Less Alcohol - March 2019 - One Day at a Time
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Well today has been just horrible. My husband and I went to talk to a counselor to get started on buying a house. But later today we found out that the people who bought this duplex bought it for their kid to live in so we have to move out by May 1st. The real estate lady insisted even when I talked to her on Sunday that the people who bought this place didn't want to live in it. So now we have to find yet another duplex to move into and sign another lease that we don't want, setting us back an entire year. This is the 3rd time in 6 years this has happened to us. I'm so bummed out about it but at least I didn't think about drinking today. I'm too bummed even to drink!
Oh man, that completely stinks! I’m so sorry to hear this. I hope you can at least find a month to month rental so you aren’t locked in when you find your dream house. That you own!!!
Hey, good for you for not reaching for a drink to make yourself feel better.5 -
My goals for March will be the same as the previous months - 4 AF days per week. I have found it to be a realistic goal for me. I hit my goal in February (and surpassed it a little). Daily accountability is good. I was a daily drinker before making this resolve.
I log the next morning usually.
March 01 - 3 drinks - yes, chose to do that because I have a free Saturday to sleep in, basically no responsibilities or commitments. I had a very busy week and it was so nice to finally kick back, have a great dinner and a few drinks.
March 02 - AF
March 03 - AF
March 04 - AF
March 05 - AF - technically my goal of 4AF for the week.
March 06 - AF
March 07 - 3 drinks
March 08 - 3 drinks - time to rack up some more AF days. I think that I broke that good advice on here not to have drinks 2 days in a row. It too quickly can fall back into a habit that I don't want to go back to.
March 09 - AF
March 10 - AF
March 11 - AF - now to get the scale to move!
March 12 - AF - I really really wanted to have cocktails last night, but also didn't want to look puffy, so vanity won out : - )
March 13 - 3 drinks. Those of you who have seen me on here before know that I throw up if I exceed 3 : - )
March 14 - AF
March 15 - AF - This is all about weight loss for me. Seriously, not a day goes by that I don't want to have drinks of one kind or another, but I want to lose weight more! Company coming, I don't know if I will imbibe or not, but I have been pretty "good" this month so far.
March 16 - AF - Planning on drinks for Sunday
March 17 - 2 Gin Martinis, 1/3 - 1/2 of a bottle of wine (shared between 3 people, but I might have had more than the other 2 people.
March 18 - AF
13 AF days out of 18 days so far5 -
@BuffMom84 you never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice. (in reference to not thinking about drinking today)
Feeling your pain and hoping for a quick and easy move for you and your family.4 -
March accountability ~18 days so far
No Alcohol: 10 days
Alcohol: 8 days (14 drinks)
Goal: AF days 4 per week / 16 per month
You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine. - John C. MaxwellIncluding the last few days of February to monitor my weekly goal which I missed this time around.Challenging week ahead. NYC 3 nights & fishing camp 3 nights.
Feb 25 - AF
Feb 26 - 2 glasses of wine
Feb 27 - AF
Feb 28 - AF - @ fishing camp for long weekend which is always a challenge!
Mar 1 - 2 glasses of wine
Mar 2 - 2 glasses of wine
Mar 3 - 2 glasses of wine - driving this evening 5 hrs but then unexpected dinner at my sisters afterwards for spaghetti & wine
It was a rough week of challenges but managed to pull together 4 of 7 days AF!
Mar 4 - 2 glasses of wine - DH picked up a bottle for dinner
Mar 5 - AF: Don’t order alcohol on plane even though you have free drink tickets! DH did but I ordered bloody mary mix instead. Then at dinner after we landed I drank water while he had wine.
Mar 6 - 2 glasses of Albariño (white spanish wine). San Francisco: One glass at each restaurant we explored (Hog Island Oyster Co & Coqueta 5 Spanish tapas) and NO nightcap back at the hotel!
Mar 7 - 1 beer - DH's sales rep had a beer waiting for me when I joined them after I strolled through the San Fran MOMA for 4 hours. No will power to turn it away when sitting in 3rd Street Tap Room.
DH & I made a pact no alcohol for the rest of Lent which will commence for us Friday! This will be very challenging for the both of us.
Mar 8 - AF
Mar 9 - AF
Mar 10 - AF
Easier this week ... fewer challenges and 5 of 7 days AF as a result.
Mar 11 - AF
Mar 12 - 2 glasses of wine - alumnae meeting
Mar 13 - AF
Mar 14 - AF
Mar 15 - AF
Mar 16 - 1 beer - Texas Street Grill after hiking
Mar 17 - AF
Mar 18 - AF - Book Club
Mar 19 - NYC
Mar 20 - NYC
Mar 21 - NYC
Mar 22 - @ camp
Mar 23 - @ camp
Mar 24 - @ camp3 -
today’s plan. Don't buy a bottle.
3/7 – well its been 34 hours without my whiskey.
3/8 – 58 hours AF
3/9 – AF
3/10 – 1/5th whiskey
3/11 - AF
3/12 - AF
3/13 – AF
3/14 – AF
3/15 – AF
3/16 – AF – 6 full days. Mission accomplished. If I chose to drink tomorrow, I am okay with it
3/17 – I plan on having drinks today after grocery shopping!
3/18 – well yesterday was un-productive. Oh well I guess I have all week to get things done. Back to the plan!!!
3/19 – AF yesterday – cravings are kinds going away but I did get my fix on Sunday. also sleeping okay without the shakes. I still look like a zombie in the morning.
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Well today has been just horrible. My husband and I went to talk to a counselor to get started on buying a house. But later today we found out that the people who bought this duplex bought it for their kid to live in so we have to move out by May 1st. The real estate lady insisted even when I talked to her on Sunday that the people who bought this place didn't want to live in it. So now we have to find yet another duplex to move into and sign another lease that we don't want, setting us back an entire year. This is the 3rd time in 6 years this has happened to us. I'm so bummed out about it but at least I didn't think about drinking today. I'm too bummed even to drink!
You've had a rough couple of events happen to you in the short couple of months I have been here. I'm so sorry. It is good to hear that you are handling these things without getting sloshed on top of it. A clear head will be such a blessing. Hang in there.4 -
@marcvb35 So happy for you. Sounds like you are making progress.
I thought my goal was going to be 3 beers on week nights. That hasn't gone very well. I think my limit is two, which mentally to me seemed harder to do. But I know after 3 I am too loose in my thinking. Also, it may help to clear the fog in my brain. I am still feeling cruddy, head cold cruddy. Which made it easier to drink only two beers yesterday. Tonight is the only night this week I don't have something planned. It will be more challenging. But that is my goal. 2 beers. And yes, it does free up a lot of calories in my tracking
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Let me go back exactly a year ago today- March 19th 2018
I had to confront a person I have known all my life and deeply love. I had to let this person know they were worth what ever it took to become a better person and stop the madness that follows them from over drinking. For their marriage, siblings, dogs, and their health and safety. Taking them as far back as to their very first drinking/drunk experience 40 years prior which was not a good memory. Then to present day. And what their future would be like, look like if they kept on drinking as is.
I wrote a touching letter by hand, several pages, pouring out my heart as to why this person needed to be made aware of what they had thought no one else could see. I mailed it with a stamp through the postal service to this person. When the recipient read it they cryed out loud and vowed to have more respect for themself, because they now realized that they mattered to so many other people.
That person was me.16 -
So I started the 30 day alcohol experiment (thanks @pramason38 for the suggestion). At this point I don't want to drink until after the road trip, May 6th. This is going to be tough especially with everything that's going on and now I have to move right before the road trip! I'm trying to imagine what Friday nights will be like at my sister's house without drinking. All I can imagine is bringing a bottle of kombucha, leaving earlier and going to bed earlier. Well. That would be good! I know my sister will say something like, why don't you just have 2 or 3 beers? Because I know that won't happen! It never does. And Saturday nights, my sometimes boredom drinking night. I'm going to have to make up a list of stuff I can do to distract myself.
If I do make it the entire 30 days without drinking, that will take me to April 19th which is the day before I go to a concert out of town. I guess a few beers just that night wouldn't hurt. I'm not sure yet. I'm trying to set goals but not be too unrealistic about them. This is "Day 1" of my alcohol experiment but I haven't had anything to drink since I knocked over my last beer this past Friday. We'll see how this goes!7 -
@MissMay What a touching share. And you had the idea and courage to do that. Thank you for sharing. It gives hope and encouragement. I just went for a walk outside and had a talk with myself after the "ohhh 3 beers will be ok tonight" thought. I have other things to keep me busy, but old habits are so hard to break, especially when you like the stuff still. I do like my beer, and wine. But this morning I had another reminder....I have to get to the thinking of how much I dislike it. That is how I quit smoking 19 years ago. Thanks for letting me express my thinking. Saying these things here make it real, not just bouncing around in my head. Oh, and please forgive my poor grammer….I know sentences don't begin with And, But...…...but I'm not getting graded am I heehee.
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How to talk to a loved one about their drinking.
https://www.hellosundaymorning.org/2019/01/16/talk-loved-one-drinking2 -
Just stumbled upon this post, no pun intended. I drink way too much for a guy trying to get my BMI below 30. Bloody Marys just slide right down. I hope to draw some support with this bad habit from this group. Thanks12
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Just stumbled upon this post, no pun intended. I drink way too much for a guy trying to get my BMI below 30. Bloody Marys just slide right down. I hope to draw some support with this bad habit from this group. Thanks
I am living proof you can lower your BMI and still drink almost 1/5th a day. last year I lost 30ish pounds during a 7 week challenge. it can be done but its not healthy. I now struggle to reach my calorie goal without having my typical 1000 calories of adult beverages. stick around these forums and learn from people smarter then myself!!! that's what I am doing.9 -
Thanks for posting!
I’m trying to get up the nerve to start...5 -
sheriffbadass wrote: »Thanks for posting!
I’m trying to get up the nerve to start...
@sheriffbadass Welcome! Well done for speaking up. I learned that talking about what I wanted to do was a huge step. It's amazing what people can share if they hear what's on your mind.
You may have just done the hardest part!
Read the opening post of the thread for all sorts of tips. I'm sure you'll find something to suit where your thoughts are at at pretty much any stage you might be going through.2 -
March accountability ~19 days so far
No Alcohol: 10 days
Alcohol: 9 days (15 drinks)
Goal: AF days 4 per week / 16 per month
You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine. - John C. MaxwellIncluding the last few days of February to monitor my weekly goal which I missed this time around.Challenging week ahead. NYC 3 nights & fishing camp 3 nights.
Feb 25 - AF
Feb 26 - 2 glasses of wine
Feb 27 - AF
Feb 28 - AF - @ fishing camp for long weekend which is always a challenge!
Mar 1 - 2 glasses of wine
Mar 2 - 2 glasses of wine
Mar 3 - 2 glasses of wine - driving this evening 5 hrs but then unexpected dinner at my sisters afterwards for spaghetti & wine
It was a rough week of challenges but managed to pull together 4 of 7 days AF!
Mar 4 - 2 glasses of wine - DH picked up a bottle for dinner
Mar 5 - AF: Don’t order alcohol on plane even though you have free drink tickets! DH did but I ordered bloody mary mix instead. Then at dinner after we landed I drank water while he had wine.
Mar 6 - 2 glasses of Albariño (white spanish wine). San Francisco: One glass at each restaurant we explored (Hog Island Oyster Co & Coqueta 5 Spanish tapas) and NO nightcap back at the hotel!
Mar 7 - 1 beer - DH's sales rep had a beer waiting for me when I joined them after I strolled through the San Fran MOMA for 4 hours. No will power to turn it away when sitting in 3rd Street Tap Room.
DH & I made a pact no alcohol for the rest of Lent which will commence for us Friday! This will be very challenging for the both of us.
Mar 8 - AF
Mar 9 - AF
Mar 10 - AF
Easier this week ... fewer challenges and 5 of 7 days AF as a result.
Mar 11 - AF
Mar 12 - 2 glasses of wine - alumnae meeting
Mar 13 - AF
Mar 14 - AF
Mar 15 - AF
Mar 16 - 1 beer - Texas Street Grill after hiking
Mar 17 - AF
Mar 18 - AF - Book Club
Mar 19 - 1 glass wine @ dinner NYC (none on plane!)
Mar 20 - NYC
Mar 21 - NYC
Mar 22 - @ camp
Mar 23 - @ camp
Mar 24 - @ camp5 -
today’s plan. Don't buy a bottle.
3/7 – well its been 34 hours without my whiskey.
3/8 – 58 hours AF
3/9 – AF
3/10 – 1/5th whiskey
3/11 - AF
3/12 - AF
3/13 – AF
3/14 – AF
3/15 – AF
3/16 – AF – 6 full days. Mission accomplished. If I chose to drink tomorrow, I am okay with it
3/17 – I plan on having drinks today after grocery shopping!
3/18 – well yesterday was un-productive. Oh well I guess I have all week to get things done. Back to the plan!!!
3/19 – AF – cravings are kinds going away but I did get my fix on Sunday.
3/20 – AF again yesterday. Checked BP last night and I am spiking again. Probably from drinking on Sunday and going through withdrawal again.
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I've always been a one day a week drinker with my husband, and two or three glasses of wine. My last drink was on March 2nd and it was a shot of whiskey, enough to get buzzed off of and wanting more. But I'm so proud of myself for stopping myself there and for not drinking these past couple of weeks. My goal is not complete sobriety; it's just less alcohol. I designated this upcoming Saturday as a drink day but I'm going to try not to. Trust me, I fantasize a drink in my head quite often.
I bought a nice bottle of blueberry wine from a local winery and I think I'll buy peach wine soon and hold on to them until my dad visits in June and I can share with him. I've never tried these fruit wines. I think that's a really incentive!7 -
Happy first day of Spring Everyone!! We know what that means...…..more outdoor bar-b-ques, outdoor activities and what normally accommodates those events...….alcohol......so this group of people on this thread are so important to Less Alcohol for me, and I bet you too @oldcat1 and @sheriffbadass (love your name by the way!). I am so new at this, but I sure found HUGE support after my first posting here. I FINALLY found someplace where I could be honest without shame. Welcome aboard and please get to know us
Yesterday...…...Went for that fourth beer. Gave it some serious thought and went anyways. Should have grabbed a glass of ginger tea, but didn't. Tonight I will. I know I was going to stay with 2 beers last night. That wasn't close. Again, working on it for tonight. Last night I strolled around our local department store that is going out of business. Anything to kill time to make it later going home so I would have that first beer later. I want to drink something else first, but haven't figured it out yet. That garage fridge is the first thing I think of and my eyes look at when I pull in after work. Maybe I need to put some flavored waters, or something else in there?? Huh...what a thought!! Ok, that's my next plan of action.
Have a great day everyone!
Teri6 -
Bad sleep last night, (and I was AF yesterday), and kind of crabby all day because I’m irritated with my kids.
I really wanted wine tonight, but stopped myself to figure out what it was I was really searching for. Turns out it was to eat a satisfying meal instead of grabbing a handful of nuts and a banana as I bolt out the door to my appointments. So I had a good meal when I got home and feel much better, and no longer crabby! And no wine!9
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