her in attacking the old dog if she starts, and he's 90 lbs, so it's not fun) and I'm stressing out all day making sure that they all get time with me/time outside/access to water. Poor 14yo dog has arthritis and is always limping everywhere, and the young dogs keep pestering my 17yo cat, and now that the dogs have to be separated, she hasn't been able to spend much time with me at all.
I'm also constantly exhausted, still have anemia, the new dog wakes me up at 5am and I have to get up every morning with him, hubby goes to bed way too late because of his game to be of any help, and I've had a chest cold for weeks and have probably gained 10 lbs back again because I just end up in coughing fits after 5 minutes on the treadmill.
So... kids are excited about Christmas. I kinda was too, but after asking my friends 3x what we are doing for dinner and them not having any idea, I just told my husband that I'm not making anything and I'm NOT going to the store at the last minute because people can't make up their mind (to be fair, he did go today, but he bought turkey breast, which really isn't my thing, but at least I won't have to cook). The only close family we have are away and I don't really get along that well with them anyway... so my friends have pretty much been my family in the last couple years. We usually see some of my husband old friends on Christmas' Eve but it's 90 minutes away and we always end up getting home late, and still have to put the presents once the kids are (finally) asleep, and I'm just too tired to want to go this year (plus, I just end up eating too much anyway because I don't really know anyone).
And the house is a mess because hubby put the decorations up but didn't put any of the boxes away (but when does he?).
Also I don't think that the anxiety meds I've been on for 2 months are really helpful.
Anyway... I'm sorry this turned into a rant. Just feeling sad and lonely right now.
And I'm so sorry @feelinfoofoo for your loss. It's always so hard to lose pets.
I’m sorry. It does sound like you’ve got a lot on your plate and not a lot of support to handle it all.
I’ve been dealing with a similar issue with two of my dogs for several weeks now. If you haven’t taken the older dog in for a full checkup really recently, I’d be sure to do so. As I’ve been working with our vet, a couple trainers, and some rescue groups trying to figure out why one of mine has decided to attack the other and find a solution, the consistent question from every professional we encounter has been whether or not there could be a health issue in the dog who’s being attacked, because if there is, the aggressor could be picking up on that and stressed by it.
I think that's what it was. He was limping more on his back leg, and we put him on pain meds, and it totally messed up his liver, among other things. He's been off the meds for 2 weeks now and his blood work has improved, and the couple times she ended up next to him (kids not paying attention), she didn't do anything at all. I'm just not risking it, he can't defend himself versus the other two, and they did leave bite marks last time... I mean, he's 14, he's half deaf and blind, doesn't walk well, something's bound to be wrong with him at one point or another.
It doesn't help that my female is a very nervous dog too (she's really a handful when she's out of her comfort zone!)... and yes I have to remind the kids constantly to close the den's gate (and pick up their stuff... always to pick up their stuff).
My son decided to be up in the middle of the night to watch TV again. I don't know what I can blame on ADHD at this point. He thinks he's sneaky but he really isn't. I'm going to have to be that mom who won't let him play with his presents (video games) because he's going to be grounded all week (which is SO MUCH FUN during Christmas break!!!!).
Meh. Sometimes it feels better in the morning but I had some weird dreams that woke me up at 6am (I guess it beats 5am) and I'm still feeling completely depressed.1 -
I’m just looking forward to January 2nd when all the holiday crap is over.1
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there was so much intolerance from one family member i wanted to slap her. but i didn't
but otherwise my anxiety did pretty well at the big family christmas.
tonight, i get to do another family christmas(in laws) at a loud restaurant.
grateful for the dogs when i get home. even the little turd who refuses to be potty trained1 -
Aww... Hugs to you all!
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Then we can all transition to our Valentine’s Day depression.1
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This afternoon is my family's Christmas. My sis and her husband always bring drama and cause extra anxiety. I usually drink to stay sane but have my girls and will be driving afterwards so no drinking this time. I hope it's not a total dumpster fire.3
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Headed to my Dad's later for what's basically his wife's family's Christmas party...
None of my family is even invited with my brother and I as the exception... Lame
The only reason I'm going is for my father, I've only got one parent left and he is worth every second and mile to me
So I'm going to go, dress well, carry myself equally well, so my father can say... That's MY son and his beautiful family...10 -
Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Headed to my Dad's later for what's basically his wife's family's Christmas party...
None of my family is even invited with my brother and I as the exception... Lame
The only reason I'm going is for my father, I've only got one parent left and he is worth every second and mile to me
So I'm going to go, dress well, carry myself equally well, so my father can say... That's MY son and his beautiful family...
This is awesome Jesse
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I'm just wondering if it is possible to strike that perfect spot with alcohol, in which you are inebriated enough to blunt the edge, act like a human being and not care, but not inebriated enough to throw you overboard into manic laughter and a scene in front of your whole family. Which you're having over. All of them.
And I *kitten* up a cheesecake so I had to make another. I now have two cheesecakes. One is soggy. Possibly like future me.1 -
Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Headed to my Dad's later for what's basically his wife's family's Christmas party...
None of my family is even invited with my brother and I as the exception... Lame
The only reason I'm going is for my father, I've only got one parent left and he is worth every second and mile to me
So I'm going to go, dress well, carry myself equally well, so my father can say... That's MY son and his beautiful family...
This is awesome Jesse
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