When do the comments stop?

kenyainez

Overweight:

You'd look so much better if you lost weight.
You're never gonna get a mate at that size.
Why don't you lose some weight and get healthy.
I don't think you should have another slice of cake.


Getting fit
Who are you trying to impress?
How small are you trying to get?
Do you live in the gym?
Good grief, have a burger for once!

They're never going to stop. You're damned if you do and you're damned if you don't so the only thing I can suggest is to find a way to brush off the criticism and make sure you're in a happy mental place. If we continue to let the opinions of others bother us we'll work ourselves into serious depression. Their opinions are not and never will be worth that.

Props to maintaining!

Lextmg86

If someone was doing or saying these things to me family or not they would be told off hastily and never do it again. I don't take that kind of mental abuse from anyone. Haters gonna hate.

wellthenwhat

I don't really get any except from people that haven't seen me in a while. But I've also lost it super, super slowly

JeromeBarry1

Enjoy it. My mother's dead. My father's dead. My aunts are dead. My uncles are dead. Some of my cousins are dead.

Womona

It's the plight of the thin person. Few people would ever walk up to a fat person and say "You're so fat! You disgust me! You're going to die of a heart attack!" Yet people think it's ok to go up to a thin person and say "You're going to waste away, you're too skinny, you're a stick, etc." I've actually had people say to me "You're so skinny, I hate you!" You hate me? You don't even know me!

I attribute it to two things. 1) Jealousy. Many people don't like to see you succeed when they struggle with their weight (or, rather, they want to be thin magically but don't want to give up their Mallomars). 2) People of a certain age remember that being thin meant that your father didn't make enough money to feed the family. This was true in my grandparent's generation. My mom said she was thin "when thin was not in" , and had the added insult of comments made about my grandfather's ability to support his family, even though he did with no problem.

RWClary

ericb14 wrote: »

I think folks are just jealous that you've had amazing success!

YEP!
Jealous people love to tear down success.

nxd10

When you see new people they are just telling you that you look different from their mental image of you. Yes it's annoying. My mom does it too. People who see me every day don't. It's been four years. I think they did it for three.

HOWEVER every time weight comes up with my friends, I got pointed to as someone who has done really well keeping it off, because they are good at dieting, but always regain. I don't mind that.

mfurgiuele90

I am sorry to hear about your troubles. Some people have no manners and I would agree that I think a lot of it comes from jealousy and insecurity.

My family were probably the worst to me when I was heavy and during my weight loss I thought of all people they would be happy about my success. NEGATIVE! They claim I am obsessed with my weight and anorexic and have never once congratulated me.

I find insecure people tend to be the most judgmental! Its hard for anyone to make changes in their lives regardless of what area its in. The fact that you went on an endeavor to better your life and succeeded is HUGE! Congrats even if others are on your case! Harder said than done but try and ignore them.

stickkop

I will never forget the gentleman who came over to me in synagogue to ask me if I was sick after not seeing me for a while when I was visiting family. This gentleman was far from the picture of health. The following week they had to call an ambulance for him during services since he thought he was having a heart attack. fortunately e was not having one.

k_nelson_24

Just ignore the negative! I have found that if people know that it bothers you it fuels the fire. If you aren't playing their game they will eventually get bored and stop making comments. It's okay that no one understands that its a lifestyle change. YOU know that you've changed your life for the better. I know it's hard to avoid family, but you can pick and choose your friends! Surround yourself with positive people and shut out the hate. They are just jealous anyway.

simmoner4

Now that I'm on maintainence the comments have started.. Yesterday with my mother and sisters one of my sisters asked if I was anorexic and my mother tried to pretty much shove donuts down my throat because I'm "too skinny." I seriously don't know how to respond because they don't listen when I tell them that I eat plenty it's just healthier foods (NOT donuts) and that exercising is an important part of my life. Ugh.